Sometime, people don’t recognize the “help” they get. They may think “help” is a detriment-—but when you look back at events and reflect-—you find that some of the most horrific things that happened in your life, led to the most wonderful things.
Pain and hardship leads to the greatest spiritual growth and most Knowledge.
People who have gone on to do great things never had an “easy” life. They had to learn Fortitude in childhood and you only do that when you face adversity. Fortitude is a Virtue. Virtue is taught and habituated. Being grateful for what you have is major. You are always better off than someone.
Sometimes expectations are really messed up. Life is hard and just a short journey but everyone has a cross to bear....it is the afterlife which is the utopia.
Love and trust God. Then you will have pure joy and everything else falls in order and you realize how good God is.
I have a lot of experience with this very thing.
The things I thought were wonderful, nearly killed me. The things I thought were horrific, made my life so much better and meaningful.
Case in point: For many decades I was an active crack user. Somewhere along the way I got Recovery. In the process of recovering, I learned that my addiction was only a symptom of my problem -- and that problem was a spiritual sickness, a self-centeredness and self-seeking that defied all measure.
I worked on my spiritual condition, because to not do so was to return to addiction and to eventually die before my purpose had been realized... and to die in misery and pain.
Instead, by working my spiritual condition, I became other-directed, and interested in making a difference. I am a much more spiritually-fit person, and a person who actually has self-esteem, because I now do esteemable things.
The worst thing that could ever happen to me, became the impetus for a journey of great beauty.
I have NO CLUE what is good and what is bad for me, obviously. So, I try not to ask God for things to go a certain way. Instead, I try to stay focused on only asking for knowledge of His will for me and the power to carry that out.