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He Said, She Said: Dating Habits of Silicon Valley Millionaires
SF Weekly ^ | Mon., Dec. 9 2013 | Jonathan Ramos

Posted on 12/10/2013 1:40:36 PM PST by nickcarraway

Have no shame, gold diggers! Eligible millionaires in Silicon Valley love you just the way you are.

A recent study from MillionaireMatch.com found that millionaire men in Silicon Valley, 82.6 percent to be exact, are most likely to seek out non-millionaire women. And get this, only 16.2 percent would insist on a prenuptial agreement.

Millionaire women, however, are quite the opposite and 86.7 percent of them prefer to date other millionaires. And 92.4 percent insist on the union between prenups and dry ink.

According to the study, a random sample of 524 millionaires in the area, there's plenty of "new money" to be found in Silicon Valley between the ages of 29 and 40.

Darren Shuster, marketing manager for Matchamaker.com, has a theory: wealthy men "want to share their wealth with the less fortunate."

Apparently to marry a non-millionaire means to be charitable. The more popular responses from men polled had to do with dating "somebody who appreciates things" and not dating "bossy, middle-aged women who can take care of themselves."

In the on-going battle of the sexists, that's one point for the fellas.

For women it's a matter of "not carrying the whole financial burden," according to a female member worth $100 million. (What financial burden is she referring to when one member of the couple is worth $100 million?) Must be tough when one decides love does cost a thing.


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1 posted on 12/10/2013 1:40:36 PM PST by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

Unfortunately prenups are a necessity in today’s world. You have no idea if someone’s personality is going to change and they’ve been playing you all that time, to then become a person that’s unliveable with, just to get half your stuff.

I think it’s protection against it and if you never have to use it, count yourself lucky and thank God for a truly good spouse.


2 posted on 12/10/2013 1:43:44 PM PST by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: nickcarraway

Millionaire men are more trusting than millionaire women. I suspect the reason is that millionaire women tend to project their negative traits onto others.

Incoming!


3 posted on 12/10/2013 1:44:31 PM PST by MIchaelTArchangel (Have a wonderful day!)
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To: nickcarraway

Another data point for the massive amount of evidence Glenn Reynolds at Instapundit collects regarding women practicing hypergamy.


4 posted on 12/10/2013 1:44:38 PM PST by C19fan
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To: nickcarraway
In the words of AC/DC

"C'mon C'mon love me for the money. C'mon C'mon listen to the money talk!"

5 posted on 12/10/2013 1:46:06 PM PST by Darren McCarty (Abortion - legalized murder for convenience)
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To: nickcarraway

Not surprising.

As a become financially very successful, I was suddenly sexy.

Women value money more than most things.


6 posted on 12/10/2013 1:46:50 PM PST by Jewbacca (The residents of Iroquois territory may not determine whether Jews may live in Jerusalem.)
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To: MIchaelTArchangel

Was married to a millionaire lady, I needed a prenup to protect me and her from her kids. You don’t know this stuff till it’s to late. Never will I marry any woman with kids no how old the kids are they are her chillrun.


7 posted on 12/10/2013 1:49:37 PM PST by Foundahardheadedwoman (God don't have a statute of limitations)
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To: Secret Agent Man
Unfortunately prenups are a necessity in today’s world.

Not my world, hopefully not my children's.

8 posted on 12/10/2013 1:50:42 PM PST by thackney (life is fragile, handle with prayer)
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To: nickcarraway

This article reminds me of the Baroness’ line from The Sound of Music (movie). “I must have a man who needs me, or at least needs my money.”


9 posted on 12/10/2013 1:50:44 PM PST by Dr. Sivana (There's no salvation in politics.)
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To: nickcarraway

Many of these Silicon geeks could not get a date without money. I think there was a study done in some women’s magazine that ranked the “sexiness” of men and their professions. The military and construction workers were high on the list. Accountants and computer programmers were on the bottom. No doubt money changes that perception for many women.


10 posted on 12/10/2013 1:51:46 PM PST by 3Fingas (Sons and Daughters for Freedom and Rededicaton to the Principles of the U.S. Constitution...)
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To: Jewbacca

11 posted on 12/10/2013 1:53:35 PM PST by dfwgator
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To: null and void

Fun thread!


12 posted on 12/10/2013 1:54:06 PM PST by Black Agnes
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To: C19fan

Men go for looks, women for resources/accomplishments.

Makes a lot of sense in that hypogamy puts women in the uncomfortable situation whereby the greater their success, the more diminishing it somehow is or feels to a husband of lesser success.

Let alone, of course, women’s relative need for a provider spouse if she’s going to raise children.

The high interest in prenups from female millionaires is interesting, and IMO could be explained by small sample size and/or their planning to mate with rich men, who presumably would have a mutual interest in such an arrangement.


13 posted on 12/10/2013 1:54:47 PM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: 3Fingas

Money is a major factor in sexiness, for women, at least.


14 posted on 12/10/2013 1:55:40 PM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: nickcarraway

A few thoughts:
1. Men don’t care how much money a woman has but only how hot she looks, and most women that are millionaires are not that hot.
2. Prenuptials are not worth the paper they are printed on, if you’re a man the family courts will financially rape you no matter what legal hoops you’ve jumped through to protect yourself. Still worth a try but don’t count on it working.
3. Most of these Silicon Valley Millionaires are nerds that made it big (like the CEO of Facebook) and have no real experience with women and so will most likely get taken to the cleaners by the gold diggers trolling for them.
4. For women status matters so no surprise that they do not want to “marry down” no matter how hot the guy is. For these women a life with many cats is in thier future.


15 posted on 12/10/2013 2:00:12 PM PST by trapped_in_LA
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To: nickcarraway

And I beleive my wife is getting a nice raise starting next year . . .


16 posted on 12/10/2013 2:01:26 PM PST by ▀udda▀udd (>> F U B O << "What the hell kind of country is this if I can only hate a man if he's white?")
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To: nickcarraway

Let’s face it. Women who have the drive to become millionaire’s, for the most part, are unnattractive. They know what is going on.


17 posted on 12/10/2013 2:02:35 PM PST by Organic Panic
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To: 9YearLurker

I think that is especially true of older woman.

Many younger women still have this “bad boy” phase they have to go through. Many of these bad boys have little to no money at all.


18 posted on 12/10/2013 2:04:52 PM PST by 3Fingas (Sons and Daughters for Freedom and Rededicaton to the Principles of the U.S. Constitution...)
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To: 3Fingas

Yes.


19 posted on 12/10/2013 2:06:57 PM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: nickcarraway

As I taught my kids... Marry someone for money and you’ll earn every penny.


20 posted on 12/10/2013 2:07:49 PM PST by aMorePerfectUnion (I grew up in America. I now live in the United States..)
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To: 9YearLurker

I’m wondering if some of these millionaire ladies inherited their money and don’t feel they could make more. However, I think in a divorce inherited money is not counted.


21 posted on 12/10/2013 2:08:37 PM PST by ladyjane
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To: trapped_in_LA
For women status matters so no surprise that they do not want to “marry down” no matter how hot the guy is.

Good grief. Hot would be one of the last things I'd look for.

22 posted on 12/10/2013 2:11:24 PM PST by ladyjane
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To: trapped_in_LA

+1 to point 1 - “Arm candy” and “trophy wives” come to mind.

Lulz for point 4 and the many cats in their future.


23 posted on 12/10/2013 2:11:28 PM PST by 3Fingas (Sons and Daughters for Freedom and Rededicaton to the Principles of the U.S. Constitution...)
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To: MIchaelTArchangel

Hmmm, “...more trusting...” is probably the most charitable of all possible theories.


24 posted on 12/10/2013 2:12:29 PM PST by Darteaus94025 (Can't have a Liberal without a Lie)
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To: 9YearLurker

“Men go for looks, women for resources/accomplishments.”

And can you think of a smarter biological strategy?


25 posted on 12/10/2013 2:13:58 PM PST by Darteaus94025 (Can't have a Liberal without a Lie)
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To: aMorePerfectUnion

“Marry someone for money and you’ll earn every penny.”

G1!


26 posted on 12/10/2013 2:15:07 PM PST by Darteaus94025 (Can't have a Liberal without a Lie)
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To: Darteaus94025

In the modern world, men would probably be better off going for accomplishments as well—more fit genes for their offspring to compete in the modern world.


27 posted on 12/10/2013 2:18:17 PM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: 9YearLurker

Yeah it’s almost like prostitution.


28 posted on 12/10/2013 2:23:58 PM PST by freedomfiter2 (Brutal acts of commission and yawning acts of omission both strengthen the hand of the devil.)
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To: 3Fingas

In Las Vegas, it’s the older guy with his niece.
In Palm Springs, it’s the older lady with her nephew....


29 posted on 12/10/2013 2:24:35 PM PST by OregonRancher (Some days, it's not even worth chewing through the restraints)
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To: nickcarraway

When asked if golf was a good way to get rich, Lee Trevino famously replied: “I don’t know. Ask my ex-wives.”


30 posted on 12/10/2013 2:26:39 PM PST by Taxman (So that the beautiful pressure does not diminish!)
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To: nickcarraway
gold digger photo: True Love lucky-fat-man.jpg
31 posted on 12/10/2013 2:31:37 PM PST by Snickering Hound
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To: nickcarraway

It’s funny you know. I have several wealthy friends who use Millionaire and J-Date. The men’s motivation and women’s are completely different.

The men, for the most part, are dating for fun and if a relationship develops si be it.

They are, however, leery of any woman who would join these sites for rather obvious reasons.

The women, on the other hand, use these sites in hopes of landing a lifetime supply of someone they can manipulate and provide a lifestyle they are accustomed to or desire to achieve by merely being married

In fact, I have two friends who are living in hell as the wenches have oiled themselves.

I think one recently started a broom factory.

Now, I ask you : “What is the difference between those women and Heidi Fleiss employees?


32 posted on 12/10/2013 2:33:42 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: nickcarraway
For women it's a matter of "not carrying the whole financial burden," according to a female member worth $100 million. (What financial burden is she referring to when one member of the couple is worth $100 million?) Must be tough when one decides love does cost a thing.

Or it could be the female tendency to view finances as "what's mine is mine, and what's yours is ours".

33 posted on 12/10/2013 2:34:19 PM PST by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: freedomfiter2

What, you mean men only interested in women for their looks?


34 posted on 12/10/2013 2:36:27 PM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: Secret Agent Man

If I were ever to marry you can be sure I’d have a pre-nut.

You have idea of the medications they currently take will be effective in suppressing their desire to go full “Happy Mode”.


35 posted on 12/10/2013 2:36:29 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: Darren McCarty

Hell’s Bells!


36 posted on 12/10/2013 2:37:44 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: Vendome
Now, I ask you : “What is the difference between those women and Heidi Fleiss employees?

There are points when you might consider the advantages of leasing.

37 posted on 12/10/2013 2:38:14 PM PST by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: 3Fingas

“Many younger women still have this “bad boy” phase they have to go through. Many of these bad boys have little to no money at all.”

I know of several women in their 30’s who married working class rock musician types who were 15-20 years older. The woman is the bread winner and the marriages seem to be fine and have been for several years.


38 posted on 12/10/2013 2:39:23 PM PST by Rebelbase (Tagline: optional, printed after your name on post)
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To: dfwgator

That’s sumb Azz !! Right there...


39 posted on 12/10/2013 2:39:42 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: MIchaelTArchangel

“Millionaire men are more trusting than millionaire women. I suspect the reason is that millionaire women tend to project their negative traits onto others.”

My ex MIL is the type who sends restaurant food back every time with one complaint or another and complains about any service industry person who is unfortunate to cross her path. I’d had to think of the Japanese sci-fi radiation mutant she’d become if she came into wealth.


40 posted on 12/10/2013 2:44:15 PM PST by Rebelbase (Tagline: optional, printed after your name on post)
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To: PapaBear3625; nickcarraway

More like:

“I’ve got my own money,
....................I wanna spend yours”


41 posted on 12/10/2013 2:44:26 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: Vendome

Oops!

That should read “Full on Harpy Mode”


42 posted on 12/10/2013 2:45:20 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: Vendome

I was going to ping you to this thread...


43 posted on 12/10/2013 2:48:03 PM PST by null and void (I'm betting on an Obama Trifecta: A Nobel Peace Prize, an Impeachment, AND a War Crimes Trial...)
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To: Rebelbase

You can always find success stories. Those are good to hear.
My take on musicians, in general, they are fun people to be around, but are usually not very stable. Lots of ups and downs and drama. I know a guy who would never get a date if he could not play a guitar as well as does. The guitar is his social ice-breaker. Whatever works, more power to him.


44 posted on 12/10/2013 2:52:14 PM PST by 3Fingas (Sons and Daughters for Freedom and Rededicaton to the Principles of the U.S. Constitution...)
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To: nickcarraway

Anyone who’s ever been broke and then come into money will tell you that - suddenly - he’s extremely popular with the ladies.

Like it or not, money attracts women like flies to roadkill in July.


45 posted on 12/10/2013 4:36:22 PM PST by Jack Hammer
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To: thackney

for those with a lot of wealth and assets they are.


46 posted on 12/10/2013 6:14:27 PM PST by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: OregonRancher
In Palm Springs, it’s the older lady with her nephew...

In Palm Springs, it’s the older guy with his nephew... :)

47 posted on 12/10/2013 6:20:23 PM PST by Mr. Jeeves (CTRL-GALT-DELETE)
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To: Vendome
What is the difference between those women and Heidi Fleiss employees

What is the difference between those men and johns?

48 posted on 12/10/2013 6:39:50 PM PST by ladyjane
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To: 3Fingas

Accountants and computer programmers were on the bottom. No doubt money changes that perception for many women.

________________

Really? I always loved and dated accountants, and all the MiS guys. They were all so stable and logical.


49 posted on 12/10/2013 6:51:12 PM PST by Chickensoup (we didn't love freedom enough... Solzhenitsyn.)
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To: Rebelbase

My ex MIL is the type who sends restaurant food back every time with one complaint or another and complains about any service industry person who is unfortunate to cross her path. I’d had to think of the Japanese sci-fi radiation mutant she’d become if she came into wealth.

______________

How sad. People with substantial wealth and used to it are usually self effacing and polite.


50 posted on 12/10/2013 6:56:22 PM PST by Chickensoup (we didn't love freedom enough... Solzhenitsyn.)
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