Skip to comments.Wife gives her husband's new fiancee an incredible Christmas surprise...2 years after she died
Posted on 12/21/2013 9:13:54 PM PST by rawhide
'I love you whoever you are': Wife gives her husband's new fiancee an incredible Christmas surprise with an emotional seal of approval... two years after she DIED
Brenda Schmitz died of ovarian cancer two years ago. She was a wife and mother to four boys
One month before her death, she wrote a letter to be sent to a local radio station when her husband fell in love again
For the past 20 years KSTZ has been granting listeners wishes, and Schmitz was a fan of holiday program
The letter asks for her husband David's new fiancee to be treated to a spa day
She also asks for a vacation for her family and a special dinner for her nurses and doctors
The station decided to grant all three wishes, starting with a Disney World vacation for the Schmitz family
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
I have a wish for David and the boys and the woman and her family if she has kids also, she wrote. I want them to know I love them very much and they always feel safe in a world of pain. David and Brenda had four sons: Carter, Josh, Justin and Max.
Station officials told David Schmitz on Thursday that they were granting a Christmas Wish for him. But he didnt know about Brendas letter until he was in the studio and on the air hearing host Colleen Kelly read his wifes words.
(excerpt from the article above)
Ok, am I the only one who thinks this is just a bit creepy? Have I become Ebenezer Scrooge?
Now my screen is all blurry . . .
It kinda is.
Nah,,you’re not Ebenezer. Maybe just looking at it from a different direction.
Myself, I would love and appreciate someone who would be the caretaker of my family if I would have to leave. And wish them happiness.
Nope, I agree. Let others move on...
What a wonderful story....
I lost my wife last July.... and after reading that, I can’t stop crying .... again !! God Bless Her !!!!
I knew a guy who’s wife was dying of cancer several years ago. While she was still able, she insisted that they take dance lessons together because she wanted him to be able to go dancing so that he might meet another lady and eventually remarry.
That is true love.
Brenda’s full letter found at this kink:
Condolences to you. Truly tragic when men lose their women. Shouldn’t have to be like that, but the Lord will provide. This life is merely a blink in the eye of eternity.
Ok, I get that one. Not creepy.
Yes. Creepy, even if the intentions were genuine
May the good Lord be with you, FRiend.
The first holidays are the worst. Believe me...it gets better.
Eh... I think it’s a wonderful story of a woman that really loved this guy and truly wanted him to be happy. She got her turn with him during her life and she’s endorsing his new chapter in life.
How many of us can relate, even without having to die, to see someone we genuinely love go on to have a happy life?
It’s a sweet thing for her to do, but yes, it does smack of a very presumptive, over controling type of individual. Emotional manipulation from the grave! Was the ‘friend’ spying on his dating efforts? Maybe deciding not to give the letter to the first few girlfriends? Some women would want nothing to do with any arrangement made by the former wife, most especially, a deceased former wife, that she will always be compared to.
Luckily, it seems to have worked out. She was as bossy as she was loving, and for some men, that suits them just fine.
Bless you! My wife is still with me and I treasure her everyday. I cannot even think of life without her without getting misty. I pray the Lord comforts you in your sorrow and brings you to joy!
There was a pretty good movie on this subject awhile ago. It’s no good to see it now that you know the surprise ending.
“Safe Haven” is a 2013 American romance film starring Julianne Hough, Josh Duhamel and Cobie Smulders. It was released theatrically in North America on February 14, 2013. The film was directed by Lasse Hallström, and is an adaptation of Nicholas Sparks’s novel of the same name.
Rare wonderful woman. A real woman. Merry Christmas!
“emotional manipulation from the grave.”
I choose to not believe this but it is an interesting theory. The lady present is also the caretaker of the deceased wife’s children. She will always be their mother...dead or alive. They will always love her as their mom.
By endorsing the new relationship...she releases them to love their new mom with no guilt of feeling that they are betraying her.
Assuming that she and the dad were truly in love...it releases him as well. Very often, loyalty is difficult to let go of.
That’s the best way to see this. I wish them all well. Every close, well run family means a few more stable minded people in society, and many of these people will be capable of compassion for others.
You are wise.
I thought it was disturbing.
Christ...you must be a real bundle of joy to be around...
I got something in my eye here...
She had lots of time to think while she was dying and all her thoughts were of her loved ones.
Of course some people don’t get it. And never will.
P.S. I Love You covers it from the male passing on.
What you describe could be a potential motivation, but isn’t it presumptive to ascribe motivations to someone you never knew?
More likely, if there was a selfish motivation, it’s simply that she didn’t want to be forgotten.
I would be more worried about the person who carried out the “sending of the letter”!
My sister in law passed away from pancreatic cancer 5 years ago this coming New Years Eve. She left behind two boys, aged 12 and 9. My brother in law went into a long, deep spiral down after she passed. It was horrible. Affected both of his sons terribly. It's been a real struggle to support them emotionally the last few years.
Last year brother in law met a wonderful woman who brought him out of that spiral and he's turned his life around. The boys (now 17 and 12) seem to be happier too. We hope he re-marries and I'm sure my now deceased sister in law would want him to.
Anyone who loves someone with a full heart would certainly hope that should they die, their spouse would find love again.
I look at it this way: we poor men are lucky enough to find a good woman once. Surely the Lord has taken favor upon us should love come into our lives a second time.
Don't know you well enough to call you a Scrooge, but you and I both know the world is a really messed up place sometimes. Certainly a jaded eye when reading these things is often called for.
If you read the post I wrote above, my Sister in Law passed away 5 years ago this New Years Eve leaving two sons (12 and 10) behind. As I read this letter, I'd swear it's something she could've written. She loved my brother in law (my wife's brother...) and their two sons enough to hope and pray that someday he'd find another wife and love her as much as they did each other.
IMO that's true love. Loving someone enough to want them to go on and find love again.
Shit, now my screen's getting blurry remembering...
A lady in my church died of cancer recently, in her early 40s, leaving her husband and two children. She told me that her husband had proposed getting a tattoo with her name, and she told him, “Don’t be an idiot! How is that going to look it you meet someone else after I die?”
I can understand why you would feel that way - but I think this lady was just a "big picture" thinker and able to think waaay outside of herself - thank God for them.
Please accept my condolences and prayers on your wife’s passing. I lost my wife 14 years ago after a 10 year battle with cancer. In the last month of her life one of the biggest concerns was for me. So to me it is a wonderful story. One that I understand.
I have since remarried. I hear my first wife’s advice and counsel in dealing with my current relationship.
Again my prayers for you I know how hard the first year is.
The husband, kids and new wife are all going to realize what a wonderful and unselfish woman she was, if they had any doubts.
So would this be just a one time thing.....a visit to a day spa for the new wife? Or will the dead wife fly back into their lives every so often.
I guess it could be considered a form of “pay it forward” by the dead person since there is now way anyone can “pay it back.” Still seems creepy to me.
So would this be just a one time thing.....a visit to a day spa for the new wife? Or will the dead wife fly back into their lives every so often?
I guess it could be considered the ultimate form of pay it forward by the dead person since there is no way anyone can pay it back.
Still seems creepy to me.
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