Skip to comments.Christiís Story: Sexually Abusive Boyfriend Forced Her to Get Seven Abortions
Posted on 02/26/2014 9:31:25 AM PST by Morgana
Christi remembers the day like it was yesterday: I was 17 when I got pregnant. I was so scared. I went to my moms friend, and she said, Well, you definitely dont want to tell your mom because your parents have such big dreams for you. So she took me to a clinic.
For the next several years, despite her successful career and seemingly committed relationship with her boyfriend, Christi found herself in a vicious cycle of abuse and exploitation. He abused me. He told me if I didnt get abortions, he would leave me. I never stood up for myself. Feeling like she had nowhere else to turnnot even the church where she actively worshippedChristi ended up having six more abortions.
I was 17 the first time I got pregnant. I was so scared. I went to my moms friend, and she said, Well, you definitely dont want to tell your mom because your parents have such big dreams for you. So she took me to a clinic.
onlineforlife2I remember it being cold. No one really spoke or looked anyone else in the eye. I blocked it out of my mind for years after I left there.
Later, I worked for a really good company, lived in a perfect neighborhood, and made a lot of money. Everyone thought I had the perfect relationship too. But I didnt. He abused me. He told me if I didnt get abortions, he would leave me. I never stood up for myself. In the end I had seven abortions.
It all came back to me one day when I was at the grocery store. I saw a woman with a little girlthis girl was like an angel. When I looked at her, she stared back at me like she knew exactly what Id done. I started having flashbacks as I thought about how she could have been my little girl. I finally realized the empty feeling Id been living with all those years.
I drove to my parents house, sat them down, and told them what I had done. My dad asked, Did you ever think to talk to us before you did these things?
I said, No. I didnt want you to be disappointed.
He said, Im disappointed I dont have a grandson.
Today, I have been forgiven, but the pain will never go away. I volunteer for pro-life organizations so I can share my story with the hope that it will save a childs life.
Stories like Christis are repeated every day within the black community. In fact, according to a 2008 annual abortions report by Guttmacher.org, 1,200 African-American babies are aborted every single day in America. While African-Americans make up 12 percent of the population, over 30 percent of all abortions occur within the African-American community. Abortion in the African-American community is not just a problem its an epidemic. And its crushing urban communities both morally and spiritually.
One black leader who is concerned about the abortion epidemic in his community is Reverend Dean Nelson, a pastor, grassroots activist, and the vice chairman of the Frederick Douglass Foundation. Recently he sat down with Online for Lifes President Brian Fisher for an interview (listen here), during which he drew heavily on his knowledge of slavery and the civil rights struggle, to explain the impact that abortion is having on the African-American community.
To me the comparison of a slave who had no rights and was subject to the will of someone more powerful is similar to the idea of a helpless child in the womb that we would not affirm all his rights, Nelson laments.
Nelson pointed to the dichotomy between the personal pro-life convictions of the African-American population, and the overall acceptance of abortion within their community.
While nearly 60 percent of African Americans claim to be pro-life, most are not for completely limiting abortion, he observed. Many have participated in abortion in some way, shape, or form. They see it as a bad decision, but many are concerned that there are no other options.
Fisher and Nelson encouraged members of the African-American community to become more integrated into the pro-life movement, so that young women like Christi wont feel coerced into aborting children they truly want.
It begins by extending grace and forgiveness to those who have fallen prey to the abortion industry, explained Fisher. Through his work at Online for Life, he said, hes seen firsthand the devastation that abortion wreaks on the urban community. And then it progresses to educating and training pastors and lay leaders to skillfully bring up this discussion with grace and compassion within their churches.
The trick, said Fisher and Nelson, is to find ways to communicate that abortion is a moral and spiritual issue, not a political football to be tossed back and forth by legislators.
According to Nelson, We need to model out a commitment to morality in the black church so that the issue of abortion becomes a second thought.
This podcast is the second installment in the Online for Life podcast series, which launched last month. Designed to primarily explore the moral, ethical, spiritual, and societal drivers and implications of abortion, the podcast provides a deeper look into abortion and the impact its had on individuals, families, and communities.
This months interview with Reverend Nelson, which coincides with National Black History Month, touches on a topic that few organizations are willing to address.
We want to move beyond the partisanship and really talk about the moral and spiritual issues surrounding abortion, says Fisher, who serves as host of the semimonthly podcast. This sometimes results in touching on sensitive topics. But if we have any hope of ending abortion in America, then these delicate issues must be brought out into the open.
Last month, the debut podcast featured an interview with Online for Life Vice President Jeff Bradford, a post-abortive father of four. Bradford shared about the impact that abortion has had on his marriage and family, and how through forgiveness and redemption he is now a laborer in the cause for life. (You can listen to this eye-opening interview here.)
7 abortions later. Still his fault. Uh huh. Sure it is.
This is how the “pro-choice” movement works. They’re not really for “choice”, they’re for the most abortions possible. In fact, declining teen pregnancy disturbs them because it means fewer abortions.
The excuses seem to be a little stretched don't they?
"I just kept burying migrant workers under my barn because my big bad cousin said he'd beat me up if I didn't!"
could she not have just said NO to him and not have sex with him any more ???
I am sure she has no regrets about all the sex. Its that little thing called responsibility for your actions she seems to have a problem with.
1 abortion, maybe I could see it was forced. But, not 7.
Not in America, maybe a muslim country. It’s just not an acceptable excuse even for 1 here.
Seems like after a couple, she’d have realized what causes pregnancy.....:o)
Too bad she didn’t have Obamacare. She could have gotten free birth control. /sarc
There is an ironic corollary in this story regarding how the black community stays with the democrat party. They support and vote with them, then get nothing but platitudes in return ...but keep coming back for more because they are afraid to step out on their own.
This story smells kind of fake. Why wouldn’t the girl get birth control? C’mon, seven abortions? If that’s for real then she’s just stupid and no law from the left or the right is going to fix that.
Yup. She was a hateful loon as are most Progressives.
It's an even bigger pity you didn't stand up for the baby. You (Christie) obviously still don't "get it."
She was an admirer of Hitler.
I doubt the term “Blacks” was in use in 1922. If it was it would be banned today.
Indeed she vas...undt she did not like ze feelthy chews One bit!
Not a scientific observation, but those of us who actually know women who have had an abortion: How many have NOT had breast cancer? I know 17 women who HAVE had abortions and every one of them have had mastectomy surgery or two. Je’s askin’.
They fail to read the whole article yet they still post.
Wonder why that is ....
I once worked with a guy in the air force who was bragging his girlfriend was getting an abortion. He said it was the 10th abortion for him with a number of women. He was about 23 yrs old.
Once again removing the personal resposibility, this time to murder of thier own flesh and blood.