Skip to comments.Feminists Outraged Over New Book by ‘Princeton Mom’
Posted on 03/22/2014 8:48:53 AM PDT by servo1969
Susan Patton, aka The Princeton Mom has finally released her book, Marry Smart, based on the controversial letter she published last year in The Daily Princetonian, which advised young women to focus on finding a husband while in college.
Liberal feminists hate the book. I mean, they just hate it.
Which makes me want to read it, actually.
Anyway, Patton generates so much wrath because she points out one of the big lies behind modern feminism. The lie is this: that to be successful and happy you need to focus on your career and not marriage or children throughout your twenties and early thirties. In other words, the lie is that you can delay, and delay, and delay and still have it all.
Susan Patton has news for youthe biological clock is not a fiction cooked up by the conspiratorial patriarchy. Its a reality.
In fact, if you are a woman and havent started having children by the time you are 35you are very unlikely to have a successful pregnancy without serious medical interventionIVF, surrogate pregnancy, etcand the risk of birth defects increases dramatically as a woman approaches 40.
Those facts often come as quite a surprise to talented, highly-educated womenthe kind of women who go to Princeton. Theyve been led to believe that they wont have to sacrifice anything in the way of their professional careers in order to also be a wife and a mother. Just Lean In a little harder and it can all be yours.
Well, theres no law that says any young woman should have to want to be a wife or a mother. But if a young woman does want such things, especially, the mother thing, it does require sacrifice on the career front.
Not fair? Well, maybe not. But men arent born with wombsso there you go. And men will never, on average, be as interested in or as willing to do the work of childcare. They just wont.
Its called gender difference. Its real, its biological, and its not a social construct, regardless of what your freshman year womens studies professor might have told you.
Pattons argument, as I understand it, has less to do with the motherhood issue, and more to do with the wife issue. She advises young women who want husbands to stop drinking so much and hanging out in bars and stop having sex with men who arent committed.
She advises them to treat their hunt for a husband as they would a hunt for a great jobwith intention and planning. She advises them to dress well and put on makeup. Close their legs. If you offer men sex without commitment, you eliminate the incentive for them to commit, she says, plainly.
Sound old fashioned to you? If so, you may be well on your way to being single, middle-aged, and childlessno matter how smart or attractive, or worthy you are. Has nothing to do with those things. The fact is, the average man these days isnt exactly rushing into marriage. The average age of first marriage for both sexes continues to climb every year. Meanwhile, the pool of marriageable men diminishes as a woman ages. Its just simple math. So if a smart young woman wants to get marriedwhy wouldnt Pattons advice make sense?
The fact that Pattons advice doesnt mesh with the feminist narratives of put-your-career-first and you-dont-need-a-husband, doesnt make her advice wrong for those women to whom marriage is a goal and top priority.
In truth, young men would do well to heed most of her advice as wellexcept for the part about wearing makeup.
Its all a matter of what you want. No one says you have to want marriage. But if you are a young woman and you do want to get married, then you ignore her advice at your own peril.
Redundant - See 'Redundant'
Feminists need to deal with it.
Marriage, family, children. All anathema to leftists.
That Kids by 35 thing just isn’t true. I know plenty of woman who had kids in their late 30s and early 40s with no issues.
There offended because as feminists they believe that women don’t need a man. They just need big government to take from everybody else’s man and give it to them.
It’s remarkable what “..... Envy” has degenerated into...
“Feminism was established so as to allow unattractive women access to the mainstream of society” - Rush Limbaugh Undeniable Truth of Life #24
“The lie is this: that to be successful and happy you need to focus on your career and not marriage or children throughout your twenties and early thirties.”
Feminists believe that Mad Med is real; that women were slaving away at home while men were off having a big party in their careers. That big party is always just one more glass ceiling away. Nobody bothered to tell the girls that work quite often sucks. Careers are not always exciting or rewarding like on television.
Mad Men, not Med. Stupid fingers.
The other half of the equation I rarely see - young men need to be taught responsibility.
Even at my children’s “good” suburban high school, girls are often “bitchez,” and no one is teaching boys the meaning of respect or self-control. America’s ghettoized culture is allowed to flood society, such that everyone is forced to swim in it.
It most certainly is true, statistically speaking.
If an individual wants a certain effect,it is his or her responsibility to discover and enact the necessary cause.Substituting wishing and waiting for planning and doing is irrational.
I’m very happy for them. They beat the odds.
Most of the women I knew in college in the late 70s were working on their MRS degrees. Nothing wrong with that. They were nice girls for the most part and I enjoyed their company.
The women in your photo were not admitted into that program. They were also not invited to any of our social gatherings.
We cheerfully disregarded Limbaugh’s essential truth, and gave them no access.
That's going to be a problem, since the point of feminism is to NOT deal with it, while pretending to be the only one who's dealing with it.
First, one needs to define “success” in their own mind. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Specifically...how do you, as an individual define it...and recognize it when it’s achieved.
Once you have done that, without external input, can you really be happy.
If no one else can see that, who cares?
Personal anecdote isn’t evidence.
There are ample medical and historical data showing the drop in female fertility in relation to age. It is a biological reality that should be acknowledged rather than ignored or swept under the rug with happy talk.
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