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Posted on 03/22/2014 10:32:07 AM PDT by fredhead
I don't how much more I can handle. I pray every day that things will get better, and they just get worse.
Yesterday, for example. It started with a hearing related to my on going divorce. A divorce I never wanted. The judge awarded my wife temporary support in the amount of all money I have after my bills are paid. Prior to that my attorney had his law license revoked, and I have no money to retain another attorney. My credit is wrecked, my family is gone.
And last night, my old dog died in my arms. I am so alone and don't know how much more I can take.
It seems that God has lost track of my soul, that he has forsaken me. All that is left is my work, and I no longer get much joy from the job I love to do. I need encouragement. Any Freeper friends out there?
Prayers on the way.
Don’t know what to tell you. Sometimes you just have to hang on and realize that eventually things will get better.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
Very sorry to hear about your troubles. That’s a boatload. Please hold on! God does not forget us. Some lives are lives of struggle and that is a tough burden to bear, but God’s vision for us is far-sighted and wiser than we can know. He is always good, although that can be hard to understand sometimes. Read the story of Job. As tough as things are, we must hold on to our faith.
I will pray for you.
Be at peace, brother. God is with you. I’m sorry for your trouble and sorrow.
I’m sorry, Fred. You’re in my prayers.
Dark before the light. Things will get better. They always do. So sad about your dog. It’s early but brining in a new dog will help your spirits.
May the Lord heal your wounds and open the door for you to find renew happiness. Amen.
I’m so sorry Fredhead.I am going to start praying for you.Sorry about your dog.Get a little puppy might cheer you up ((((Hugs))))
Prayers for you. But what a blessing you were given, your old pal and friend was allowed to be in your arms with you and you with him when it was his time. A beautiful sign from God, proof that at hard times we are always in our Masters arms.
Stand behind the Lord. Don't sake your fist at the Evil One.
Somebody may have cursed you. Pray for God to remove the curse. Like Job, cling to the Lord. This is what faith is about, turning to God when we are in despair.
It will get better, in time.
Prayers for you to seek and find thoughts, words, and visions that give you hope. Life will get better. Maybe your attorney can help you locate some free or low-cost alternative representation. Consider getting a new puppy soon. He will need you and provide some measure of comfort.
call Legal Aid... they may be able to provide some free legal help to at least get the divorce thing fixed, maybe, its worth a phone call to ask. If not, then call the local county bar association and ask for their “pro bono” clinic or referrals to lawyers who will try to help you in your situation. Or, call local law school and ask if they have a “legal aid clinic” ... students, supervised by professor attorneys, maybe can help, too.
When you feel you can take care of new dog, please do get one! Labradors are particularly friendly, but there are many nice pooches. Why our lives are such that we have to endure death of loved ones, including our pets, is a great mystery to me... but rest assured you are not alone, and that you WILL love a new pooch....
Hang in there, some people really do have it worse today than you and me...and God will give you the strength to endure and deal with these things if you give Him a chance (by being patient long enough for the problems to work out!)
We are told in the Bible that Jesus has suffered all things and can thus comfort us in our losses in this life, too. Always remember that life is not limited to the “here and now” but is only the beginning of a very long time afterwards, in The Lord (as long as one is in The Lord).
And in that, I’m talking about a very long life and hereafter, right here on this planet, on this earth, and walking around in a very human body (although a “glorified” body). This is no dream state that we will live in, hereafter.
We’re also told that we will also suffer on behalf of Christ, too. I’ve looked at the Book of Job quite a bit and it’s quite amazing - especially the first part and then the conclusions (the statements from God).
For to you it has been granted for Christ’s sake, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake,
I think if kids are not involved, a creative financial move like bankruptcy might get me out of being a slave to a parasitic woman. Thatt’s drastic but this is war.
If she is up to no good then hire a PI to prove it.
Veteran, Navy retired (20 years)
Southern by Birth, AMERICAN BY THE GRACE OF GOD!!
Liberal when I was young and stupid, then I saw the light
Your profile shows success and focus. Keep your mind n the positive. Start listening to Abraham Hicks YouTube and LOA.
You still have a job and are still alive. What does not kill you, makes you stronger. You aren’t a slave no matter what the thieving crooked black robed judge says. Prayers and good luck. Sorry about the dog.
I know you are retired. Are you able to work?
It sounds like, temporarily, at least, your wife will receive all of your income after bills are paid. Consider looking into social programs, as many of these sources of money, albeit small, may not count as income. I know all of us here despise these programs, but why should only liberals benefit from them? While the programs are there, if you meet the need, please be open to them.
I am sorry about your dog. Short of a new pet, I can't offer you much as an alternative, save for getting together with friends and family.
Whatever happens, do realize these events, and their repercussions, are temporary.
Prayers for you. However, please remember that God is simply testing you! When the going gets tough, the tough get new puppies. That is the best medicine at this point. ;-)
Life is hard. My wife of 28 years died on my arms weeping softly from the pain of her metastatic cancer. But I’m a man and so are you and there’s a reason we’re strong; This week is the reason you’re strong. Rely on your strength. It will get better. I got better and so will you. Count on it.
If you don’t have enough income to handle the alimony and your living expenses both............and you can’t find a higher-paid job, then DO please sign up for the various welfare programs (you know, the ones most of us knock all to Hell ...here on freerepublic, ha!).
You don’t have to stay on the dole forever, but at least until you can work your situation out better on your own, and especially if you’ve been hit (for the present, anyway, until you can get it fixed) with an outrageous alimony order...
do go ahead and sign up for all the “free goodies”...welfare, food stamps, Obamaphone (gawd!), whatever you need to get through this bad patch in your life....
Reality is what it is. Occasionally we have to compromise like this. SO be it. You will get things worked out and get back on your own two feet.. .it just takes awhile in such situations (when courts are involved)....and if you need the help, go get it for now and ... rest at peace at night, don’t fret over this.
Praying for you. Don’t despair.
There are many saying about dealing with adversity and my favorite is when one door closes, another opens. I have found that to be so true. When I just couldn’t see any good, it was right there in front of me.
Having a job you love shows that God hasn’t forsaken you. He guided you to that job and He is there to walk these weary miles with you.
Be strong, My FRiend.
I Thessalonians 5:24
Our Lord is faithful. He will do as He promised. His words are not empty promises and He neither leaves us forsaken or forgotten. Rather, He waits patiently for your response to this crisis. Find some promises in Psalms and Proverbs and then affirm your belief in this in your prayers to God and He will move to action.
Reading Job can also be a solace.
It seems from bad times much wisdom comes, wisdom that can be used for those just entering into the trials you’ve already experienced. Use this time in church groups and teach the wisdom given to you. Preach the Word my friend. Do not look back and ask why?
I don't have an answer for you but through experience, I know things will sort themselves out. Have faith in God and yourself and the answers will come.
Our Lord and Savior asked, “Why have you forsaken me?” though He knew that His suffering was God’s plan. He knew.
We don’t know. We must trust in His redemption and give ourselves to His Promise. I will pray for your strength in His name.
The only way to get through a divorce is to pray continually. Been there. It was the only thing that worked. And it revolutionized my life for the better.
Don’t worry about big, fancy-sounding prayers. Just the small stuff will do, whatever is in the moment, like, when tossing and turning, “Father, for the sake of my job that I need to feed my children, help me fall asleep tonight and wake up refreshed enough to do my job.”
Or, when worrying about what to say to the ex or to a lawyer, “Holy Spirit, speak through me now or hold my tongue. Let only Your words come out of my mouth, to say the right thing at the right time and no more.”
By the way, your old friend (your dog) will be happy for you when you get another pup. He knows you aren’t replacing him. He knows that by getting another pup you are letting into your life a loyal companion that will love you without question. Your old friend knows another pup will bring you love and allow you to love when needed most.
Hang on. It sounds like you’re going through the roughest part of it now.
I’ve had my share of very difficult times too ... including a very painful divorce.
I can look back now at a lot of those hard times and realize that maybe things happened for a reason. If I “had it all” and hadn’t been through the hard times, I may have felt like I didn’t really need the Lord. I am much wiser now and I know I need the Lord in my life.
Hang in there. You’re in my prayers.
To You, O Lord, I call; My rock, do not be deaf to me, For if You are silent to me, I will become like those who go down to the pit- Psalm 28:1
Thank you all for your loving responses. I do have a job, a well paying government job working for the Navy. We incurred a bunch of debts which I am trying to pay off. She is living with a lying welfare mooch who fills her head with all kinds of stories about me. I have an adopted daughter who because of the situation now lives with her natural mother and is doing so much better.
It’s just so lonely and I could never stand being alone. I wish I was back in the Navy, I miss having shipmates around.
In my state I think the state bar association has a fund that helps people financially if they lose money due to a lawyer’s misconduct. Might be worth looking into.
So sorry about your wife. Be blessed.
You can do this.
There will be better days ahead.
As the old bronc rider says: it’s not how many times ya get thrown, it’s how many times you climb back on.
Realistically, your job (work) is number one.
Spiritually, let Jesus take the wheel. We’ve got your six.
Prayers do get answered, and all God asks is a little faith on your behalf. It will be tried and tested. Ironically, a lot of people seem to most want to surrender their faith when it's the only thing they have left. Hang in there.
"We are, not metaphorically but in very truth, a Divine work of art, something that God is making, and therefore something with which He will not be satisfied until it has a certain character. Here again we come up against what I have called the intolerable compliment. Over a sketch made idly to amuse a child, an artist may not take much trouble: he may be content to let it go even though it is not exactly as he meant it to be. But over the great picture of his lifethe work which he loves, though in a different fashion, as intensely as a man loves a woman or a mother a childhe will take endless troubleand would doubtless, thereby give endless trouble to the picture if it were sentient. One can imagine a sentient picture, after being rubbed and scraped and re-commenced for the tenth time, wishing that it were only a thumb-nail sketch whose making was over in a minute. In the same way, it is natural for us to wish that God had designed for us a less glorious and less arduous destiny; but then we are wishing not for more love but for less.
― C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain
Take care, the Lord will see that the light at the end of your tunnel is NOT an oncoming train.
Very, very sorry about your dog. You didn’t need that to happen, no, no, no.
Obviously I don’t know what happened to cause your atty to get his license revoked, and maybe you don’t either, but I imagine it must have been extremely serious.
It might be that you are due a refund of any money you paid him, especially any unused retainer funds. Perhaps his taking money from you was fraudulent, whether intentional or not, because of whatever issues he had that led to his license being revoked.
Many states have some kind of fund that compensates people who are defrauded by lawyers. I would call the state bar association and see if they can give you any help or guidance.
Also, I think you are a veteran, correct? Perhaps the VA could help you out in some way, or even the VFW or something like that. You might be able to find a fellow vet who is a lawyer who could help you out pro-bono.
Good luck and don’t give up, although I know it is very hard sometimes.
I’m coming through some tough times myself and while things are far from perfect at this time they have improved and I am grateful for that. Whatever is wrong or lacking in my current circumstances, I am not complaining about it, because things are better than they’ve been in a while.
Your faith is a shield. You must wear it like armor, FRiend. Reject the turmoil in your life and cast it out in Christ’s name. Don’t just think it; say it out loud and believe it. Then it will be so.
Psalm 91:9-16 NIV
If you say, The Lord is my refuge, and you make the Most High your dwelling, no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent.
For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
You will tread on the lion and the cobra; you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
Because he loves me, says the Lord , I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.
With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.
Do a Google search for free divorce services. Try several different searches. You don’t dare go in front of a judge without an attorney.
I don’t know what your profession is, but you might try barter.
Best of luck.
Incidentally, several of my male friends ended up in this situation and years later their former wives wanted them back. But they’d moved on in other relationships. I think it’s called something like “the Cinderella syndrome.” They’re taught from birth that they’ll live happily ever after and the reality is there’s just more life and none of it involves princes, romance or being awesomely satisfied forever and ever.
“It seems that God has lost track of my soul, that he has forsaken me.”
This is your first mistake. God has SAID He will never forsake you. Believe Him.
Ditch the self pity and start digging out of where you are. When I recall the days I felt as you feel and was talking as you are talking I wonder at the fact that I had years to go yet before I got out. And I did get out. God WILL LIFT YOU IF ONLY YOU WILL LET HIM!
Prayers up to the Holy Spirit for you!
Praying for you, bro.
Had a friend that when he first found out what was coming, early before any paper started to fly, he did just that. . and booked a flight to Vegas. Got to Vegas, went to a casino, bet everything within a couple of hours (and lost), and flew back dead broke.
(That's what he said happened to his money).
She got nothing because he had nothing to share. He is living okay. . .don't know how come he has extra cash, but he does. . .
She got nothing because he had nothing to share. He is living okay. . .don’t know how come he has extra cash, but he does. . .
Sounds like a happy ending.
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