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Is It Racist to Date Only People of Your Own Race?
Slate ^ | 04/23/2014 | Reihan Salam

Posted on 04/23/2014 7:21:34 PM PDT by SeekAndFind

A few weeks ago, OkCupid, the popular “freemium” dating service, started offering its paid subscribers a very cool new tool. Rather than just sort through potential dates by using familiar filters like age and height, you could use the answers OkCupid members gave to various questions, such as “Do you like to watch sports on television?” or, my personal favorite, “Do you find British comedies entertaining?”

Questions are an important part of what makes OkCupid work. The site nudges you to answer as many questions as you can stand, and it also nudges you to make your answers public, as you can only see the answers of potential dates if you disclose your own answers. Answering questions allows OkCupid’s fancy algorithms to identify people who might be a good fit for you. Though these algorithms can be cleverly gamed, the basic idea that answering questions honestly will allow you to find people who share your sensibilities, goals, and quirks makes intuitive sense.

For example, OKCupid asked, “Would you date someone shorter than you?” If, like me, you are a compact American, you could save an enormous amount of time by ruling out women who are uninterested in dating smaller men. All of the time you’d otherwise waste on messaging statuesque beauties could instead be spent indulging in more fruitful leisure time pursuits, like hang-gliding or backgammon.

In a somewhat similar vein, one of OkCupid’s questions reads as follows: “Would you strongly prefer to go out with someone of your own skin color/racial background?” I was struck by the not inconsiderable number of people who answered “yes”—including some people I know “in real life,” many of whom are hilariously self-righteous about their enlightened political views.

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1 posted on 04/23/2014 7:21:34 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

if so, it has to be ‘homophobic’ to only date people of the opposite sex. Ludicrous. People of all backgrounds have different tastes aesthetically and that goes far beyond race, applying to all groups.


2 posted on 04/23/2014 7:22:59 PM PDT by Viennacon
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To: SeekAndFind

It is smart to date within your level of civilization.


3 posted on 04/23/2014 7:23:49 PM PDT by Texas resident (The democrat party is now the CPUSA)
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To: Viennacon

What does one call a homo who will only date homos?


4 posted on 04/23/2014 7:24:37 PM PDT by School of Rational Thought
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To: SeekAndFind
Is It Racist to Date Only People of Your Own Race?

No.

Next stupid question?

5 posted on 04/23/2014 7:25:16 PM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Proud Infidel, Gun Nut, Religious Fanatic and Freedom Fiend)
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To: SeekAndFind

There are good reasons to question the moral appropriateness of strong same-race preferences and their close cousin, in-group favoritism.”

Thus Spake Zaraclueless....

and another thing” preferences have cousins .. do they??


6 posted on 04/23/2014 7:25:39 PM PDT by MeshugeMikey ( "Never, never, never give up". Winston Churchill)
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To: Texas resident

Don’t you want to explore outside of your trailer park?


7 posted on 04/23/2014 7:27:29 PM PDT by BenLurkin (This is not a statement of fact. It is either opinion or satire; or both.)
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To: SeekAndFind

“Is It Racist to Date Only People of Your Own Race?”

Sigh. No. My concern is usually the hyphenated name crowd.


8 posted on 04/23/2014 7:28:31 PM PDT by Antihero101607
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To: SeekAndFind

libs continue to show their fascination with race in all areas of life.


9 posted on 04/23/2014 7:29:13 PM PDT by ealgeone (obama, borderof)
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To: SeekAndFind

The author’s a south Asian Bengali Muslim, and he’s question why some white people wouldn’t want to date someone like him...?

Idiot....


10 posted on 04/23/2014 7:29:17 PM PDT by freebilly
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To: SeekAndFind

It was only a matter of time.

Children will soon be required to have sex with an assigned partner at school or be expelled for racism/homophobia.


11 posted on 04/23/2014 7:29:36 PM PDT by SampleMan (Feral Humans are the refuse of socialism.)
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To: SeekAndFind

If I ran the 100, I’d consider dating a woman who ran the 200 or 400.


12 posted on 04/23/2014 7:29:45 PM PDT by bramps (Go West America!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Everyone has an absolute right to personal preference. Next question?


13 posted on 04/23/2014 7:33:15 PM PDT by JimSEA
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To: SeekAndFind

Attempting to label and ostracize people whose natural attraction is toward those most like themselves is far different and far more pernicious to a society than the previous attempts to label and ostracize people who dated interracially. One is live and let live, the other is attempting to remold society in a fairly radical manner.


14 posted on 04/23/2014 7:33:30 PM PDT by RegulatorCountry
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To: SeekAndFind

It is Dangerous to dat outside your race.let us take an example:

Adolfo is a paperhanger. He is the mutant prodigy of a blind and disabled sheep molester. Eva is a Arayan mutant delicious slut who has had MRSA and untreatable gonorrhea in all three orifices.

The moment they meet the local citizens decide to murder them both to prevent mutant propagation of the diseased species.

So yo see, it is very dangerous. Don’t do it!


15 posted on 04/23/2014 7:34:55 PM PDT by Doc Savage ("I've shot people I like a lot more,...for a lot less!" Raylan Givins)
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To: Texas resident

That is it exactly. I also will only date American men. Do I dislike foreign born or raised men?? No, but their culture, expectations and treatment of women are so different. It might not work out with an American man, but at least we stand a chance.
Also, I will NEVER date a leftist. Never.


16 posted on 04/23/2014 7:35:59 PM PDT by Shimmer1 (God is not dead!)
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To: SeekAndFind

I don’t know, let me ask my wife... ;-) I’m pretty sure she’s going to be very fair - I’m not allowed to date anyone of any race!


17 posted on 04/23/2014 7:37:27 PM PDT by ThunderSleeps (Stop obarma now! Stop the hussein - insane agenda!)
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To: Doc Savage

It makes sense when you say it like that.


18 posted on 04/23/2014 7:38:32 PM PDT by BipolarBob
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To: SeekAndFind

You mean only other Humans?

Oops, I may have offended Goat-lovers.


19 posted on 04/23/2014 7:38:58 PM PDT by Scrambler Bob (You can count my felonies by looking at my FR replies.)
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To: SeekAndFind

People simply do not understand the fundamentals of life on earth.

All life is based on diversity. And that diversity exists because groups tend to stay with their own members. Gray wolves and Timber wolves are all wolves. Lock them up in captivity and they will be forced to inter-mate. Turn them lose in the wilds, and soon all the Timber wolves will be with Timber wolves, and the Gray wolves will be with Gray wolves.

Because they are racists?

No, they are part of diverse groups, and members of the group tend to associate with other members of the same group. Nothing more to it.


20 posted on 04/23/2014 7:39:17 PM PDT by I cannot think of a name
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To: Viennacon

Besides, what about people who have a racial preference but it’s not their own race. There’s white guys who only like Asian girls, or black guys who only date white women. Plus what if you are open to more than one race, but have one or two you don’t like? So what?


21 posted on 04/23/2014 7:40:56 PM PDT by Still Thinking (Freedom is NOT a loophole!)
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To: SeekAndFind
This is one area where, damn it, I have done my best to celebrate diversity. All the way from a green eyed strawberry blond Irish princess to a latte skinned Malaysian girl. In the interest of fairness and equality I have at tried to leave no example of female beauty feeling slighted.
22 posted on 04/23/2014 7:40:57 PM PDT by CrazyIvan (Obama phones= Bread and circuits.)
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To: SeekAndFind

What a sick question to begin with.


23 posted on 04/23/2014 7:41:27 PM PDT by montag813
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To: SeekAndFind

Since there is no longer an actual definition of “racist” anything can now be racist, anything!


24 posted on 04/23/2014 7:47:42 PM PDT by big bad easter bunny (If it weren't for coffee I would still be living with my parents!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Strictly speaking, of course it is. So what?


25 posted on 04/23/2014 7:48:22 PM PDT by cdcdawg (Be seeing you...)
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To: SeekAndFind

Suppose it is.

So what?


26 posted on 04/23/2014 7:50:57 PM PDT by Jim Noble (When strong, avoid them. Attack their weaknesses. Emerge to their surprise.)
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To: School of Rational Thought
What does one call a homo who will only date homos?

Darwin award winners

27 posted on 04/23/2014 7:53:44 PM PDT by HangnJudge
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To: SeekAndFind

This reminds me of Walter Williams describing how much discrimination he practiced when choosing his wife. He excluded all women who were white, Asian, Hispanic, too fat for his tastes, too thin for his tastes, stupid, and ugly, among other things. Hilarious bit he did while filling in for Rush many years ago.


28 posted on 04/23/2014 7:54:32 PM PDT by cdcdawg (Be seeing you...)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

Is It Racist to Date Only People of Your Own Race?


Only if a white guy says yes.

Anyone else can can yes and its fine - even commendable.

Me, I don’t give a fig what a lady’s race is. If she is smart, likes to laugh, easy going, likes to read and has a great smile I just don’t care. Asian, white, black, blah, blah blah.

I do not care.


29 posted on 04/23/2014 8:02:53 PM PDT by warsaw44
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To: SeekAndFind

I knew a white guy who refused to date American, white women because many were so materialistic and narcissistic (and the good ones were taken) so he married a foreign woman. So, was he racist?


30 posted on 04/23/2014 8:09:26 PM PDT by MeneMeneTekelUpharsin (Freedom is the freedom to discipline yourself so others don't have to do it for you.)
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To: SeekAndFind

And I specist if I only date those of my own species?


31 posted on 04/23/2014 8:18:20 PM PDT by KosmicKitty (WARNING: Hormonally crazed woman ahead!!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Pigment envy.


32 posted on 04/23/2014 8:18:59 PM PDT by Albion Wilde ("The commenters are plenty but the thinkers are few." -- Walid Shoebat)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

“Next stupid question?”

What about dating outside your species?


33 posted on 04/23/2014 8:20:07 PM PDT by Rembrandt (Part of the 51% who pay Federal taxes)
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To: SeekAndFind

“Is It Racist to Date Only People of Your Own Race?”

What an insane question!

Of course it’s not. It’s the natural thing to do.


34 posted on 04/23/2014 8:21:03 PM PDT by Finalmente
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To: SeekAndFind

NO.

After an enriched foreign social life, as a U.S. military man stationed in SouthEast Asia, meeting all sorts, from all over the world, I’m quite happy, and have been since my return in 1974, to not bother with females of other than Caucasian backgrounds. There is enough diversity, with blondes, brunettes, and redheads, to choose from.


35 posted on 04/23/2014 8:22:10 PM PDT by Terry L Smith
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To: SeekAndFind

There are good reasons to question the moral appropriateness of strong same-race preferences and their close cousin, in-group favoritism.”

Thus Spake Zaraclueless....

and another thing” preferences have cousins .. do they??


36 posted on 04/23/2014 8:31:43 PM PDT by MeshugeMikey ( "Never, never, never give up". Winston Churchill)
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To: Terry L Smith

Recently I heard a talk by a German lady, now 88, who came to America as a “war bride” after WWII. She was upset when a form asked her race and she was told to put “Caucasian.” Her attitude was, “why Caucasian? If I have to be from Russia, put down St. Petersburg.”


37 posted on 04/23/2014 8:32:10 PM PDT by Verginius Rufus
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To: School of Rational Thought

Gay.


38 posted on 04/23/2014 8:37:55 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (Resist We Much)
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To: SeekAndFind

Years ago, Eddie Murphy announced that he only dated black women.


39 posted on 04/23/2014 8:44:25 PM PDT by crazycatlady
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To: crazycatlady
Years ago, Eddie Murphy announced that he only dated black women

Well.well.well!

40 posted on 04/23/2014 8:46:34 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: SeekAndFind
The author asks “Would you date someone shorter than you?”

But of course. Then every woman I've dated was shorter than me. Duh.

41 posted on 04/23/2014 8:47:24 PM PDT by ProtectOurFreedom
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To: Verginius Rufus

I agree with the “war bride”. She was GERMAN, born and bred, nowhere near the Caucasus Mountains in the Balkans.

I am Mojave and Gernman. Imagine the hell I raise, if some young administrative twit can’t get that.


42 posted on 04/23/2014 8:49:06 PM PDT by Terry L Smith
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To: SeekAndFind

That’s like saying are you racist if you only give birth to a kid of your color.


43 posted on 04/23/2014 8:58:21 PM PDT by SkyDancer (I Believe In The Law Until It Intereferes With Justice. And Pay Your Liberty Tax Citizen.)
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To: SeekAndFind

Has this idiot author never seen a commercial for BlackPeopleMeet.com?


44 posted on 04/23/2014 9:13:25 PM PDT by An American in Turkiye
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To: SeekAndFind

oh brother...most of the people that are upset that I married a white woman are liberals.


45 posted on 04/23/2014 9:18:20 PM PDT by BookmanTheJanitor
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To: BookmanTheJanitor

Well, of course. Libs know what’s best for you!

- and me and everyone on the planet.


46 posted on 04/23/2014 9:51:18 PM PDT by warsaw44
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To: bramps
If I ran the 100, I’d consider dating a woman who ran the 200 or 400.

That's a problem when you're done and she's just starting to round the first curve. < /entendre and a half>

47 posted on 04/23/2014 10:13:15 PM PDT by KarlInOhio (Republican amnesty supporters don't care whether their own homes are called mansions or haciendas.)
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To: CrazyIvan

Me to..


48 posted on 04/23/2014 10:53:47 PM PDT by montanajoe
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To: SeekAndFind

i reject the premise.


49 posted on 04/23/2014 11:13:25 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: SeekAndFind

Only whites are racist, remeber?

But tgey can get around this by asking “do you listen to NPR?”


50 posted on 04/23/2014 11:35:14 PM PDT by Organic Panic
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