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Study: Nagging Kills!
Pajamas Media ^ | 05/10/2014 | Dr. Helen Smith

Posted on 05/10/2014 10:43:19 AM PDT by SeekAndFind

I saw this headline at Drudge and immediately went over to check titled “Study: Nagging By A Spouse Could Shorten Your Life”:

NEW YORK (CBSNewYork) — It is a part of marriage that everyone loathes – the occasional or, in some cases, constant nagging between spouses.

And as CBS 2’s Scott Rapoport reported Friday, word has now come that nagging is not only annoying, but can even be life-threatening.

Ask any married guy on the planet and he’ll tell you, as one man told CBS 2, nagging is “not pleasant.”

But now a new study suggests husbands of nagging wives can actually be nagged to death.

Danish researchers from the University of Copenhagen said having a nagging partner can significantly shorten one’s life, and could result in three extra deaths per 100 people per year.

The study also said people nagged by their spouses are more likely to get heart disease and cancer.

“Sounds about right,” said Stephanie Cellitti. “I nag him a lot.”

The study also says men in particular are at risk.

I truly believe this, having counseled and talked to many men over the years who have been nagged and harassed by their spouse, some to the point of severe depression and heart disease. I can always tell if a man’s relationship is going poorly by how many times a wife or girlfriend calls him on the phone to tell him to do something or ask where he is. Naturally, if a man does this to a woman, it is abuse. Society doesn’t care if a woman nags and hassles a guy 24/7. Even the unempathetic women in the article mentioned that they weren’t going to stop. So, it’s up to men to protect themselves, at least until changes can be made, if ever.

My advice for those men not already married wondering if she would make a good wife? If she calls or texts multiple times a day to ask you to do something or asks what you are doing, she is probably going to continue this negative behavior. Take this as a sign that something many be wrong with the relationship and do not get too involved. It is not worth your health and certainly not your life.

What are other forms of nagging that you have witnessed that you feel are negative influences on men’s health?



TOPICS: Health/Medicine; Science; Society
KEYWORDS: nagging; nags
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1 posted on 05/10/2014 10:43:19 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

I used to love her but I had to kill her
I used to love her, oh yeah but I had to kill her
I had to put her six feet under
And I can still hear her complain


2 posted on 05/10/2014 10:46:20 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: SeekAndFind
Ladies, nagging is unnecessary. If a man says he'll do something, then he WILL do it.

There's no need to remind him every six months about it!

3 posted on 05/10/2014 10:47:08 AM PDT by Wyrd bi ful ard (Pope Calvin the 1st, defacto Leader of the FR Calvinist Protestant Brigades)
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To: dfwgator

Heh...


4 posted on 05/10/2014 10:47:44 AM PDT by who knows what evil? (Yehovah saved more animals than people on the ark...www.siameserescue.org.)
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To: SeekAndFind

Men have a shorter life expectancy than women. Coincidence? I think not.


5 posted on 05/10/2014 10:53:34 AM PDT by AZLiberty (No tag today.)
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To: SeekAndFind

I think the operative phrase is “Yes, Dear.”


6 posted on 05/10/2014 10:54:21 AM PDT by sauropod (Fat Bottomed Girl: "What difference, at this point, does it make?")
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To: SeekAndFind

So if she is nagging me about getting more life insurance, does that show premeditation?


7 posted on 05/10/2014 10:55:35 AM PDT by USNBandit (sarcasm engaged at all times)
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To: SeekAndFind

Why do Men die before their Wives?
Because they want to.

/Drum riff....


8 posted on 05/10/2014 10:57:49 AM PDT by HangnJudge
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To: SeekAndFind

Nah, it’s that passive-aggressive guys make a point of not doing anything they’ve specifically been asked to do. All that negative effort and emotion makes them croak early. That they have a nagging wife is correlated with that, but as another effect of their behavior—not the cause of their demise.


9 posted on 05/10/2014 11:00:13 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: SeekAndFind
Mark Twain claimed he had a severely nagged uncle who had gone deaf years ago. However he could still hear the word whiskey whispered three rooms away with the doors shut.
10 posted on 05/10/2014 11:04:26 AM PDT by CrazyIvan (Obama phones= Bread and circuits.)
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To: 9YearLurker
passive-aggressive guys make a point of not doing
anything they’ve specifically been asked to do.

In 33 years of marriage I've used command voice
maybe 5 times, and they were all emergencies.

Wife can use command voice 5 times in an hour.

Since when is sauce for the goose, sauce for the gander...

I'm surrounded by examples of being told what to do.
It is RARE for me to tell her what to do...

What gives with this?

11 posted on 05/10/2014 11:09:52 AM PDT by HangnJudge
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To: SeekAndFind

Reminds me of a joke my husband once told me. A man went to the doctor after experiencing severe anxiety. The doctor asked, “Is your wife a big nagger?” He replied, “No, she’s just a itty bitty white woman.”

Bad taste, I know. But I miss him so much. He was the nag in my family. I’d give anything to hear him nag me again.


13 posted on 05/10/2014 11:14:50 AM PDT by sueQ
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To: SeekAndFind

Probably dying is the only way they can get any peace.


14 posted on 05/10/2014 11:17:26 AM PDT by catnipman (Cat Nipman: Vote Republican in 2012 and only be called racist one more time!)
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To: USNBandit

LOL! you too eh?


15 posted on 05/10/2014 11:18:55 AM PDT by Bulwyf
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To: HangnJudge

Not following biblical principles eh. The bible teaches men to be the head of their households and wives obey their husbands. Of course husbands are supposed to love their wives as Christ himself loves the church.

It’s a tall order, and somewhere along the line, everything went awry.


16 posted on 05/10/2014 11:20:52 AM PDT by Bulwyf
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To: sauropod

“I think the operative phrase is “Yes, Dear.” “

About 20 years ago I came up with the idea for a
“Yes Dear Box”. The guy carries it in his pocket, and whenever necessary pulls it out and presses the button, which
causes the Box to announce “Yes Dear”. Saves wear and tear on the vocal cords.


17 posted on 05/10/2014 11:21:37 AM PDT by catnipman (Cat Nipman: Vote Republican in 2012 and only be called racist one more time!)
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To: sueQ

Sorry to hear about that loss, the joke was funny.

I trust you’re both saved, in which case you’ll hear it again heh.


18 posted on 05/10/2014 11:22:06 AM PDT by Bulwyf
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To: SeekAndFind

A buddy and I used to trade one-up stories with each other about some of our bad marriages.

I told him about the time I tried to run through the house to escape the nagging and my wife ran after me. You could run a circle through the house, and eventually I started pulling over chairs after me to form obstacles like kids do when they chase each other through the house.

My buddy said that was nothing. He got in his car to drive away from the nagging one time and his wife threw herself down on the driveway behind the car so he couldn’t leave.

I allowed as how his story did in fact beat mine.


19 posted on 05/10/2014 11:26:03 AM PDT by catnipman (Cat Nipman: Vote Republican in 2012 and only be called racist one more time!)
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To: Bulwyf

Thanks, sweetie. Yes we are both believers in Jesus Christ.


20 posted on 05/10/2014 11:26:41 AM PDT by sueQ
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To: HangnJudge

Maybe she does more without being asked? You withhold more and she plays the game with you by pushing you for it?

Pretty darned hard to judge a marriage across the ether.


21 posted on 05/10/2014 11:30:19 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: HangnJudge
I'm surrounded by examples of being told what to do. It is RARE for me to tell her what to do... What gives with this?

I hear ya. Its almost never the other way around.

Not long ago I called home to ask my wife to buy some butterfly bandages. I didn't tell her, but I had split my forehead surfing and was on my way home. Got home, no bandages so I ended up getting them myself.

I wasn't raised a spoiled child, luckily.

22 posted on 05/10/2014 11:35:16 AM PDT by skeeter
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To: SeekAndFind
There's a solution to nagging.

It's called a front door.

Bye.

/johnny

23 posted on 05/10/2014 11:38:47 AM PDT by JRandomFreeper (Gone Galt)
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To: SeekAndFind

Mrs. NHD never nags me. She does remind me from time to time about things I’ve committed to do.

Hi Hon!!!


24 posted on 05/10/2014 11:47:19 AM PDT by NewHampshireDuo
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To: sueQ

Amen:) it’ll be a glorious day!

On a side note, I’ll get to finally meet my stillborn baby brother.


25 posted on 05/10/2014 12:08:56 PM PDT by Bulwyf
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To: AZLiberty

men historically had FAR greater lifespans than women.

If you have ever done any geneology research you would see it clearly, where one guy outlives two or three wives and has multiple children with each one. (of course the constant childbirth are the primary reason the women were dying)


26 posted on 05/10/2014 12:10:44 PM PDT by TexasFreeper2009 (Obama lied .. the economy died.)
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To: Bulwyf

Oh my... won’t it be!

Have you heard the song “I Can Only Imagine”?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N_lrrq_opng


27 posted on 05/10/2014 12:16:20 PM PDT by sueQ
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To: SeekAndFind
How "I" handle nagging!

It always works-once!

28 posted on 05/10/2014 12:17:53 PM PDT by Ruy Dias de Bivar (Sometimes you need 7+ more ammo. LOTS MORE.)
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To: JRandomFreeper

Thank you, Johnny...that’s perfect. Complaining is what people do who lack the fortitude to take action. So if your wife’s nagging you to death, either leave or throw her s**t out in the driveway. If you can’t bring yourself to do this, invest in a really good set of earplugs. It will annoy her to no end.


29 posted on 05/10/2014 12:31:51 PM PDT by huckfillary
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To: SeekAndFind

It’s very difficult to promise unconditional love with all of that damned nagging! Doesn’t she know that having a double standard cancels out the Golden Rule?


30 posted on 05/10/2014 12:40:50 PM PDT by equaviator (There's nothing like the universe to bring you down to earth.)
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To: SeekAndFind

LOL. When my ex-boyfriend and I broke up he told me I did not nag him enough!


31 posted on 05/10/2014 12:54:37 PM PDT by DivineMomentsOfTruth ("Give me Liberty or I'll stand up and get it for myself!")
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To: DivineMomentsOfTruth

He might have been lying!


32 posted on 05/10/2014 1:21:02 PM PDT by equaviator (There's nothing like the universe to bring you down to earth.)
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To: equaviator

He was pretty specific on what I did not nag him enough on.. He was right.. I should have nagged him!


33 posted on 05/10/2014 1:31:53 PM PDT by DivineMomentsOfTruth ("Give me Liberty or I'll stand up and get it for myself!")
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

That’s funny!


34 posted on 05/10/2014 1:38:07 PM PDT by Gene Eric (Don't be a statist!)
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

LOL....I’ve had that quote posted on our fridge, for several years.
Hubby doesn’t find it very amusing ;)


35 posted on 05/10/2014 1:42:05 PM PDT by Jane Long (While Marxists continue the fundamental transformation of the USA, progressive RINOs assist!)
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To: equaviator

The reason my marriage ended in one simple sentence...
“Too much nag, not enough shag!”


36 posted on 05/10/2014 1:42:36 PM PDT by BizBroker (There is no "radical Islam", there is only Islam itself.)
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To: TexasFreeper2009
One of my ancestors, a contemporary of Thomas Jefferson, had 21 children by 3 wives--the youngest child was about 5 years old when he died at the age of 78. 18 of his children were alive at his death--a very good ratio for those days.

My great-grandfather was married three times--had 7 children by my great-grandmother, who died of cancer at the age of 41. He divorced the last wife--not sure if the second marriage ended with death or divorce. He told his sons, "Only get married one time."

Samuel Johnson knew of a man who had a long and unhappy marriage. Soon after his wife's death, the man married again. Johnson's comment was that that was the triumph of hope over experience.

37 posted on 05/10/2014 1:42:39 PM PDT by Verginius Rufus
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To: SeekAndFind
"...constant nagging between spouses..."

Call me sexist but almost all the nagging I have ever witness is a wife nagging a husband.

38 posted on 05/10/2014 2:03:59 PM PDT by MIchaelTArchangel (Have a wonderful day!)
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To: reed13

Mark


39 posted on 05/10/2014 2:11:48 PM PDT by reed13k (For evil to triumph it is only necessary for good men to do nothings)
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To: Bulwyf
"The bible teaches men to be the head of their households and wives obey their husbands"

No. It does not. This is a view Muslims have. It says wives submit to your husbands. It says children obey your parents. Big difference. There IS a hierarchy with men as head of the household and men are to lay down their lives for their wives as Christ did for the Church. Wives are to submit to and respect their husbands. Look it up.

And if someone is going to quote the Old Testament with Sarah and Abraham - remember - the Bible states the truthfulness of many things that happened, right or wrong - but that's different to where it states what God wants or commands.
40 posted on 05/10/2014 2:52:08 PM PDT by time4good
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To: time4good
Ephesians 5.22-24:

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in every thing."

41 posted on 05/10/2014 3:57:41 PM PDT by Verginius Rufus
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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

“”Ladies, nagging is unnecessary. If a man says he’ll do something, then he WILL do it.
There’s no need to remind him every six months about it!””

If it’s a man describing what “nagging” is, then this is exactly what is meant by it. Also “nagging” in a man’s book is “Close the door so the cat doesn’t get out!” That’s nagging as defined by a man. Sorry guys but that’s not nagging. At least not in my book.


42 posted on 05/10/2014 4:07:24 PM PDT by Thank You Rush
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To: Verginius Rufus

Thanks. I was going to put this verse.


43 posted on 05/10/2014 4:29:55 PM PDT by time4good
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To: Thank You Rush
“Close the door so the cat doesn’t get out!”

I'll get to it when I can! Sheesh.

44 posted on 05/10/2014 4:39:15 PM PDT by Wyrd bi ful ard (Pope Calvin the 1st, defacto Leader of the FR Calvinist Protestant Brigades)
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To: SeekAndFind; GeronL

I rode the commuter rail on a failed journey in town last weekend.

I was the lone passenger waiting at two stops (15-20 minute wait each time).

While I waited, I kept getting nagged by pre-recorded messaged about every 2 minutes.

“DON’T CROSS MID-BLOCK, ONLY USE THE APPROVED AND MARKED CROSSINGS”

And then again in Spanish.

“DON’T TRY TO PUT MORE THAN 2 BICYCLES IN A SINGLE RAIL CAR. THERE IS ONLY STORAGE SPACE FOR 2 BICYCLES PER CAR.”

And then again in Spanish.

“DON’T FORGET TO PURCHASE A TICKET. ALL PASSENGERS MUST HAVE A TICKET TO RIDE THE METRO RAIL.”

And then again in Spanish.

“DON’T BRING ANY FOOD OR DRINKS INTO THE RAIL CAR. YOU ARE NOT PERMITTED TO EAT ON THE METRO RAIL.”

And then again in Spanish.

“IF YOU SEE ANY SUSPICIOUS ACTIVITY YOU SHOULD CALL ##### TO REPORT IT TO METRO POLICE...”

And then again in Spanish.

and on and on and on...

JUST LET ME WAIT FOR THE VEHICLE IN PEACE AND QUIET!

Nag
Nag
Nag


45 posted on 05/10/2014 4:52:35 PM PDT by a fool in paradise (The new witchhunt: "Do you NOW, . . . or have you EVER , . . supported traditional marriage?")
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To: time4good

Read the new testament, then reply again, I’m not at home at the moment, and bible is in my truck, but I will narrow it down for you soon.


46 posted on 05/10/2014 4:57:52 PM PDT by Bulwyf
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To: a fool in paradise

bump


47 posted on 05/10/2014 5:31:10 PM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans!)
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To: HangnJudge

LOL!


48 posted on 05/10/2014 5:37:43 PM PDT by rabidralph
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To: SeekAndFind
The Man Song!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gCdKiRDdohA

49 posted on 05/10/2014 5:46:09 PM PDT by Doomonyou (Let them eat Lead.)
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To: DivineMomentsOfTruth

I could’ve used that strategery myself. Too late and at the time, it never would have occurred to me .


50 posted on 05/11/2014 4:33:17 AM PDT by equaviator (There's nothing like the universe to bring you down to earth.)
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