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To stop the rape culture, stop the hook-up culture
life site news ^ | Robert A. Vega

Posted on 05/29/2014 2:08:59 AM PDT by Morgana

May 28, 2014 (LifeSiteNews.com) - The cover of TIME magazine released on May 15, depicting a university pennant with the lone word “Rape” on it, marks a new height in public awareness (and debate) of what has come to be known as the “rape culture” – a prevalence of male domination, incursion, and violation against the sexual dignity and bodily sovereignty of females through physical actions, verbal harassment, mass entertainment content, structural norms in the workplace, and social behavior. First coined in the 1970s, “rape culture” has only entered the popular progressive vocabulary in recent years, starting in feminist blogs. Now concern about it is finding a place in mainstream policy discussions, notably in efforts to reform the U.S. military’s treatment of sexual assault allegations and the U.S. Department of Education’s investigation of fifty-five universities’ handling of the same. Rape and rape culture are heinous and repugnant beyond literary description, and should be eliminated entirely. Yet most of those who vociferously oppose rape culture, typically progressives, would be loath to challenge one of its most important enablers – the hook-up culture.

Rape is a profoundly destructive violation of the human person that has unfortunately existed for as long as humanity itself. A rape culture, however, wherein that violation or undertones of it are largely accepted in some outlets, and even glorified in others (think the “Blurred Lines” performance at the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards), is a relatively recent return to primitive views on the place and personhood of women. Possibly even worse than seeing women as sources of property, progeny, or household assistance (all of which are wrong and insulting of the human person), rape culture harkens back to a most primordial brutishness and sees women merely as objects of pleasure. Its modern prominence is no surprise, however, when one considers the rise of the hook-up culture.

Before the 1970s, rape in the U.S. was considered a marginal and delinquent behavior that was seldom discussed in polite company. Thus, regardless of any prevalence of rape, there was not a rape culture per se. Then various women’s advocates began to raise awareness and public consciousness of the dark realities of rape (coining “rape culture” in the process, though it had been more of a shrouded current and not the brazen phenomenon and public “culture” that it is today). Efforts rightly aimed at persuading the general public to recognize and stop rape were surely a force for good. Unfortunately, their genesis was more or less contemporaneous with the sexual revolution, its instruments, and its progeny. In time, that revolution “matured” into the hook-up culture that we live in today and that regrettably provides the rape culture with a space in which to thrive.

The hook-up culture teaches men that neither women nor sex have any value greater than the temporary physical pleasure that they can be used for. While nearly ubiquitous, its base camp is college campuses (and it is no coincidence that much of the attention against the rape culture has been focused on universities). Though some studies assert that the hook-up culture is a myth because it is not partaken of by a majority of college students, the perception in the public consciousness that “everyone else is doing it and it’s ok” makes it a real culture – and a real danger. That culture suggests to men that they can expect women to be willing and available sexual partners for casual encounters. When individual women do not acquiesce to advances, some offending men act upon these expectations with a sense of entitlement and then pressure, or even physically coerce, women into sexual activity.

Yet while many will rally against a rape culture, few in either policy advocacy or university administration would dare challenge the hook-up culture. This is because many of the tools of the hook-up culture are seen as symbols of women’s liberation and equality. Freely-distributed and brightly-colored contraception products tossed about on campuses are not only supplies but cultural propaganda that encourage pre-marital and casual sexual activity. They desensitize both men and women to the natural consequence, and hence the gravity, of sex. Co-ed dormitories increase the encounters and locations in which compromising situations can arise. College orientation programs preach the modern orthodoxy that sexual choices should be self-guided by the principle of “if it feels good do it.” All of this provides an environment in which the hook-up culture and, ultimately, the rape culture thrive.

Individual women are unequivocally not to blame for the actions of individual men, and men who commit offenses in any form against a woman’s person or dignity should be held responsible. The ruling collective culture, however, makes it difficult for either men or women to make mutually respectful and well-thought-out choices with regard to one another. The hook-up culture, even if existing only in perception, gives many men an expectation of sexual acquiescence from women. Co-ed access to dormitories and excessive drinking, often by underage students and unchecked by university officials, set the stage for frequent and compromising encounters where offending men apply pressure and sometimes violence to enforce their wrongful expectations. Such was the scene for one young woman at Harvard whose brave story went viral earlier this year. Other alumnae of Harvard have candidly told this author that women on campus, even if not physically threatened, often feel pressure to not disappoint or reject individual expectant men. Yet these same women, progressive in their views, would not recognize the role that the hook-up culture plays in pushing women to be the reluctant or unconsenting counterparts to the putative men that its mainstays produce.

The social problem, however, goes deeper than a few university policies. It is reinforced by the entertainment industry through myriad songs like “Blurred Lines” which subtly yet consistently drum a heinous “You know you want it” mentality into young minds. And the entrenchment of rape culture goes beyond that as well. While men are ultimately responsible for their actions and should have a well-formed conscience, Heather Mac Donald argues that the eradication of traditional rules of gentlemanly behavior and chivalry by progressives has undone that which keeps some men’s most primitive and brutish behaviors in check. In addition, the problem of the rape culture may be multigenerational in depth and duration due to the pandemic of fatherlessness (to which the high prevalence of divorce and contraception contribute by desensitizing many men to the gravity of marriage and sex). With more and more children not being raised by their natural fathers especially, or any father-figure at all, more young men have no role model to show them how to be a pubescent and post-adolescent man who handles his hormones, and young women have no point of reference for how they should expect men to treat them.

To be sure, the elimination of the institutionalized hook-up culture on university campuses would not eliminate rape itself. At the very least, such a dramatic pullback would have to migrate with the students into adulthood and also reach non-college-going populations. And even then, a change in cultural acceptance would have to be met with an actual change in behavior. Nevertheless, ending the hook-up culture would make great strides toward stopping the rape culture as such. And that would be a good starting point toward greater recognition of the respect, security, and dignity due all.


TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: academicbias; blamethevictim; hookupculture; moralabsolutes; rape; rapeculture; sexpositiveagenda; slutwalk; waronwomenmeme

1 posted on 05/29/2014 2:09:00 AM PDT by Morgana
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To: Morgana
elimination of the institutionalized hook-up culture on university campuses

Really it's "institutionalized". Sounds like someone needs a dictionary.

Besides, the gist of this article is "I don't have a magic wand, but if anyone out there does, take care of this, will ya!"

2 posted on 05/29/2014 2:41:10 AM PDT by southern rock
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To: Morgana
The problem is feminism, basically. Women desperately want to be dominant, and being a slut is one way to "dominate" a male and get him to do exactly what you want -- until he leaves and chooses to have a different slut "dominate" him.

Women make a lot of bad choices today, and they are eager to do so because it tells them that they are "in control". And with easy abortion, there are "no consequences".

The flip side is that men really need a civilizing influence in their lives, and if such an influence is lacking, men will behave like pigs. For centuries, men have improved their behavior because good behavior mattered to women. Today, the bad boys rule, there is no benefit to being civilized, and so male behavior rarely rises out of the gutter.

If there is one thing I'd "fix" with a magic wand, it would be Feminism.

3 posted on 05/29/2014 3:21:28 AM PDT by ClearCase_guy (Fegelein! Fegelein! Fegelein!)
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To: Morgana

Is there really a “rape culture” or is this just another attack on men?


4 posted on 05/29/2014 3:37:12 AM PDT by caver (Obama: Home of the Whopper)
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To: Morgana

“This is because many of the tools of the hook-up culture are seen as symbols of women’s liberation and equality.”

Until he doesn’t call her the next day. Then some of them will spread the notion around that they were a victim of some jerk so she can preserve her womanly virtues.

Feminists get Victorian real quick when they dont want to look cheap.


5 posted on 05/29/2014 3:45:44 AM PDT by VanDeKoik
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To: ClearCase_guy

why do I see it the opposite? That “hooking up” hurts women? Because the dude is just into it for the moment and the girl is hoping to find love?

Girls “dominste” by acting slutty? That makes no sense.


6 posted on 05/29/2014 4:32:17 AM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: caver

that’s a scene from a movie named PCU..

Jock: [at a party] What’s up, babes?
Womynist #1: Pack up your rape culture and take a hike!
Jock: [holds up a beer] You want a brew dog?
Womynist #1: We’re not interested in your penis!
Womynist #2: Wait, wait, I think he’s offering us a beer.


7 posted on 05/29/2014 4:35:41 AM PDT by newnhdad (Our new motto: USA, it was fun while it lasted.)
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To: ClearCase_guy

I still blame Dr. Kinsey for all this crap.


8 posted on 05/29/2014 5:39:59 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Morgana

Bump, he helped start it


9 posted on 05/29/2014 5:44:55 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Morgana
Rape is not about sex. It is about dominance.

The hookup culture has evolved due to lower and lower standards and increased demand for instant gratification, in multiple levels.

One could eliminate the latter, and the former would still be a problem.

10 posted on 05/29/2014 5:54:42 AM PDT by going hot (Happiness is a momma deuce)
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To: caver
Is there really a “rape culture” or is this just another attack on men?

A clue is in " Other alumnae of Harvard have candidly told this author that women on campus, even if not physically threatened, often feel pressure to not disappoint or reject individual expectant men"

In one university's "Sexual Misconduct" page, we have:

Example 2:

When Claudia and Timothy first met, their relationship was tumultuous. At first, Claudia didn't want to have sex with Timothy because she felt like too many people would find out. He kept trying to convince her. He implied that if Claudia did not sleep with him, he would break up with her. Claudia finally gave in and had sex with Timothy. Several months later after speaking with some friends, she realized she had been coerced.

Claudia did not consent to Timothy of her own free will. Whenever a threat is used to make someone consent, it is an invalid consent because it is forced. Consent should be given when the parties want to have sex with each other. Claudia consented not because she wanted to have sex with Timothy but because she feared that he would break up with her. This is another example of a Sexual Misconduct policy violation.
So if a woman has sex with you because she's afraid you will move on if she doesn't, then you are guilty of "sexual misconduct".

Feminists will not be satisfied until women can ruin a man on a whim.

11 posted on 05/29/2014 6:00:08 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: newnhdad

That movie was pretty funny. It came out when I was in college and I saw the culture being portrayed in the movie up close and personal.


13 posted on 05/29/2014 6:09:18 AM PDT by Hoosier Catholic Momma (How long till my Arkansas drawl fades into the twang of southeast Ohio?)
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To: Morgana

It seems to me that in the “hook-up culture” that both parties participate, and that they equally “used” by the other. Unless there is force or coercion, the sex is consensual. I am not saying that I approve, only that it is not rape just because males may feel entitled to it, as long as the female actively participates.


14 posted on 05/29/2014 6:13:56 AM PDT by NCLaw441
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To: PapaBear3625

Geez, I had no idea that kind of thinking is out there.


15 posted on 05/29/2014 6:14:58 AM PDT by caver (Obama: Home of the Whopper)
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To: NCLaw441

Girls (and boys) are pressured into sex by the media and their own schools these days, how awful it must be when the authorities in your life support the stupid side


16 posted on 05/29/2014 6:16:12 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: yldstrk

Girls have to learn to say “no” if they don’t want to have sex. They seem to want the benefits of free sex but not the responsibilities.. Not unlike many others in this entitlement society.


17 posted on 05/29/2014 6:18:17 AM PDT by NCLaw441
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To: NCLaw441

benefits of free sex? Don’t make me laugh, what are the benefits of free sex if you are a girl


18 posted on 05/29/2014 6:19:03 AM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: PapaBear3625

If some little d8ck ever said such to my daughter, “screw me babe or I will break up with you” I want her to say hasta la vista sucka


19 posted on 05/29/2014 6:22:05 AM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: anton
Most rapes do not even involve physical harm to the victim but instead rely on the victim’s impairment by alcohol or drugs, or rely on fear induced by threat of violence.

Or not even "threat of violence", but just "threat of breaking up" (see post #11).

And even one drink can be construed as "incapacitating" the women, if she declares she "feels" she would not have made the same decision while sober. If a man gets drunk, then drives, and causes an accident, then he is held fully responsible for his actions, because he decided to drink. Women should be held to the same standards: either don't get so drunk that your judgement is impaired or accept the decisions you make while drunk (cases where somebody slips a drug into your drink don't count in the above).

As far as "coerced" consent: threatening to break up is not "coercion". Threatening physical harm IS coercion. We need to go back to that standard. Somebody threatening me with a knife to hand over money is robbery; my wife saying she will be unhappy if I don't let her buy "xxx" is NOT robbery.

20 posted on 05/29/2014 6:24:56 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: PapaBear3625

Amending the above: screwing a woman who is actually physically unconscious on the frat house floor WOULD be rape.


21 posted on 05/29/2014 6:28:17 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: Hoosier Catholic Momma

Favorite quote from PCU:
“What is this? You’re wearing the shirt of the band you’re going to see. Don’t be that guy.”


22 posted on 05/29/2014 6:32:21 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: yldstrk
If some little d8ck ever said such to my daughter, “screw me babe or I will break up with you” I want her to say hasta la vista sucka

Same here. But if she agrees on that basis, she should not be allowed to later whine "I was coerced; I feel raped; he should go to prison because he threatened to break up with me".

23 posted on 05/29/2014 6:32:49 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: PapaBear3625

it is coercion, no question, whether it is criminal coercion is another question

and, just because time passes doesn’t change the character of the act, if it was a crime when committed, it is still a crime though time passes


24 posted on 05/29/2014 6:37:28 AM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: Hoosier Catholic Momma; newnhdad
Regrettably, the movie blamed Republicans/Conservatives for dividing everyone up into groups. Blatant deflection.

Also, the movie foisted the egregious Jeremy Piven on an unsuspecting humanity.

25 posted on 05/29/2014 6:38:13 AM PDT by Oratam
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To: yldstrk
it is coercion, no question, whether it is criminal coercion is another question

Well, current campus codes seem to imply that ANYTHING that could be construed as coercion turns it into "sexual misconduct".

Is it your viewpoint that, if a guy says he's going to stop seeing the woman unless she agrees to have sex, and she has sex with him in response, then (1) he is thus guilty of "sexual misconduct", and (2) should be subject to punishment on that basis?

26 posted on 05/29/2014 7:07:25 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: yldstrk

Women also enjoy sex.


27 posted on 05/29/2014 8:51:43 AM PDT by NCLaw441
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To: NCLaw441

And boys need to be taught about courtship and tenderness and affection.


28 posted on 05/29/2014 9:03:12 AM PDT by what's up (sun)
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To: what's up
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29 posted on 05/29/2014 9:08:58 AM PDT by csvset
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30 posted on 05/29/2014 9:10:45 AM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: Morgana
I still blame Dr. Kinsey for all this crap.

************************

Agreed. He was evil.

31 posted on 05/29/2014 9:25:30 AM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Morgana; Salvation
While men are ultimately responsible for their actions and should have a well-formed conscience, Heather Mac Donald argues that the eradication of traditional rules of gentlemanly behavior and chivalry by progressives has undone that which keeps some men’s most primitive and brutish behaviors in check. In addition, the problem of the rape culture may be multigenerational... due to the pandemic of fatherlessness (to which the high prevalence of divorce and contraception contribute by desensitizing many men to the gravity of marriage and sex). With more and more children not being raised by their natural fathers.., or any father-figure at all, more young men have no role model to show them how to be a pubescent and post-adolescent man who handles his hormones, and young women have no point of reference for how they should expect men to treat them.

In a nutshell. It's criminal that while most rational people recognize that boys mature later than girls, the responsibility to refrain from raping a girl with whom you have been drinking illicitly on campus and with whom you then return to your college-sponsored co-ed dorm, rests solely on the boy, according to feminists and college administrators. This ruins lives.

While I have sympathy for the actual victims of aggressive rape, it is a pity that young females can devastate the reputations of males after a "date gone wrong" due to having been "empowered" by feminist logic writ large in university culture. Earlier generations of women going off to college were warned by their fathers not to go to fraternity parties, get into cars or allow themselves to be found alone with males who had been drinking.

32 posted on 05/29/2014 10:26:06 AM PDT by Albion Wilde ("The commenters are plenty but the thinkers are few." -- Walid Shoebat)
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To: Oratam

I didn’t see it like that. There was a weenie liberal faculty, a group of elitists and a group of “average” students trying to get along without getting caught up in the nonsense. It actually reflected closely what i experienced in college in the late 80’s, early 90’s. Lots of liberal weenies protesting the cause of the week, a few elitists turning up their noses, and a host of special interest groups fighting for the ever growing pot of student association fees. Blacks, mooslimbs, Africans, Caribbean, Asians, Hispanics, gays, trannies, Hindus, and even Norml were all vying for recognition and funding so they could build “social awareness” aka, have bitchin’ parties.


33 posted on 05/29/2014 11:57:05 AM PDT by newnhdad (Our new motto: USA, it was fun while it lasted.)
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To: southern rock

Really it’s “institutionalized”. Sounds like someone needs a dictionary.


institutionalize
verb

: to cause (a custom, practice, law, etc.) to become accepted and used by many people : to establish (something) as an institution

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/institutionalize


34 posted on 05/29/2014 12:56:12 PM PDT by Boogieman
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To: csvset

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35 posted on 05/29/2014 12:56:53 PM PDT by Boogieman
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To: newnhdad

You, at least, agree with me on said egregious Mr. Piven.


36 posted on 05/29/2014 1:23:38 PM PDT by Oratam
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To: PapaBear3625; yldstrk
Is it your viewpoint that, if a guy says he's going to stop seeing the woman unless she agrees to have sex, and she has sex with him in response, then (1) he is thus guilty of "sexual misconduct", and (2) should be subject to punishment on that basis?

Given the way he/she/it construes "crime" and that any kind of non-agreement with the female is "coercion", you betcha.

37 posted on 05/29/2014 2:29:49 PM PDT by jimt (Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed.)
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To: Oratam

Okay...


38 posted on 05/29/2014 2:32:29 PM PDT by newnhdad (Our new motto: USA, it was fun while it lasted.)
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To: PapaBear3625
That is an odd rule.

Just imagine if this slight substitution were made...

When Claudia and Timothy first met, their relationship was tumultuous. At first, Claudia didn't want to have "a commitment" with Timothy because she felt like "someone else may come along". He kept trying to convince her. He implied that if Claudia did not "marry" with him, he would break up with her. Claudia finally gave in and "married" Timothy. Several months later after speaking with some friends, she realized she had been coerced.

If an ultimatum, is issued, is that "coercion"? I though the saying was "#$@& or get off the pot".

Couples that move in together are as good as married. If a women has lived with 3 partners, it's hard to accept her "first marriage" as some kind of ground breaking ceremony.

39 posted on 05/29/2014 6:33:27 PM PDT by a fool in paradise (The new witchhunt: "Do you NOW, . . . or have you EVER , . . supported traditional marriage?")
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To: a fool in paradise
If an ultimatum, is issued, is that "coercion"? I though the saying was "#$@& or get off the pot".

It's all about power. The campus feminists feel that only women should have any coercive relationship power, and no guy should ever even think of making any sort of demand on any girl at any time, and the guy should be punished if he does.

40 posted on 05/30/2014 4:57:35 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: PapaBear3625

As if no lesbian ever seduced a drunken sorority girl...


41 posted on 05/30/2014 5:20:37 AM PDT by a fool in paradise (The new witchhunt: "Do you NOW, . . . or have you EVER , . . supported traditional marriage?")
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