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Why I finally let my son buy a dress: Father's moving story......
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Posted on 05/29/2014 2:11:58 PM PDT by Morgana

FULL TITLE: Why I finally let my son buy a dress: Father's moving story about coming to terms with his five-year-old's true identity

father has opened up about how he came to terms with his young son's love of girls' clothes and toys.

Yuvi Zalkow, a writer based in Portland, Oregon, writes in an essay published on Medium.com that when his son first started exhibiting feminine qualities, his instinct was to fight against it, attempting to steer him towards superhero action figures instead of dolls, dresses and nail polish.

But ultimately he came to realize that the most important thing was the boy's happiness. 'Who the hell was I to tell him another way?' he writes. 'What is blamable here? This is being alive.'

His son was four years old the day that Mr Zalkow, carrying him home from daycare, worked up the courage to take him dress-shopping after he had expressed his interest in girls' clothes for months.

At the Goodwill store, 'he pulled me to the dress aisle like he had been shopping there a thousand times before,' writes the author.

'He picked two pink dresses with flowers on them, one skimpy dress that seemed inappropriate even for a girl, and a white one that seemed only fit for a wedding. "Dada," he said as he handed the white one to me. "I love this one the most."'

(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...


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1 posted on 05/29/2014 2:11:59 PM PDT by Morgana
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To: Morgana

‘Who the hell was I to tell him another way?’

Presumably you are his FATHER, moron.


2 posted on 05/29/2014 2:14:36 PM PDT by Blood of Tyrants (Haven't you lost enough freedoms? Support an end to the WOD now.)
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To: Morgana

Good heavens. What is wrong with people like this?


3 posted on 05/29/2014 2:14:39 PM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Morgana

Buying him a dress instead of getting him mental help and counseling is child abuse.


4 posted on 05/29/2014 2:15:04 PM PDT by GunRunner
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To: Morgana
But ultimately he came to realize that the most important thing was the boy's happiness

I'm sure he also lets this kid eat the whole damn bag of potato chips and doesn't make him clean his room. This poor kid is going to be one unhappy adult.

5 posted on 05/29/2014 2:16:02 PM PDT by RightOnTheBorder
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To: Morgana

This country is in the grip of raving insanity.

Read the comments...”Bravo, Dad!” “If only there were more dads like him.”

Dear God....


6 posted on 05/29/2014 2:16:42 PM PDT by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males---the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization).)
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To: Morgana

I bet this father will be really proud in a few years when his son is in his dress cruising the gay bars, getting anally penetrated and contracting sexually transmitted diseases.


7 posted on 05/29/2014 2:17:02 PM PDT by detective
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To: Morgana

The only time I’m going to buy nail polish is to use it as the pyrogen for making Estes-like rocket igniters.


8 posted on 05/29/2014 2:17:24 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (Pubbies = national collectivists; Dems = international collectivists; We need a second party!)
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To: Morgana

Was mom on the pill while pregnant (before she knew) or while nursing? Does he eat a lot of soy containing processed foods? Does he eat from plastic containers? I often wonder about the effects of estrogen when I hear these stories.


9 posted on 05/29/2014 2:17:33 PM PDT by goodwithagun (My gun has killed fewer people than Ted Kennedy's car.)
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To: Morgana

What’s the point of being a parent anymore if you don’t tell kids how to live their life!

I mean really, that’s part of “parenting.” Otherwise, its just pointless free renting of room and board and wasted colege expenses.


10 posted on 05/29/2014 2:18:03 PM PDT by Bayard
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To: Morgana

bkmk


11 posted on 05/29/2014 2:22:55 PM PDT by Mrs. Don-o ("Stone cold sober, as a matter of fact.")
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To: Jack Hydrazine
Well I once used my ex`s red polish to mark the splines on a universal joint when I dropped the transmission on an old GMC Sonoma.
12 posted on 05/29/2014 2:24:19 PM PDT by nomad
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To: Morgana

Children will bark like a dog but good parents don’t encourage them to think they are dogs.

Look deeper at these parents and you’ll see they encouraged him to think this, 5 year old was a girl from infancy. Sickos.


13 posted on 05/29/2014 2:26:08 PM PDT by RginTN
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To: Morgana

Get Dad a dress, too.


14 posted on 05/29/2014 2:26:59 PM PDT by blueunicorn6 ("A crack shot and a good dancer")
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To: Morgana

Father’s moving story......

I think my bowels are moving.


15 posted on 05/29/2014 2:27:19 PM PDT by Altura Ct.
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To: detective

...or it has itself mutilated into a faux “female.”


16 posted on 05/29/2014 2:27:46 PM PDT by afsnco
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To: Morgana

17 posted on 05/29/2014 2:28:03 PM PDT by ConservingFreedom (A goverrnment strong enough to impose your standards is strong enough to ban them.)
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To: Morgana

Then he’ll grow up just this guy....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvuulZPbfBg


18 posted on 05/29/2014 2:28:29 PM PDT by MtnMan101
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To: Morgana

Sick bastard of the year award.


19 posted on 05/29/2014 2:29:07 PM PDT by editor-surveyor (Freepers: Not as smart as I'd hoped they'd be)
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To: Morgana

Just about every little boy tried on his mom’s high heals and hat. Mother or father usually tells him that little boys don’t do that and that’s it. Every once in a while you get a person like this guy who instead takes the kid out and buys him a dress. The outcome of that is clear. You have a young man who is mixed up. You have a father who shirked his duty.


20 posted on 05/29/2014 2:29:08 PM PDT by maxwellsmart_agent
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To: maxwellsmart_agent

“Just about every little boy tried on his mom’s high heals and hat. Mother or father usually tells him that little boys can do this for Halloween or for a theatre production but otherwise it’s not okay” -——there fixed it...

Hey even I think there is a time and place for everything.


21 posted on 05/29/2014 2:34:05 PM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Morgana

Take the children away from these lunatic “parents”.


22 posted on 05/29/2014 2:38:36 PM PDT by minnesota_bound
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To: Morgana
My wife was out shopping years back with my then 1-year-old son. My son picked out a toy truck to play with. Some old harpy sidled up behind my wife and son, took one look at him playing with his truck while sitting in the cart, and cackled "You know, you're just programming him to be a boy."

My wife, who was stunned but didn't skip a beat, retorted that "He is a boy."

23 posted on 05/29/2014 2:39:43 PM PDT by IYAS9YAS (Has anyone seen my tagline? It was here yesterday. I seem to have misplaced it.)
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To: Morgana

No normal 4-year-old obsesses with clothes, of ANY kind. This kid needs help, not enabling.


24 posted on 05/29/2014 2:40:33 PM PDT by fwdude ( You cannot compromise with that which you must defeat.)
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To: Morgana
Father's moving story

Yeah, a bowel movement.

'Who the hell was I to tell him another way?' he writes....But ultimately he came to realize that the most important thing was the boy's happiness

I guess if he wants to eat nothing but candy and ice cream every meal, stay up till 1:00 AM each night, play in the street, etc., that would all be peachy keen, so long as he's happy?

25 posted on 05/29/2014 2:45:00 PM PDT by PaulCruz2016
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To: Blood of Tyrants

Seems so obvious to the sane amongst us.


26 posted on 05/29/2014 2:49:09 PM PDT by lastchance ("Nisi credideritis, non intelligetis" St. Augustine)
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To: maxwellsmart_agent

My nephew liked to wear his sisters silk panties when he was five. My brother said to him it wasn’t a good idea and that was it. He grew out of it and is a normal 16 year old.


27 posted on 05/29/2014 2:50:40 PM PDT by Jim from C-Town (The government is rarely benevolent, often malevolent and never benign!)
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To: CatherineofAragon
Read the comments...”Bravo, Dad!”

I wish Archbishop Dolan would refrain from commenting on news articles.

28 posted on 05/29/2014 2:51:48 PM PDT by Jeff Chandler (Conservatism is the political disposition of grown-ups.)
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To: Morgana
Why I finally let my son buy a dress

Doesn't he mean why he finally bought his son a dress? Unless the then-four-year-old had a job or his own source of income.

This "man" is one sick person. He deserves to have his son taken away way more than many other parents, like say those ones that named their son Adolf or whatever, that do.

29 posted on 05/29/2014 2:53:41 PM PDT by PaulCruz2016
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To: Morgana
Fathers moving story...? PLEASE!
30 posted on 05/29/2014 2:53:52 PM PDT by AngelesCrestHighway
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To: goodwithagun

Does Mom want a girl but not a second child, so she subtly encourages feminine behavior instead of a healthier outlet?
Are the parents encouraging gender neutral behavior in the name of political correctness? And then they accidentally encouraged the female behavior?
Is he being groomed for this by man-hating lesbians and/or feminists?


31 posted on 05/29/2014 2:55:09 PM PDT by tbw2
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To: Morgana

The two buddies were getting ready for bed in the hunting shack, and the one guy noticed the other had thong underwear on!

“Earl! What the heck!!?? Since when did you start wearing lady’s underwear!!???”

“Ever since my wife found a pair in my truck’s glove box.”


32 posted on 05/29/2014 2:55:42 PM PDT by 21twelve (http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2185147/posts 2013 is 1933 REBORN)
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To: Morgana

Child abuse


33 posted on 05/29/2014 2:56:07 PM PDT by Jewbacca (The residents of Iroquois territory may not determine whether Jews may live in Jerusalem)
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To: Blood of Tyrants

“Presumably you are his FATHER, moron.”

Of course he is. Sure.


34 posted on 05/29/2014 2:56:58 PM PDT by AppyPappy
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To: ConservingFreedom

Caption: PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!!!!!


35 posted on 05/29/2014 2:57:33 PM PDT by AppyPappy
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To: Morgana

His son was four years old the day that Mr Zalkow, carrying him home from daycare, worked up the courage to take him dress-shopping

Press Here

Writer, shame-ridden schmo, maker of lowbrow videos on creativity. Half-assed podcaster. My novel is reluctantly available.

36 posted on 05/29/2014 2:58:36 PM PDT by kcvl
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To: PaulCruz2016

I’ve worn a dress before....for a Halloween party. The kids saw me.

Which is why my son will never do it.


37 posted on 05/29/2014 2:59:45 PM PDT by AppyPappy
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To: nomad

A perfectly legitimate use!


38 posted on 05/29/2014 3:02:06 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (Pubbies = national collectivists; Dems = international collectivists; We need a second party!)
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To: Blood of Tyrants

Not much of one.


39 posted on 05/29/2014 3:02:33 PM PDT by KGeorge (Till we're together again, Gypsy girl. May 28, 1998- June 3, 2013)
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To: Morgana

Yuvi Zalkow @yuvizalkow · May 27

One important parenting test is how you handle your 5-yr-old boy telling others on the plane how his penis tickles when there is turbulence.

https://twitter.com/yuvizalkow

Yuvi Zalkow @yuvizalkow · May 24

First solo flight with the kid... and his princess coloring book...


40 posted on 05/29/2014 3:02:36 PM PDT by kcvl
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To: Morgana

41 posted on 05/29/2014 3:03:53 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: kcvl

Revoke his Man Card.....STAT!


42 posted on 05/29/2014 3:05:58 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Morgana

As I posted almost exactly two years ago (is there some liberal with a checklist “Annually, late in May, publish another article supporting transgender disorder as normal in very young boys”):

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/2886557/replies?c=3

I’m not willing to stipulate, not even for the sake of argument, that the proper treatment for a mental illness is to reinforce the delusion. I had a son who decided at a young age that he was a puppy. That’s a fun game for a few hours, one that I’m sure many parents have dealt with, but it lasted more than a day. Rather than getting him a collar and a doggy dish and being completely supportive of a permanent identity change, perhaps even demanding that others call my son “Spot”, I got the other kids ice cream. “Puppies don’t eat ice cream, you know.” It only took a little over an hour of things puppies don’t do before we heard the last doggie whimper and my son decided he’d rather be a boy.

I would not amputate the leg of a child with “body image identity disorder” (a real disorder in which people want a body part removed). Any decent person and even many democrats would recognize amputation in that context as child abuse and medical malpractice. Why do the genitals get special politically correct treatment when it comes to this mental illness? As an adult, I recognize the difference between an adult and a child, and I would not permit someone under 18 to make irreversible decisions or even long-term decisions of this nature about their own lives. If there are psychologists, psychiatrists, and surgeons sick enough to mutilate adults with this mental illness, or to support that mutilation, I can’t stop them. I will not, however, support the abuse of mentally ill children in the name of political correctness.


43 posted on 05/29/2014 3:07:22 PM PDT by Pollster1 ("Shall not be infringed" is unambiguous.)
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To: Morgana

My little boys were also drawn to blingy princess dresses. But I realized what they loved was the sparkle, not the dress. I got them dress-up clothes like pirates, etc (with lots of sparkle!). Result: Happy boys! I wish more parents realized that most kids are just attracted by glitz.


44 posted on 05/29/2014 3:10:42 PM PDT by Hetty_Fauxvert (FUBO, and the useful idiots you rode in on!)
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To: nomad

And the Sonoma has been is love with you ever since!


45 posted on 05/29/2014 3:20:08 PM PDT by mdmathis6
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To: Morgana

Pathetic disgusting cretinous child abusing failure who deserves to be struck down.


46 posted on 05/29/2014 3:25:27 PM PDT by Viennacon
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To: Morgana

Child abuse by a mind-mangled LIB idiot. Poor kid...looks for guidance from a LIB. Bad judgement at an early age.


47 posted on 05/29/2014 3:35:19 PM PDT by hal ogen (First Amendment or Reeducation Camp?)
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To: nomad

Never fooled with differentials but remember one bit of advice from HS auto mechanics class. It was that lipstick was very helpful in doing some of the alignments and teeth contact testing.


48 posted on 05/29/2014 3:48:08 PM PDT by wally_bert (There are no winners in a game of losers. I'm Tommy Joyce, welcome to the Oriental Lounge.q)
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To: Morgana
Even if he grows up big and strong and manly, he'll be THIS GUY.
49 posted on 05/29/2014 3:49:30 PM PDT by VRWCmember
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To: Morgana

Over and over for years my daughter did not want to hold my hand in parking lots so eventually I gave and let her just run around and...
Are you Effing kidding me? This blithering idiot would be better off with the millstone because eternity is not going to be pleasant.


50 posted on 05/29/2014 3:56:35 PM PDT by TalonDJ
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