People fall into roles. I don’t think a man is incapable of waking up at night and doing something useful ... he just knows he doesn’t have to, so he doesn’t.
When our dog had cancer and needed pain medication at night, and we had a nursing baby, I told my husband, “You have to change your settings so that ‘rattling of dog collar and whimpering’ means ‘Get up and let her out and give her a pill,’ instead of, ‘Wait for someone else to do it.’ I couldn’t stop nursing the baby to take care of the dog.
Actually, I mostly could, with only an occasional swift kick when the dog obviously needed help and the baby couldn’t be detached. You’re either a nurturer or you don’t give a sh*t.
My wife abandoned myself and my 3 daughters when they were 3,5,and 8.I was both mother and father in thier lives.I could hear the smallest whimper in the middle of the night from halfway across the house.They are now 26,28,and 31 and they still wish me happy fathers day and mothers day both.I was the one at drs appts,school assemblies and sports events etc etc.Men can be just as nurturing as mothers.
Hey! Plenty of times I've waked up and done something useful ... roused Nana.