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I Divorced my Husband and Married the Au Pair
The Guardian ^ | Viv Groskop

Posted on 06/30/2014 11:40:39 AM PDT by nickcarraway

When Michele Macfarlane started to lose her eyesight, she got an au pair to help with the children. But she fell in love with the younger woman and realised she was gay

It's a well-worn cliche to fear the arrival of an attractive au pair. The threat, it is assumed, is always that the husband will stray. "There is so much written about this," Michele Macfarlane says, laughing. "I remember that early on I said to my mother, 'You know, I think our new au pair is gay.'

Tell us what you think: Star-rate and review this book "My mum joked, 'Well, if she is gay, that's a good thing. At least you won't have the problem of your husband running off with the au pair.'"

In the end, as the title of Macfarlane's account puts it bluntly, her story has a different ending: I Left My Husband for the Au Pair. When the au pair, Marizette arrives, Macfarlane emails a friend: "She's done a lot of competitive sport so she's nicely built – tall with broad shoulders, a flat tummy and strong arms." Massive alarm bells.

Although she was born in South Africa, Macfarlane, 46, is British, having spent half of her life here. She and her former husband, Peter, who is a chiropractor, met as drama students in Coventry. They started a family in their early 20s. By 24, Macfarlane was a full-time mother. In her early 30s, the whole family moved to Cape Town.

(Excerpt) Read more at theguardian.com ...


TOPICS: Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: aupair; dramaqueen; judelaw; piscopo; robinwilliams
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1 posted on 06/30/2014 11:40:39 AM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

How special. The husband should consider this a blessing in disguise. And I hope he’s protected his assets.


2 posted on 06/30/2014 11:42:46 AM PDT by AU72
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To: nickcarraway

So we have a puff piece pushing homosexual marriage???


3 posted on 06/30/2014 11:43:05 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego (s)
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To: nickcarraway

And I would want to read this story because...?


4 posted on 06/30/2014 11:43:29 AM PDT by Catmom (We're all gonna get the punishment only some of us deserve.)
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To: Catmom

Don’t hire an au pair if you want to keep your marriage?


5 posted on 06/30/2014 11:45:23 AM PDT by SZonian (Throwing our allegiances to political parties in the long run gave away our liberty.)
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To: Catmom

Well, it’s an indication of what the left is doing. How come straight people can, “become gay,” at any point in their life, but even thinking a gay person could, “become straight,” is illegal?


6 posted on 06/30/2014 11:46:43 AM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: Dilbert San Diego

Apparently nothing wrong with breaking a husband’s heart and wrecking your children’s lives if you are gay.


7 posted on 06/30/2014 11:47:12 AM PDT by married21 ( As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.)
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To: nickcarraway

So, she’s a lesbian and a POS. Go figure.


8 posted on 06/30/2014 11:47:51 AM PDT by servo1969
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To: married21

I guess wedding vows truly mean something.....until they don’t.


9 posted on 06/30/2014 11:49:02 AM PDT by bubbacluck (America 180)
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To: nickcarraway

ha!! Took me a while to figure out why ‘piscopo’ was a keyword


10 posted on 06/30/2014 11:49:52 AM PDT by Hegewisch Dupa
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To: nickcarraway

Au Pairs come and Au Pairs go . Perfect job for a Lesbian Au Pair


11 posted on 06/30/2014 11:50:11 AM PDT by molson209 (Blank)
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To: nickcarraway

Warning: Do not click on link for a picture


12 posted on 06/30/2014 11:53:49 AM PDT by 11th_VA (Decriminalize Tax Evasion)
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To: nickcarraway

Guilty.


13 posted on 06/30/2014 11:56:48 AM PDT by BinaryBoy ("Immigration Reform" is ballot stuffing)
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To: married21

Awwwww, but you’re missing the “cuteness” of it, you wacky heteronorm.


15 posted on 06/30/2014 11:58:20 AM PDT by IronJack
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To: married21
Apparently nothing wrong with breaking a husband’s heart and wrecking your children’s lives if you are gay

Apparently so.

"Honey! I just realized that I'm gay! And I'm moving out tomorrow! Tee Hee! (Twirls hair around finger)". Or, at least that's how this excerpt reads.

But, she's gay, and female, (and cute? I didn't read the article) so she's excused. Men who drop their wives for their secretaries, though, are inexcusable bastards who likely should be executed on sight.

16 posted on 06/30/2014 11:58:45 AM PDT by wbill
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To: 11th_VA
Your warning came a bit too late for me.

MY EYES!!!!!!!
17 posted on 06/30/2014 11:59:18 AM PDT by left that other site (You shall know the Truth, and The Truth Shall Set You Free.)
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To: nickcarraway
Michele Macfarlane: ‘You can be gay and not realise it at all.’

Correction-- mentally disordered.

18 posted on 06/30/2014 12:01:11 PM PDT by tflabo (Truth or Tyranny)
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To: AU72

I’d bet the farm that she has had homosexual experience(s) before.


19 posted on 06/30/2014 12:02:47 PM PDT by dsc (Any attempt to move a government to the left is a crime against humanity.)
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To: nickcarraway

What a double standard.

A man that leaves is a scum bag.

A woman that leaves is celebrated.

Attention MSM:

Evil is not good.


20 posted on 06/30/2014 12:03:38 PM PDT by Jewbacca (The residents of Iroquois territory may not determine whether Jews may live in Jerusalem)
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To: wbill
And I'm moving out tomorrow!

No, he was kicked out of the house.

21 posted on 06/30/2014 12:04:58 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: AU72

Now he has two dykes to support.

So unsurprising the dykes got custody.


23 posted on 06/30/2014 12:06:32 PM PDT by Jewbacca (The residents of Iroquois territory may not determine whether Jews may live in Jerusalem)
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To: 11th_VA

I clicked on the link. They look like typical English women. No surprise.


24 posted on 06/30/2014 12:07:07 PM PDT by forgotten man
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To: nickcarraway

They look like poster girls for the Lesbian Association of the United Kingdom.


25 posted on 06/30/2014 12:09:21 PM PDT by MIchaelTArchangel (Have a wonderful day!)
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To: nickcarraway

Based on the photo, a more accurate headline would be: I divorced my husband and became a pear.


26 posted on 06/30/2014 12:10:55 PM PDT by edpc (Wilby 2016)
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To: nickcarraway

If she was gay she wouldn’t have had kids naturally with an icky man....

What she is? Non compos mentis.


27 posted on 06/30/2014 12:14:59 PM PDT by Crim (Palin / West '16)
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To: MIchaelTArchangel

And, of course, see the narcissism exhibited in the fact that the two look exactly alike. Sort of like doin’ yourself.


28 posted on 06/30/2014 12:16:26 PM PDT by miss marmelstein (Richard Lives Yet!)
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To: edpc

“She’s not a Au Pair anymore”. Would you let her in your house?


29 posted on 06/30/2014 12:16:35 PM PDT by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: nickcarraway

” I Left My Husband for the Au Pair”
Sounds like a story on the cover of cosmopolitan.


30 posted on 06/30/2014 12:17:35 PM PDT by I want the USA back (Media: completely irresponsible. Complicit in the destruction of this country.)
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To: miss marmelstein

A hideous idea.


31 posted on 06/30/2014 12:19:01 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: 11th_VA

They look like two gay guys that too much estrogen.


32 posted on 06/30/2014 12:23:12 PM PDT by jsanders2001
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To: nickcarraway

I tell New Fathers
Beware the Babysitter
Nothing but Trouble

New fathers are feeling isolated and stressed. Often their wives are not paying much attention to them. Add to the mix a young attractive woman, whom they deal with on a personal level on a daily basis, it is not uncommon for them to transfer affection and wind up with inappropriate attraction to the babysitter.

Men should be made aware of this pitfall, and understand what it all means and what they should do about it, which is to keep an arms-distance relationship with any woman not your wife and realize that any attraction is likely the result of stress and lack of sleep. It is certainly nothing worth ruining your life over.


33 posted on 06/30/2014 12:24:38 PM PDT by Haiku Guy (Health Care Haiku: If You Have a Right / To the Labor I Provide / I Must Be Your Slave)
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To: nickcarraway

Any video ?


34 posted on 06/30/2014 12:26:08 PM PDT by ImJustAnotherOkie (zerogottago)
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To: Haiku Guy
Betty Wright - The Babysitter
35 posted on 06/30/2014 12:27:02 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

What a “screwed-up” individual.


36 posted on 06/30/2014 12:27:48 PM PDT by hal ogen (First Amendment or Reeducation Camp?)
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To: Haiku Guy

Needless to say, the same applies to the mother in this case. Losing her sight is no doubt very stressful. Now she adds to that the stress of divorce. What happens when the Au Pair dumps her next year?


37 posted on 06/30/2014 12:29:14 PM PDT by Haiku Guy (Health Care Haiku: If You Have a Right / To the Labor I Provide / I Must Be Your Slave)
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To: F15Eagle

“From the article. She “didn’t know it”. She said.”

People who suffer from mental, spiritual, and moral disorders tend to lie...a lot.


38 posted on 06/30/2014 12:30:29 PM PDT by dsc (Any attempt to move a government to the left is a crime against humanity.)
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To: Haiku Guy
What happens when the Au Pair dumps her next year?

Already happened. They adopted a baby first. Now she is with another woman.

39 posted on 06/30/2014 12:30:42 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: Hegewisch Dupa

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_TbnkLI18w


40 posted on 06/30/2014 12:33:15 PM PDT by gusty
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To: nickcarraway

Been doing, actually. For quite some time.

Freshman year of undergrad I had a movie inflicted upon me in the mandatory Cinema Arts class. Plot was that a stuffy middle aged suburban housewife goes for a weeks getaway vaction at a Western dude ranch. Where the ranch’s younger and more attractive female owner awakens the housewife to the knowlege that she’s really gay.

With the “awakening” scene leaving very little to the imagination.

Crappy movie, actually, although it took me a while to get what the real underlying message was ...


41 posted on 06/30/2014 12:35:16 PM PDT by tanknetter
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To: left that other site
Are you talking about THIS PICTURE?


42 posted on 06/30/2014 12:38:58 PM PDT by freedomlover
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To: 11th_VA

43 posted on 06/30/2014 12:39:06 PM PDT by Bratch
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To: freedomlover

Guilty!


44 posted on 06/30/2014 12:40:03 PM PDT by left that other site (You shall know the Truth, and The Truth Shall Set You Free.)
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To: nickcarraway
Already happened. They adopted a baby first. Now she is with another woman.

So this woman, who would benefit greatly from having a devoted and helpful spouse to help her cope with the loss of her eyesight, flushed all that away for a brief fling with the babysitter.

How this is story is anything but tragic is beyond my understanding.

Maybe her ex-husband will be a stand-up guy and take her back, which would be far more than she deserves.

45 posted on 06/30/2014 12:58:37 PM PDT by Haiku Guy (Health Care Haiku: If You Have a Right / To the Labor I Provide / I Must Be Your Slave)
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To: Haiku Guy

No, she made it clear she wants nothing to do with men, and she has a new woman in her life.


46 posted on 06/30/2014 1:02:14 PM PDT by nickcarraway (</)
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To: nickcarraway

How sad.


47 posted on 06/30/2014 1:18:15 PM PDT by Haiku Guy (Health Care Haiku: If You Have a Right / To the Labor I Provide / I Must Be Your Slave)
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To: nickcarraway
She divorced Peter and married Marizette, with whom she split two years later.
48 posted on 06/30/2014 1:21:32 PM PDT by kcvl
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To: Haiku Guy

Now Macfarlane lives with a new (female) partner, Skye Grove, 46, a communications manager, in Cape Town – with five children.


49 posted on 06/30/2014 1:22:17 PM PDT by kcvl
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To: kcvl; Haiku Guy

With that name, she should probably be a TV weather lady.


50 posted on 06/30/2014 1:25:19 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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