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A question for women...

Posted on 07/18/2014 10:49:41 AM PDT by MNDude

Recently I was involved with a business meeting with another officer of our company with a woman seeking a contracting job with our company.

We went out to lunch for a long meeting to discuss what we were looking for and what she had to offer. After our meeting, she said something like "I'm sure you guys would like to discuss this with one another if I'm a match or not. I would like to excuse myself to the restroom." She then took her purse, put it in the middle of the table and left for the restroom.

We then started discussing our initial thoughts and concerns about our meeting with her. A while later she came back to rejoin us, and later on in the week, she sent us an email discussing possible objections we might have to hiring her.

The guy that I met with is convinced that she left a recorder inside her purse and and then put the purse in front of us to capture our conversation. He says "a woman would never leave her purse on the table with some guys she just met! She was recording us!"

I don't know what is normal for carrying and leaving a purse, so my question is for the women here. How odd is it that she left purse on the table with us while she went to the restroom? Odd enough to have suspicions about being recorded?


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1 posted on 07/18/2014 10:49:41 AM PDT by MNDude
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To: MNDude

As a woman, I NEVER leave my purse anywhere, anytime. It is “strapped” to me, if you catch my drift.


2 posted on 07/18/2014 10:51:44 AM PDT by left that other site (You shall know the Truth, and The Truth Shall Set You Free.)
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To: MNDude

Dude, you were had.
Women never go to the ladies room without their repair kit.


3 posted on 07/18/2014 10:52:04 AM PDT by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: MNDude

Hope you didn’t comment on her ‘assets’


4 posted on 07/18/2014 10:53:16 AM PDT by enraged
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To: MNDude

Women are ALWAYS recording you whether they have an electronic device or not.


5 posted on 07/18/2014 10:53:50 AM PDT by PapaNew (Freedom always wins the debate in the forum of ideas)
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To: MNDude

I wouldn’t have left it on the table. Of course, I wouldn’t have left an interview to use the restroom, either.


6 posted on 07/18/2014 10:54:09 AM PDT by DoodleDawg
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I never put my purse on any table. ewwweeew. Who knows there that purse has been. So yup, she recorded it to find out whether you said anything even remotely sexist. I don’t know what the laws are in your state but I would talk to a lawyer about this.... maybe a female lawyer.


7 posted on 07/18/2014 10:54:40 AM PDT by Mercat
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To: tet68

I agree, I would never leave my purse with someone I don’t know, sometimes even the ones I do know.

How close was she when she emailed “possible objections to be discussed” to what you discussed with her purse?


8 posted on 07/18/2014 10:55:10 AM PDT by kevslisababy
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Your friend was right. She was recording you. I am not a woman but have dated many over the years. No woman deliberately leaves her purse alone at the table while she goes to the W.C. by herself or with others. The most she might do is ask you to keep an eye on it while she leaves for a moment -on the seat next to you, not on the table where anyone passing by might nick it.


9 posted on 07/18/2014 10:55:44 AM PDT by Utilizer (Bacon A'kbar! - In world today are only peaceful people, and the mooslimbs trying to kill them-)
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To: MNDude

I thought women took their purses to the bathroom with them and not just because of privacy or theft concerns, but because they like to carry all their female needs and tools with them.


10 posted on 07/18/2014 10:55:53 AM PDT by ansel12 (LEGAL immigrants, 30 million 1980-2012, continues to remake the nation's electorate for democrats)
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To: MNDude

I’m a guy... but you were had.


11 posted on 07/18/2014 10:56:55 AM PDT by the_boy_who_got_lost (Real men scare liberals)
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I think she was recording you. I would never leave my purse with anyone other than my husband. Even then it’s rare, most especially if I am going to the restroom. If I am going to go get more drinks maybe.


12 posted on 07/18/2014 10:59:00 AM PDT by defconw (Both parties have clearly lost their minds!)
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To: MNDude

Are you in a state that prohibits recording a conversation without permission from all parties?


13 posted on 07/18/2014 10:59:00 AM PDT by Night Hides Not (Remember the Alamo! Remember Goliad! Remember Mississippi!)
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To: MNDude

No. I never leave my purse. She had a recorder.


14 posted on 07/18/2014 10:59:23 AM PDT by OpusatFR
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To: MNDude

Never in a million years. Of course I purse carry so that adds to it but... nope. We don’t leave our purses.


15 posted on 07/18/2014 11:00:49 AM PDT by JenB
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To: PapaNew

“Anything you say will be used against”


16 posted on 07/18/2014 11:00:58 AM PDT by Bailee
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To: MNDude

I think it is odd, but not unheard of. If her email mentioned things that you had brought up while she was away, then I think you’ve got something, but if not, then I think your coworker is being paranoid. There are probably laws about taping without your consent, so if you are concerned, check in to what those might be.


17 posted on 07/18/2014 11:01:28 AM PDT by FamiliarFace
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To: MNDude
I am assuming you live in Minnesota. If so and this conversation and alleged recording took place in Minnesota, do not hire her. She broke the law.

Minnesota is a one party consent state:

A one-party consent state permits individuals to record conversations to which they are a party without informing the other parties that they are doing so. In other words, one-party states allow recording of phone calls or conversations with the consent of only one of the parties to the conversation.

Since she was not a party to this conversation, she has in effect committed a wire-tapping felony. If you can get her to admit she recorded you in front of a witness or on a recording, tell her to not bother objecting or you will inform the authorities. End of story.

18 posted on 07/18/2014 11:02:05 AM PDT by Bloody Sam Roberts (Can anyone tell me who the head of the Muslim peace movement is?)
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If there was a recording device, then it is likely anything she gets would be totally illegal to be used in any way as doing such a thing is a felony in many places without your knowledge.


19 posted on 07/18/2014 11:04:20 AM PDT by VanDeKoik
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To: MNDude

I grew up in farm country, so I don’t carry a purse. I know that sounds unusual and I have considered carrying one, I do take a backpack to work for carrying certain useful items.

But I would be suspicious as heck, I would have left the room and discussed outside the room.

Could be she was “lawsuit shopping” a employment discrimination lawsuit.

What state are you in? Some states only have to have one party consent to recording...


20 posted on 07/18/2014 11:04:51 AM PDT by GraceG (No, My Initials are not A.B.)
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To: Bailee

Yeah, why aren’t they required to read us our Miranda rights first?


21 posted on 07/18/2014 11:10:20 AM PDT by PapaNew (Freedom always wins the debate in the forum of ideas)
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To: MNDude

Okay guys, here’s how it works:

1. You were recorded. I’m shocked that wasn’t obvious. I would have stated the obvious and then discussed sports until she came back. (Note: this stunt can also be pulled leaving a phone on the table instead of a purse. It’s not as obvious with a better result. Always assume you are being recorded in today’s society. So sad.)

2. I never leave my purse in public. It’s always on my person (as is my firearm).

3. At work, I never take my purse to the bathroom when I change a tampon. I slip the tampon in the front of my bra. However, I always take my purse to the bathroom so I can brush my teeth.

Hope this helps solve the mystery of a woman’s purse.... :)


22 posted on 07/18/2014 11:10:37 AM PDT by Oregon Betsy Ross
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To: MNDude

That’s the first thing I thought of. Not somebody I would trust about anything.


23 posted on 07/18/2014 11:12:53 AM PDT by Aliska
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To: MNDude

The purse may not have had a recording device, but that guy you “met with?” Promote him.


24 posted on 07/18/2014 11:14:06 AM PDT by 1rudeboy
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I think she was recording you too. I usually don’t even leave my purse with my husband.
She is very manipulative and I would stay as far away from her as possible. You don’t want to be associated with anyone that sneaky.


25 posted on 07/18/2014 11:14:13 AM PDT by Wiser now (Socialism does not eliminate poverty, it guarantees it.)
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To: Utilizer
while she goes to the W.C.

AKA the SB.

26 posted on 07/18/2014 11:14:30 AM PDT by PapaNew (Freedom always wins the debate in the forum of ideas)
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To: PapaNew

I had to click on his profile to see if he was a Limey.


27 posted on 07/18/2014 11:16:57 AM PDT by GOP_Party_Animal
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts

When I was a hiring manager we interviewed in one area, talked in another.

I was doing start ups at the time I spent half an hour reviewing the prospects work experience and then turned the Supervisors, for whom they might work on them.

Talked in the talk area, voted and then sent an up or down to HR.


28 posted on 07/18/2014 11:17:37 AM PDT by Little Bill (EVICT Queen Jean)
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To: GOP_Party_Animal

What’s W.C. other than “water cooler”?


29 posted on 07/18/2014 11:18:05 AM PDT by PapaNew (Freedom always wins the debate in the forum of ideas)
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To: Oregon Betsy Ross

:: At work, I never take my purse to the bathroom when I change a tampon. I slip the tampon in the front of my bra. However, I always take my purse to the bathroom so I can brush my teeth. ::

Ummmm, why would you need to brush your teeth after changing you tampon?


30 posted on 07/18/2014 11:19:16 AM PDT by Cletus.D.Yokel (Catastrophic Anthropogenic Climate Alteration: The acronym explains the science.)
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To: PapaNew

What’s W.C. other than “water cooler”?


Whiskey Cabinet!


31 posted on 07/18/2014 11:19:51 AM PDT by Rides_A_Red_Horse (Why do you need a fire extinguisher when you can call the fire department?)
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To: MNDude

I am not a woman but I have NEVER seen a woman willingly leave her purse behind with strangers.


32 posted on 07/18/2014 11:19:53 AM PDT by taxcontrol
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Never would ANY woman leave it! Whether I need what’s in it or not, where I go, it goes!


33 posted on 07/18/2014 11:20:23 AM PDT by informavoracious (Open your eyes, people!)
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To: defconw

‘I think she was recording you’

I hope she was cause this could get humorous, keep us up to date.


34 posted on 07/18/2014 11:21:52 AM PDT by Foundahardheadedwoman (God don't have a statute of limitations)
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To: MNDude

She just plopped her purse down in the middle of the dinner table? How weird. I might leave mine under my chair if I was going to wash my hands or something. But leaving in on the table is just plain rude and intrusive. I don’t know of any other women who would do that either.


35 posted on 07/18/2014 11:22:19 AM PDT by formosa
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To: PapaNew

Water Closet.

My purse never leaves my side when I’m out in public. MNDude, you were recorded.


36 posted on 07/18/2014 11:23:36 AM PDT by mplsconservative
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To: MNDude

Sorry to read this, and to answer your query; us women never leave our purses unattended, ever.


37 posted on 07/18/2014 11:23:43 AM PDT by AllAmericanGirl44
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A woman who left her purse with two people she just met? I wouldn’t hire her, because she’s either up to something (like recording your conversation) or she’s an idiot (leaving her purse with people she doesn’t know). If she doesn’t look after her own assets, how well will she protect company assets?


38 posted on 07/18/2014 11:24:34 AM PDT by Hoffer Rand (Bear His image. Bring His message. Be the Church.)
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No way would I walk away from my handbag and I don’t know of any woman who would do that. You are right to be suspicious.


39 posted on 07/18/2014 11:25:11 AM PDT by CityCenter (Resist Obamacare!)
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Don’t leave us haging, Dude.

Tell us what you guys said when she was in the restroom.


40 posted on 07/18/2014 11:25:24 AM PDT by skinndogNN
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‘Ummmm, why would you need to brush your teeth after changing you tampon?’

LOL! Good one.


41 posted on 07/18/2014 11:25:35 AM PDT by Foundahardheadedwoman (God don't have a statute of limitations)
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Water Closet.

Now that does sound like someone from England.

42 posted on 07/18/2014 11:25:54 AM PDT by PapaNew (Freedom always wins the debate in the forum of ideas)
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To: Oregon Betsy Ross
3. At work, I never take my purse to the bathroom when I change a tampon. I slip the tampon in the front of my bra. However, I always take my purse to the bathroom so I can brush my teeth.

Huh. Must be Fried Day.

FMCDH(BITS)

43 posted on 07/18/2014 11:31:46 AM PDT by nothingnew (Hemmer and MacCullum are the worst on FNC)
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I thought so when you mentioned the purse. Of course, she did.

But...if she did it was illegal because in states that you can record at least one person involved in the conversation has to know that it is being recorded.

My MIL is in a nursing home with dementia/Alzheimer’s you can tell when they’ve progressed to the last stages of the disease when they no longer keep their purses with them at all times.


44 posted on 07/18/2014 11:38:05 AM PDT by tiki
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I think she recorded you as well. I would never leave my purse behind if I was going to the restroom. (What if you guys went through it?) Then you would know our secrets! LOL. Also, I would not have left an interview to use the restroom. Weird.


45 posted on 07/18/2014 11:38:27 AM PDT by ProudChrwm
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“If there was a recording device, then it is likely anything she gets would be totally illegal to be used in any way as doing such a thing is a felony in many places without your knowledge.”

That may be absolutely true. It could also cost you big five figures to escape a lawsuit destined to fail, if brought.


46 posted on 07/18/2014 11:40:00 AM PDT by Attention Surplus Disorder (At no time was the Obama administration aware of what the Obama administration was doing)
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To: MNDude

Haha...what are laws in your state regarding recording someone? You better start researching. I ONLY leave my purse at a table with my husband....and NEVER on the table...yuk...


47 posted on 07/18/2014 11:40:09 AM PDT by goodnesswins (R.I.P. Doherty, Smith, Stevens, Woods)
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To: MNDude

Yes, she was recording. Why didn’t you suspect it immediately?


48 posted on 07/18/2014 11:40:24 AM PDT by Missouri gal
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Ha ha—too true!


49 posted on 07/18/2014 11:41:05 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: MNDude

I had her pegged for recording you the second you said she put her purse on the table. There should not be any question for you two never hiring her because she’ll have every inch of her office bugged and sue the company to extinction within two weeks.


50 posted on 07/18/2014 11:43:04 AM PDT by bgill
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