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Whatever happened to appearances and when did it happen?
Self | July 24, 2014 | Billhilly

Posted on 07/25/2014 11:06:44 AM PDT by billhilly

Appearances matter. All of our lives we were told that by our mothers, school teachers, employers and etiquette books.


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So, do appearances still matter? Not unless they are called Optics.It seems to some of us that the change is an unnecessary and even pompous usage to make the political talkinghead class appear more sophisticated than those old fashioned words, still used by mothers and others.

If it matters at all to others I would like to hear about it.

1 posted on 07/25/2014 11:06:44 AM PDT by billhilly
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To: billhilly

It matters to me. Call it stupid but I do judge/make fun of/ignore/hire people based on their appearance.


2 posted on 07/25/2014 11:10:17 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: billhilly

Civilization collapsed.


3 posted on 07/25/2014 11:13:12 AM PDT by BenLurkin (This is not a statement of fact. It is either opinion or satire; or both.)
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To: billhilly

Was recently at my physician’s office. An obese young woman came in wearing short shorts, a halter top and the obligatory flip flops. Surely she knew it was not a good look for her, but she didn’t care. That is the reason for the trashy appearance of those who cause us to avert our eyes in public places.


4 posted on 07/25/2014 11:15:42 AM PDT by txrefugee
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To: BenLurkin

Civilization collapsed.


In a way, yes, we are watching it before our eyes.

However, appearances most definitely matter. And those that think they don’t and apply that belief to their life find out the hard way that it DOES matter.

All of life is sales and marketing, and appearances are very much a part of that formula. And that belief has served me very well for my 60 years.


5 posted on 07/25/2014 11:16:10 AM PDT by cuban leaf (The US will not survive the obama presidency. The world may not either.)
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To: Resolute Conservative

Agree it started in the 60’s people dress like slobs and winos.


6 posted on 07/25/2014 11:16:43 AM PDT by Vaduz
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To: billhilly
If you don't care how you look, that says a lot about you.

Maybe prospective employers should show up at the houses of those applying for jobs.


7 posted on 07/25/2014 11:17:05 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: billhilly

When did we go from the toga to the three piece suit?


8 posted on 07/25/2014 11:18:00 AM PDT by Dr. Thorne ("Don't be afraid. Just believe." - Mark 5:36)
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To: Dr. Thorne

as soon as they were invented?


9 posted on 07/25/2014 11:19:04 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Dr. Thorne

When the center of civilization was no longer in the Med climate zone.


10 posted on 07/25/2014 11:19:40 AM PDT by edpc (Wilby 2016)
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To: Vaduz

You see the old movies and TV shows, people wore suits and proper clothes to do anything it seems


11 posted on 07/25/2014 11:20:02 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: billhilly

Appearances matter to me. I don’t even go to the gym without doing hair and makeup. I’m trim, tidy, have excellent posture and move well. All of which are worth the time and effort.

Do I judge others by their appearance? To some extent, but it’s not necessarily the most important thing. A dear friend, world’s greatest mom, has horrible posture and I see how that costs her. People don’t really know what they’re looking at, but if you slump around, they treat you with little respect.


12 posted on 07/25/2014 11:21:02 AM PDT by Veto! (OpInions freely dispensed as advice)
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To: billhilly
Here is your typical Hollywood liberal, Obama supporter:

It's how they recognize one another.

13 posted on 07/25/2014 11:21:58 AM PDT by TexasCajun
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To: billhilly

I’ll never forget the woman in her 30s who came to mass wearing a mini skirt up to her hiney and carrying a cup of Starbucks coffee.


14 posted on 07/25/2014 11:22:06 AM PDT by Wage Slave
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To: GeronL

Even to the dinner table. Look at old photos taken in the 20’s and 30’s. Everyone was wearing dresses, suits and ties...


15 posted on 07/25/2014 11:22:29 AM PDT by jsanders2001
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To: Vaduz

I rant to my wife unit all the time that one day the next bra strap I see, person wearing pajamas at the store, fat ass wearing body glove work out pants, or underwear sticking out will send me over the edge.

I am so tired of cargo shorts I could just ... well...


16 posted on 07/25/2014 11:22:42 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: GeronL
Maybe prospective employers should show up at the houses of those applying for jobs.

I know a guy who owns rental property who insists on a visit to the applicant's current home before renting to them.

17 posted on 07/25/2014 11:23:44 AM PDT by Still Thinking (Freedom is NOT a loophole!)
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To: Vaduz
hippies photo: Hippies 63cwnf5.jpg I never understood hippies.
18 posted on 07/25/2014 11:24:25 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: billhilly

The older I get, the less it matters. Lipstick on a pig and all that. And the younger I was, the less I could afford it...*sigh*... Throws up hands...

But here are two websites I always liked: http://www.acontinuouslean.com/ & http://www.styleforum.net/ ...

The first for just a lot of well-made, understated stuff, and the second for when I had specific questions about style.


19 posted on 07/25/2014 11:25:43 AM PDT by LibWhacker (A New WPA: Hire blacks to surround illegal enclaves and round up job-stealing illegal aliens)
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To: jsanders2001
and now....

I fear for the human race

20 posted on 07/25/2014 11:25:45 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: GeronL

Yep, I don’t ever remember seeing Ricky not wearing a sharp-looking suit on I Love Lucy.


21 posted on 07/25/2014 11:25:47 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Resolute Conservative
I rant to my wife unit all the time that one day the next bra strap I see, person wearing pajamas at the store, fat ass wearing body glove work out pants, or underwear sticking out will send me over the edge.

The cargo shorts don't bother me, but I detest all those other "styles".

22 posted on 07/25/2014 11:25:49 AM PDT by Still Thinking (Freedom is NOT a loophole!)
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To: billhilly

“Little drops of water;
Little grains of sand;
Make the mighty ocean,
And the pleasant land.”

There is a Divinely designed order to the rolls of women and men. It protects women, men, children, marriage families, society. It gives great dignity and purpose to men and women. Anything, anything seemingly “right,” or convenient, and apparently insignificant at the time, that affects that order has consequences.
Remember when girls wore dresses to school, and people dressed with dignity for church, and women relied on their husbands to vote wisely, and provide for them because their work at home was honorable.....


23 posted on 07/25/2014 11:25:52 AM PDT by WestwardHo
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To: Resolute Conservative
I am so tired of cargo shorts I could just ...

Aw... nothing wrong with cargo shorts; I like the pockets.

What's just wrong is wearing a size that reaches the knees.

24 posted on 07/25/2014 11:26:23 AM PDT by grobdriver (Where is Wilson Blair when you need him?)
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To: Morgana

25 posted on 07/25/2014 11:26:53 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: billhilly

It matters to me. Every day I am disgusted and offended by the way some people dress out in public. Even employers let employees get away with bad and tasteless attire. I tend not to go back to a business who has slobs representing them. I don’t care if you are over weight, you can still dress appropriately. And I am sickened by all the bare dirty feet in grocery stores and restaurants!!!!!!!


26 posted on 07/25/2014 11:29:02 AM PDT by Pilated
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To: GeronL

Now now she THINKS she’s sexy. That’s all that matters right?.../s

We need to kill PC and bring back the truth. Forget about how people feel when its obvious they’re incredibly stupid. Some people need to hear the truth. It tuns them into a better person.


28 posted on 07/25/2014 11:29:41 AM PDT by jsanders2001
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To: Still Thinking

great idea


29 posted on 07/25/2014 11:29:46 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Resolute Conservative
I am so tired of cargo shorts I could just...

Cargo shorts? You take umbrage at cargo shorts?

30 posted on 07/25/2014 11:29:54 AM PDT by Drango (A liberal's compassion is limited only by the size of someone else's wallet.)
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To: grobdriver

While functional I am tired of seeing them every where. Church, high end restaurants, I even had an idiot wear them to a job interview.


31 posted on 07/25/2014 11:30:15 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: Drango

See my 31.


32 posted on 07/25/2014 11:30:54 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: dfwgator; Morgana

Unfortunately they’ve done more than just smoke pot and smell bad.

They destroyed civilization.


33 posted on 07/25/2014 11:31:50 AM PDT by ifinnegan
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To: billhilly
I hear 'ya.
Grocery store and banks - wearing pajamas and slippers.
Worse, air travel used to be one of the few places where people still gave a darn about how they look - not anymore - Walmart-wear has come to the last bastion of decorum.
34 posted on 07/25/2014 11:32:08 AM PDT by Psalm 73 ("Gentlemen, you can't fight in here - this is the War Room".)
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To: Resolute Conservative

You’re not alone.

I always figure that a person’s appearance, to some extent reflects the inside of his/her head.

Also, no self-respecting individual goes around looking like a refugee, if they don’t have to.


35 posted on 07/25/2014 11:32:19 AM PDT by SMARTY ("When you blame others, you give up your power to change." Robert Anthony)
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To: txrefugee
Was recently at my physician’s office. An obese young woman came in wearing short shorts, a halter top and the obligatory flip flops. Surely she knew it was not a good look for her, but she didn’t care. That is the reason for the trashy appearance of those who cause us to avert our eyes in public places.

You just described a young mother I recently saw in a waiting room, only in addition to a similar manner of dress, she was slurping some kind of slushy thing.

The two kids in tow were around ages 5 and 7. Each had a bag of chips, wandering around the room, munching away and leaving crumb trails (never mind all the "No Food or Drink" signs).

The kids were still normal weight, but with the have-no-respect-for-yourself-or-others, pay-no-attention-to-rules-and-decorum, snack-no-matter-where-you-are learned lifestyle, that'll change in short order. Ugh.

36 posted on 07/25/2014 11:33:34 AM PDT by Ezekiel (All who mourn the destruction of America merit the celebration of her rebirth.)
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To: jsanders2001; dfwgator

Politically incorrect now

37 posted on 07/25/2014 11:34:01 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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(never mind all the "No Food or Drink" signs).

Were they in cursive??

38 posted on 07/25/2014 11:35:00 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Dr. Thorne

When did we go from the Toga to the three piece suit? It must have happened in my lifetime, because I can remember owning and wearing three piece suits.


39 posted on 07/25/2014 11:35:44 AM PDT by billhilly (Its OK, the left hated Bush.)
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To: GeronL

What’s with the mannequin at the head of the table?


40 posted on 07/25/2014 11:36:32 AM PDT by Psalm 73 ("Gentlemen, you can't fight in here - this is the War Room".)
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To: jsanders2001
Even the gambling tables.


A faro game at the Orient Saloon. Photo by C. S. Fly, ca. 1900.

41 posted on 07/25/2014 11:36:41 AM PDT by Bratch
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To: Psalm 73

"So how was your day Little Cindy?"

"Mrs. Krutz taught us all about fisting and lesbianism, I have a date with Lisa for sleep over"

"That's nice dear"

"Who is Lisa, sis, is she hot?"

"Oh, that my teachers first name, for when we aren't in school"

42 posted on 07/25/2014 11:39:29 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Psalm 73

It does look like that, doesn’t it?


43 posted on 07/25/2014 11:40:03 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: TexasCajun

Gadzooks! She looks...sticky.


44 posted on 07/25/2014 11:42:39 AM PDT by Sirius Lee (All that is required for evil to advance is for government to do "something")
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To: GeronL

Thanks to everyone for posting and confirming that appearances really do matter. “Optics” only matter to Politicians and MSNBC talkers.


45 posted on 07/25/2014 11:45:08 AM PDT by billhilly (Its OK, the left hated Bush.)
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To: GeronL
I fear for the human race

Especially if that last one sits on them.

46 posted on 07/25/2014 11:45:52 AM PDT by Still Thinking (Freedom is NOT a loophole!)
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To: Resolute Conservative

Hey man. I dress by calendar. After April 1st and before Nov 1, I am in shorts. That is just the way it is.

Not at church, but every day.


47 posted on 07/25/2014 11:46:20 AM PDT by Jim from C-Town (The government is rarely benevolent, often malevolent and never benign!)
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To: dfwgator

Ricky was a band leader in a Club. He dressed appropriately.


48 posted on 07/25/2014 11:47:19 AM PDT by Jim from C-Town (The government is rarely benevolent, often malevolent and never benign!)
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To: billhilly

What a nifty gadget, a cold box right in the house.... one day it's electric lights and now this... what's next an indoor toilet??

49 posted on 07/25/2014 11:47:22 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Sirius Lee

“I take a bath once a month whether I need it or not”


50 posted on 07/25/2014 11:49:30 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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