Posted on 05/17/2022 3:19:21 PM PDT by DFG
Wow. I don’t know how you get past that betrayal. I hope there is a way.
Being a father is more than just being sperm donor. Just sayin’.
If your dad didn’t know, would he have loved you any differently?
Japan, following WW2, was a basket case. A large population but little resources (why Japan started the wars)! If it had not been for MacArthur and Korea, it might have taken longer, but both happened and Japan became a miracle in recovery!
Most of history remembers MacArthur as ‘Dugout Doug’ and the cranky Army General bent on redeeming his promise to the Philippines. Or they remember the mad General who was replaced by the practical Truman when MacArthur wanted to nuke the Korean Border with Red China. What is forgot for the most part is the Shogun MacArthur who pacified and rebuilt Japan between 1945-50. While highly imperfect, MacArthur broke many of the Zaibatsu and the feudal land / agricultural monopolies that worked with the military to control pre-war Japan.
Indeed the changes might have continued if the Soviet Union had been less aggressive and the Red China take-over had not forced the US to encourage a strengthened Japan. Still, the MacArthur Shogunate did much to change Japan from a re-feudalized fascist state to an active democratized polity.
But one thing left unchanged is the rather rampant xenophobia that appears inherit to Japanese and other east asian cultures. The Japanese Nation has their own oppressed indigenous aborigines in the Ainu who were native hunter-gatherers on the norther islands before the influx of the ethnic Japanese (Yamato-jin).
After the WW2 defeat, there were the inevitable relations between impoverished women and the RICH conquerors of the US and the offspring thereof. In male-dominated Japan, such relations were viciously attacked and many suffered and others died. This man’s mother was able to find a better outcome and is to admired for it!
Great history and happy outcome. We, by our LEFTist Masters, are being force-fed a false history of how we are the most racist and hated culture. In reality, we have absorbed ever so many people and cultures that the rest of the world would have mostly expelled or killed. Yet this palpable fact is buried by a LEFT that hates it!
I too discovered a surprise via DNA testing. My paternal grandfather was not who we thought, but a neighbor who apparently attacked my grandmother. My died years before I figured it out.
The truth always prevails in the end.
What if the biological father (or "sperm donor" as you're calling him) doesn't know that he has a daughter out there?
Consider a scenario where a married woman has a fling while out of town and then comes home to her husband and fools hubby into thinking he got her pregnant so he will raise the child.
It happens.
My Dad joked to me the first time I went to Japan on business.
“ If you meet any red headed Japanese girls, say hello to your sister”. He was a sailor on the APA Calvert during the Korean war. Evidently Japan was Disneyland for adults at that time.
A toast with IRN BRU to your bio-heritage. My father's half brother (older) was put out for adoption when his mom died in childbirth. My dad finally made contact with his half brother. I've added his half brother and my half-cousins to the family tree in Ancestry. I have another cousin, the son of my mother's brother. My uncle wasn't made aware of the existence of his son until his son was 20 years old. I finally met my cousin Steve. We are both fans of skating. Off to the rink to do what we both love. Steve retained the surname of his adoptive father, but did get to meet his bio-dad.
The dad who does the task of raising the child is "dad" and deserves the appropriate love and appreciation for taking on the responsibility. Knowing your bio-dad is useful for knowing biological/ethnic heritage and any traits/deficits that come with the genetic lineage.
nice story but I am amazed how apparently uneducated so me servicemen are to think sex doesn’t lead to a baby.....just have sex and leave...no consequences.
Half-caste Japanese are treated little better today than they were decades ago. Even native Japanese who work overseas for “too long” become outcast as “not Japanese enough” when they return.
But all the ethnic Asian groups are like that. The Vietnamese vs the Montagnards for example. Or the Han Chinese vs everyone. What they call racism in America today is a bad joke compared to Asia. Or Central/South America. In LA where I was raised the tension between Whites and Blacks was minor compared to Blacks vs Mexicans. That is still true.
In my limited experience Whites tend to be the least exclusionary of all.
[Screwing around while you are married and then lying to your husband and your child is not what I’d call “best”.]
At the time, I wasn't thrilled about it because I was nine when he got here and I already had five younger brothers and sisters by then (we ended up with four more!)
It was hard transition for all of us - he didn't speak English and after the initial "cute" stage, he was a hand full and was repeatedly being disciplined (that is, beaten) by my parents and captured by the cops for minor stuff - usually swiping magazines.
But when the Vietnam War rolled around, he and I both volunteered - me in the Marines and him in the army. We were both in combat and both of us were wounded and both had full military careers.
He was and is my favorite brother.
My birth father left me when I was 3… he was going to kill my mother and 3 brothers. I decided to do the DNA test to see my family heritage on my father’s side. My wife decided to take a DNA test with me. I have Scottish background… (maybe we’re related.) But a mystery popped on my wife’s ancestry. A woman contacted via email wanting to know if she had family relatives with names we never heard of…. Well, to make a short story long - her mother revealed that she was “date raped” when she was 17. The man did not own up to the pregnancy and her mother wound up marrying another man. She found out when she was 61 years old! In the following year her mother died. It has been a roller coaster ride of emotion. Why didn’t her mother tell her for so many years? Was it fear? Was it shame? Her mother was afraid that she would hate her for not telling her. Instead there was forgiveness. She met her “new” dad, two new brothers and a new sister she never knew. She was born 6 months before her brother from this new family… You could make a movie out of the twists and turns in this story!
My suggestion is to not take on the darkness of another’s sins. Try to take another look at the situation from 40,000 feet. We 100% live in a broken world and the temptations that exist in it can only be judged within the time that it happens. I hate to see people harbor unforgiveness because of the effects it has on those who hold on to it. I found out I am from the McVicker clan… What’s your clan, do you know? PS - My wife also has Scottish background - But, more importantly through her “new” family that she didn’t know she has traced her heritage to one of the Mayflower passengers and is a member of the Mayflower Descendants Society.
Yes, Auntie Dem, he is.
The sperm donor knew my mother was married and screwed around with her anyway. They were 2 pieces of sh^t.
Worse than that was the guy I thought was my dad died of colon and rectal cancer at 61 and because of that I had to have bi-annual colonoscopies.
Turns out the bio dad lived to 84 and died of renal failure.
Didn’t need the scope up the wazoo so frequently.
Yes, nick he is.
Sorry, I’m not using the best terms.
Try Ancestry. You’ll find out the truth.
I don’t think so. Her screwing around was just the tip of the iceberg.
She took pleasure in hurting people. Laughed about it.
I often ask God why he gave me such an evil witch for a mother. It messed me up for years.
I just found out a little over a year ago. I’m still shocked.
When I think about the family I could have known, I cry.
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