Skip to comments.I Donít Want to Date a Republican!
Posted on 03/23/2012 7:43:19 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
As a lifelong Democrat, I never thought I would be in this place. I never thought I would have to confront this dreaded unforeseen fear - the terror that is for me, dating a Republican. I dont even know very many Republicans. But it turns out, Im not alone. Outside of Washington D.C., the entire country is pretty segregated when it comes to political parties. According to dating website, seven out of ten people are in a relationship with someone of the same political persuasion. I grew up knowing very few Republicans and the rare ones I did know got made fun behind their backs, be it children or adults. I know there were some Republicans at my college because there was a College Republicans group on campus but this was the Bushy era and the conservatives who were smart enough to get into my university were too smart to be vocal defenders of the Dick Cheney puppet show that was the aughts. Ive been living in Los Angeles ever since in the type of place where at the moment President Obama was pronounced the winner of his race, we threw open our windows and whooped and shrieked out into the streets till an impromptu parade erupted and bars served free drinks. I cried. Ive worked for the Democratic Party, interned for a Democratic Congressman and Senator. And even though I went to a more conservative law school, there were enough liberals on campus that if you included the faculty, we could flock together so that I rarely interacted with those others who met with our derision.
So when I tell you I never thought I would date a Republican, its not because I really contemplated it and made a specific decision. Its because as long as I didnt drive to Orange County, my chances of actually running into one felt slim to none. We live in a birds-of-a-feather type of country. So how did I get to here? How did I come to date a man who told me he liked a lot of Mitt Romneys ideas and that he thought John Kerry wasnt really a war hero and that cap and trade is a terrible system. At first I didnt think it would be a big issue. I fell in love with someone who has many similar interests and a big generous heart and when he told me he was an Independent I thought that was just something moderate Democrats said when being pretentious about how non-conformist they are. I didnt realize I was dating someone who would spend every single Tuesday night glued to Wolf Blitzers analysis of another Republican primary. And to be frank, at this point, its making me freak out. I get mad at him just thinking about our past political discussions. I cant date a Republican! What was I thinking? What if I have little Republican babies?
Naturally, he doesnt think its a big deal. He keeps saying we can always find common ground. But I find myself angry with him for things that I expect to take for granted. He admitted to me that the word liberal for him had a bad connotation and that the word conservative did not. Its hard to blame him when this is a common phenomena in our country now so that only 20% of the population identifies as liberal while 40% is willing to identify as conservative. I tell him this is a direct result of the vitriol that Fox News and Rush Limbough and Glen Beck have injected into our discourse and he shouldnt buy into their demonizing of the left. But for my boyfriend, liberal means big government inefficiency. Im normally a calm person, but when he said this, I was close to flipping out. How could he buy into all that? Hes a smart person, he reads reputable news sources. And yet, I continually find myself mad at him for buying into conservative propaganda.
Everyone always points to Mary Matalin and James Carville as shining examples of a couple with different political beliefs and a stable marriage. But honestly, have you seen them bicker on tv? I love watching them but I dont want to fight like that in my home. I want my home to be a place of tranquility and calm and little social justice fighters playing pin your favorite president on the blue donkey.
Another burgeoning concern is that Im starting to feel like I always have to watch what I say. Yes, I know there are many intelligent Republicans out there and if the party was made up of just David Frums and Christopher Buckleys or even Mitt Romneys, theyd be a reasonable moderate party that I have an intellectual disagreement with and there wouldnt be anything to make fun of. But for now, there are a lot of crazy extremist kooks running the Republican party and when you get into Santorum territory and Palin country, I want the freedom to openly mock and deride in a forum where I dont have to worry about offending someone. Is that so wrong? Im sick of back-peddling every time I accidentally call them teabaggers.
Months ago, we got to talking about Ron Paul, or rather, my boyfriend got to telling me all about him. Although, we dont disagree that much on social issues, we disagree quite a bit about how influential social issues should be when it comes to casting a ballot, so we started to really get into it. At one point, I said that certain individual rights and liberties should be the most important issue and I was disappointed in my boyfriend because he was willing to forgo those liberties in order to make a buck. He was offended and hurt. Admittedly, I went too far and I believe he is compassionate for those less fortunate and I know he doesnt think hes sacrificing civil rights for money. But I was making an impassioned argument and this is how liberals talk when were amongst friends. To stay in my relationship, I must resolve myself somewhat to being more careful in my language now when talking about fiscal conservatives but in so doing, is that the best decision for a healthy relationship? No one wants to have to walk on eggshells around their partner.
Last week, I went over to my boyfriends to watch the HBO docudrama Game Change about Palins Vice Presidential bid over some wine and take-out. When it was over, I felt bad for John McCain, but outraged at all the doltish hicks who were venerating this ignorant backwards woman who reveled in her lack of knowledge. My boyfriend on the other hand, said he felt bad for her.
How can you feel bad for her? I was shocked. Why is it always the Republican party that nominates idiots? Joe the Plumber, Christine ODonnell. Democrats would never allow someone who didnt understand what the fed was to run for city councilman let alone the Vice-Presidency.
How much do you really know about what the Fed does? He shot back.
I almost lost it. In that moment, he was impugning my knowledge and at the same time defending Sarah Palin. I was livid. How can I build my life with someone who defends Sarah Palin and thinks liberal is a dirty word? We went back and forth for a while with me spouting off economic knowledge and him keeping my rhetoric in check. But I went to bed angry that night.
I know were not supposed to try to change our significant others, but I cant help but hope that I might be able to make a tried and true blue Democrat out of him. Its worked somewhat so far, as Ive been able to convince him that John Kerry really was a war hero and that Mitt Romney has backtracked on climate change. And maybe I am better off calling them teapartyers and aside from adjusting interest rates I dont really know that much about the Fed. Congress recently passed the first Bi-partisan piece of legislation in years so if they can do it, surely two people who love each other and share many of the same values can find common ground as well. Now, if I could only get him to start watching Bill Maher with me
And she can't get a date? Really? All she needs to do is go to the nearest homeless shelter, or drunk tank, or OWS tent. Lotsa "prizes" to be found.
This has to be satire.
I dated Dumocraps during my university days...
They were good for 2 things: sex and nothing else. I had my conversations with another steady girlfriend and if she was on PMS, I called up the Dem sex friend.
I feel for this woman. She’s fallen hook, line and sinker for the “I can change him... all he need is the love of a good woman!” (Been there.)
She needs to break up with him and seek therapy. Politics have nothing to do with what ails her.
If he likes Mitt Romneys ideas, what makes her think he’s a republican?
The “boyfriend” is brainwashed.
Does the woman actually want a brainwashed guy?
Seriously. A guy without an independent brain.
I’d just point out to the ‘lady’, that a whole lot of Republicans, were once democrats.
There’s a reason they’re not, anymore.
They woke the “f*” up. From the exact brainwashing she has.
Bubble-head is not attractive.
Here is a video of them driving in a car:
I’ll bet a week at any “Occupy” camp would turn her into a Goldwater Republican!!
Oh, is this the only thing little princess has to worry about?
Can’t WAIT until her 401K and savings are cleaned out and her taxes go up and her groceries cost 15% more and her electricity costs too much and her car breaks down and her health care disappears....
Idiot. Maybe she’ll break a nail and have to be institutionalized-then, she won’t have to worry her petty head-—(I MEANT that typo.)
She need to look up the definition of the word bigot
Fifteen years ago, I would have thought this was humor or something
Wasn’t it Jonathan Edward’s wife who said she did not know any Republicans, but knew there was one living nearby, and she was frightened of him?
After being with her, I'd suspect that the boyfriend would benefit from some serious therapy as well.
I was thinking Detroit, but Okay.
Wow. If I were him, I’d marry her, just to kill her off for the insurance money.
Try the earlier, hilarious, look at inter-party dating - from Breitbart’s Big Hollywood site, I give you “My Weekly Date With a Liberal”:
Not such an issue. Who wants to deal with a woman who's sole purpose is to make everyone else's life a living hell. Is there any other definition for a democrat?
Hit it and quit it.
You are not paying a prostitute for sex, you’re paying her to leave and not say “call me” on her way out.