Skip to comments.I Donít Want to Date a Republican!
Posted on 03/23/2012 7:43:19 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
As a lifelong Democrat, I never thought I would be in this place. I never thought I would have to confront this dreaded unforeseen fear - the terror that is for me, dating a Republican. I dont even know very many Republicans. But it turns out, Im not alone. Outside of Washington D.C., the entire country is pretty segregated when it comes to political parties. According to dating website, seven out of ten people are in a relationship with someone of the same political persuasion. I grew up knowing very few Republicans and the rare ones I did know got made fun behind their backs, be it children or adults. I know there were some Republicans at my college because there was a College Republicans group on campus but this was the Bushy era and the conservatives who were smart enough to get into my university were too smart to be vocal defenders of the Dick Cheney puppet show that was the aughts. Ive been living in Los Angeles ever since in the type of place where at the moment President Obama was pronounced the winner of his race, we threw open our windows and whooped and shrieked out into the streets till an impromptu parade erupted and bars served free drinks. I cried. Ive worked for the Democratic Party, interned for a Democratic Congressman and Senator. And even though I went to a more conservative law school, there were enough liberals on campus that if you included the faculty, we could flock together so that I rarely interacted with those others who met with our derision.
So when I tell you I never thought I would date a Republican, its not because I really contemplated it and made a specific decision. Its because as long as I didnt drive to Orange County, my chances of actually running into one felt slim to none. We live in a birds-of-a-feather type of country. So how did I get to here? How did I come to date a man who told me he liked a lot of Mitt Romneys ideas and that he thought John Kerry wasnt really a war hero and that cap and trade is a terrible system. At first I didnt think it would be a big issue. I fell in love with someone who has many similar interests and a big generous heart and when he told me he was an Independent I thought that was just something moderate Democrats said when being pretentious about how non-conformist they are. I didnt realize I was dating someone who would spend every single Tuesday night glued to Wolf Blitzers analysis of another Republican primary. And to be frank, at this point, its making me freak out. I get mad at him just thinking about our past political discussions. I cant date a Republican! What was I thinking? What if I have little Republican babies?
Naturally, he doesnt think its a big deal. He keeps saying we can always find common ground. But I find myself angry with him for things that I expect to take for granted. He admitted to me that the word liberal for him had a bad connotation and that the word conservative did not. Its hard to blame him when this is a common phenomena in our country now so that only 20% of the population identifies as liberal while 40% is willing to identify as conservative. I tell him this is a direct result of the vitriol that Fox News and Rush Limbough and Glen Beck have injected into our discourse and he shouldnt buy into their demonizing of the left. But for my boyfriend, liberal means big government inefficiency. Im normally a calm person, but when he said this, I was close to flipping out. How could he buy into all that? Hes a smart person, he reads reputable news sources. And yet, I continually find myself mad at him for buying into conservative propaganda.
Everyone always points to Mary Matalin and James Carville as shining examples of a couple with different political beliefs and a stable marriage. But honestly, have you seen them bicker on tv? I love watching them but I dont want to fight like that in my home. I want my home to be a place of tranquility and calm and little social justice fighters playing pin your favorite president on the blue donkey.
Another burgeoning concern is that Im starting to feel like I always have to watch what I say. Yes, I know there are many intelligent Republicans out there and if the party was made up of just David Frums and Christopher Buckleys or even Mitt Romneys, theyd be a reasonable moderate party that I have an intellectual disagreement with and there wouldnt be anything to make fun of. But for now, there are a lot of crazy extremist kooks running the Republican party and when you get into Santorum territory and Palin country, I want the freedom to openly mock and deride in a forum where I dont have to worry about offending someone. Is that so wrong? Im sick of back-peddling every time I accidentally call them teabaggers.
Months ago, we got to talking about Ron Paul, or rather, my boyfriend got to telling me all about him. Although, we dont disagree that much on social issues, we disagree quite a bit about how influential social issues should be when it comes to casting a ballot, so we started to really get into it. At one point, I said that certain individual rights and liberties should be the most important issue and I was disappointed in my boyfriend because he was willing to forgo those liberties in order to make a buck. He was offended and hurt. Admittedly, I went too far and I believe he is compassionate for those less fortunate and I know he doesnt think hes sacrificing civil rights for money. But I was making an impassioned argument and this is how liberals talk when were amongst friends. To stay in my relationship, I must resolve myself somewhat to being more careful in my language now when talking about fiscal conservatives but in so doing, is that the best decision for a healthy relationship? No one wants to have to walk on eggshells around their partner.
Last week, I went over to my boyfriends to watch the HBO docudrama Game Change about Palins Vice Presidential bid over some wine and take-out. When it was over, I felt bad for John McCain, but outraged at all the doltish hicks who were venerating this ignorant backwards woman who reveled in her lack of knowledge. My boyfriend on the other hand, said he felt bad for her.
How can you feel bad for her? I was shocked. Why is it always the Republican party that nominates idiots? Joe the Plumber, Christine ODonnell. Democrats would never allow someone who didnt understand what the fed was to run for city councilman let alone the Vice-Presidency.
How much do you really know about what the Fed does? He shot back.
I almost lost it. In that moment, he was impugning my knowledge and at the same time defending Sarah Palin. I was livid. How can I build my life with someone who defends Sarah Palin and thinks liberal is a dirty word? We went back and forth for a while with me spouting off economic knowledge and him keeping my rhetoric in check. But I went to bed angry that night.
I know were not supposed to try to change our significant others, but I cant help but hope that I might be able to make a tried and true blue Democrat out of him. Its worked somewhat so far, as Ive been able to convince him that John Kerry really was a war hero and that Mitt Romney has backtracked on climate change. And maybe I am better off calling them teapartyers and aside from adjusting interest rates I dont really know that much about the Fed. Congress recently passed the first Bi-partisan piece of legislation in years so if they can do it, surely two people who love each other and share many of the same values can find common ground as well. Now, if I could only get him to start watching Bill Maher with me
See he's not really a conservative after all.
My thoughts exactly. She is either a Rush Dittohead or a complete blithering idiot.
Come back in 10 years and see how "gorgeous" she once was.
As usual, no substance. Trite, superficial and narrow minded. Typical Leftist.
Ask the lib to explain their co-travelers - Marx, Lenin, Stalin, Hitler, Mao, Pol Pot, Ho Chi Min, Castro, Noriega, Chavez. And lib support of slavery here in the USA!
No kidding! I converted an old girlfriend and my current one to the conservative side.
Read the rest of her stuff....she’s a pathetic freak.
Case in point:
The blond from Top Gun.
No offense intended. But she seems these days ... unhappy.
My thoughts exactly. She is either a Rush Dittohead or a complete blithering idiot.
Care to explain please, what’s wrong with being a “Rush Dittohead”?
I wouldn’t date this crazy moonbat broad if she were the last woman on Earth.
If the boyfriend had a lick of sense he’d kick her to the curb.
With Rat women (and men too) you can never be sure “where they’ve been”.Add to that their defective sense of decency and lack of conscience and I’d never be desperate enough to want to get within 100 feet of any of them.
I watched that movie a couple of nights ago. It was weird seeing a gay man trying to pickup a gay woman in the bathroom. (not that there's anything wrong with that!)
Politics is just another word for "values." Know someone's politics and you know their values. Date accordingly.
I don't care how nice the package is wrapped, if it's full of crap, it's full of crap.
Laughing out loud right now.
Classic scene, my nominee for one of the best ever. I really, really liked that line “so I can make an even bigger mistake with a younger guy?”
Liberals suck tho.
She "writes" a blog that reads like a poor, low budget daytime soap opera, and whines about everything imaginable. Catty, petty, vapid and absurd.
And she's a lawyer, in Kalefornia.
I take it that she’s the type of girl that won’t go hunting or fishing with me, and her idea of hot sex is putting polish on her finger nails in bed while doing it? Most of the women I knew growing up who were liberals were just not that attractive and always had an ax to grind. Apparently nothing changed.
Nothing. I am one also. My point was that either she was a Rush supporter writing satire, or a stupid person....