I'm thinking what that means is, it's the child's choice as to the way (means) of sexual contact
That is really disgusting, isn't it? I cannot IMAGINE being a child in a home that had these possibilities. I have not finished reading "A Hundred Years of Pedophilia" but what I read so far is so very sad.
We have accumulated so many links on this subject, haven't we? It's getting kinda' difficult to keep it all straight. (no put intended) But it's all very helpful.