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Why is there a bias against interracial dating?
AJC ^ | 1/10/04 | AJC

Posted on 01/10/2004 7:02:50 PM PST by freedom44

Shaunti Feldhahn, a right-leaning columnist, writes the commentary this week and Diane Glass, a left-leaning columnist, responds

SHAUNTI FELDHAHN for ajc.com

As a kid, I never realized there was a bias against interracial dating -- or that any serious racial bias still existed. Like most kids in the Washington, D.C.-area melting pot, I grew up around everyone from the children of African diplomats to kids who came over on the boats from Cambodia. My classmates spoke every language and lived in everything from luxury lake homes to public housing. Our dinner guests were just as likely to be from Nigeria or India as from Kansas or California.

After graduation, I left home for a summer waitressing job at a Colorado guest ranch, completely unaware that my multi-racial upbringing had been unusual. I learned fast.

Twenty young staffers came to the ranch from all over the country, and we girls put up pictures and frills to make each bunk our own. One evening, I showed another waitress my snapshots. She gestured at a Homecoming picture of me and my best friend with our dates, standing in front of my date's vintage Mercedes.

"And who is this," she asked, "your chauffer?"

"No, silly," I laughed, "he's my date."

"Your date?" She pulled away, appalled that I would go to Homecoming with a black friend. She stood up, walked out of the room and never spoke to me again. From then on, she communicated through other staff members. "Mary, tell Shaunti to fill the syrup bottles."

Word got around quickly. The next morning, the two cooks -- two young men who had been my friends -- started chanting, "once you go black, you never go back" over and over again. I was horrified, and had no idea how to respond. They were merciless the rest of the summer, and I received a ruthless and swift education.

Why is there a bias against interracial dating, especially between blacks and whites? Almost certainly, people with that bias are people who have no close friends of other races. And unfortunately that's still a sizeable population. Once you have spent time with each other, cried on each other's shoulders, worshipped together at church, or played games long into the night at each other's homes, somehow the idea of their daughter dating your son becomes a non-issue.

And that relationship, by the way, is what makes the difference between giving politically-correct lip service to racial diversity and having a real love for one another as people, and a desire for community.

The problem is, there will always be those who choose to wall themselves off from those friendships, whether out of subtle discomfort or hard-core bigotry. But in most cases, no wall is wanted. It's just that someone of another color seems different. And they are different. We all are. A rich mixture of different elements makes us all who we are -- including our race, gender, economic background, faith, beliefs and interests. That's what makes relationships so interesting and worthwhile, including dating relationships. And because racially biased people have never experienced it, they don't understand what a blessing that diversity can be.

Rebuttal Diane Glass AJC columnist

Shaunti gets a gold star for political correctness. I don't think many would disparage her heartfelt experience. But asking "why is there racism" isn't nearly as interesting or provocative as asking what you are going to do in the face of bigotry? We all know racism exists. Knowing something doesn't change it. Doing something does.

After Shaunti faced racism head on, what did she do? Did she shy away from interracial dating as an adult, bite her tongue and shake her head in silent disapproval? Or did she fight bigotry with spirited defiance? Silence and obedience are just as toxic a poison. And the question I'm dying to ask is: Would Shaunti consider marrying a black man? She advocates a stable home where the triple scourge of divorce, atheism and gay marriage endanger children. How would she feel about an interracial marriage fraught with social stigma, family arguments and sarcastic barbs at school? Would she take a stand against racism if her children had to suffer?

I wonder.

I ask because the statistics suggest that many may lament the failings of a racist culture but few want to withstand the approbation when racial boundaries are crossed. Since 1980, interracial marriages have more than doubled but today this still only represents a mere 2 percent of married couples in 2000.

Interracial dating isn't so black and white. Pardon the pun. And yet it is. The Asian population intermixes with any race and this barely raises an eyebrow. Likewise with Hispanics. It's often an issue of black and white relationships. Black men with white women is the most problematic for Americans, even though black men and white women are more than twice as likely to marry than black women and white men.

Resentment and a healthy dose of prejudice are veiled in the tales about the mythic physical endowments of black men. Yet racism isn't only a failing of the white population. Black women often feel betrayed by black men who look outside of their race and choose the arms of an enemy who exemplifies the American ideal. The blond Ivory Girl smile and blue eyes of Tiger Woods' future wife no doubt raised the ire of many who wondered why such a powerful role model to black youth couldn't embrace his own race.

Racism, like the history of marriage, is about power: Who has it, who wants it, how can I get it? People feel betrayed and angry about interracial couples because these couples step across enemy lines. "Can we all just get along?" That's not likely until power among the races is on a level playing field and marriage, or dating, is no longer an act of treason.


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KEYWORDS: african; asian; black; blacks; caucasian; dating; diversity; intermixed; interracial; marriage; mixed; multiculturalism; pc; white; whites
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1 posted on 01/10/2004 7:02:51 PM PST by freedom44
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To: freedom44
After reading this article, I'm more happy than ever that I was raised in home without American race based drama. My mom was shocked that interracial marriage was illegal when she first came to this country 1963. She's a West Indian creole woman herself, and my father is Italian. The only reason why black-white is such an issue is because of the past history between the two groups in this country. Either way, race was NEVER brought up in this home because I had two parents who had better things to do.
2 posted on 01/10/2004 7:07:52 PM PST by cyborg
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3 posted on 01/10/2004 7:09:01 PM PST by Support Free Republic (Your support keeps Free Republic going strong!)
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To: freedom44
The only time I hear of the issue of whites/blacks marrying, it is usually brought up by a black person complaining that the best black men turn against their race and marry white women.

It has never been an issue with anyone I've ever known.
4 posted on 01/10/2004 7:12:47 PM PST by kingu (Remember: Politicians and members of the press are going to read what you write today.)
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To: cyborg
Either way, race was NEVER brought up in this home because I had two parents who had better things to do.

Same here, and further, not ONE of us six children married another WASP. I have Black, Cherokee, Jewish, and Hispanic relatives as well. It makes family get togethers interesting and often quite funny.

I think it is a generational thing. The older generations may have been appalled, and this is learned behavior...

5 posted on 01/10/2004 7:12:52 PM PST by Gorzaloon (Contents may have settled during shipping, but this tagline contains the stated product weight.)
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To: kingu
Reading too much Terry McMillan books
6 posted on 01/10/2004 7:13:46 PM PST by cyborg
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To: freedom44
That's not likely until power among the races is on a level playing field

I've never seen this "uneven playing field" that people keep talking about. Where is it?

7 posted on 01/10/2004 7:16:40 PM PST by Sir Gawain
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To: Gorzaloon
Things are very different. I'm glad I'm living in America today in the year 2004 where every last little issue doesn't divide along racial lines (no matter what the media says).
8 posted on 01/10/2004 7:17:04 PM PST by cyborg
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To: cyborg
Reading too much Terry McMillan books

'fraid the name doesn't ring a bell, and being on a very slow dialup connection at the moment, googling to find out who it is doesn't really appeal at the moment. My experience has been listening to talk radio, where the topic will go on for hours and hours.
10 posted on 01/10/2004 7:22:47 PM PST by kingu (Remember: Politicians and members of the press are going to read what you write today.)
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To: kingu
Waiting to Exhale by Terry McMillan, the bible for the angry black female (and some wonder why they're still single) My experienc is the same with talk radio, esp. when I heard things like 'Kobe is guilty. What's he doing messing with white women?' :sigh:
11 posted on 01/10/2004 7:25:05 PM PST by cyborg
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To: freedom44
I live across the street from two interacial couples; in Forsyth County, Georgia, no less. I haven't observed any of the neighbors treat them any differently than any other married couples.

They've been good neighbors so far; that's all I care about.

12 posted on 01/10/2004 7:26:32 PM PST by Trailerpark Badass
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To: kingu
..wrote "Waiting to Exhale"..became a movie with Whitney Houston and Angela Bassett. Then wrote "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" which became a movie with Whoopi Goldberg.
13 posted on 01/10/2004 7:29:31 PM PST by fight_truth_decay
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To: nugnut
I dated a black woman while in the army and my wife dated black men while she was in college. No big deal to me, but I have noticed an interesting dynamic. It's OK for whites (at least in Oregon) to date outside their race but god forbid a black or hispanic sees one of their daughters dating a white guy. My sister-in-law married a Mexican guy living in Nor-Cal but a good buddy of mine in my National Guard unit was seriously pissed about his daughter dating a non-mexican. It's kinda funny, I can't repeat what I told this guy cuz there's some serious "don't ask, don't tell implications" (guys that have been in all male combat units will probably get it) but we all had a good laugh about the double standard.
14 posted on 01/10/2004 7:35:29 PM PST by Tailback
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To: fight_truth_decay
How Stella Got Her Groove Back was actually good (I'd even recommend watching it. Whoopie stole the show as usual)... WTE was another story,long and drawn out.
15 posted on 01/10/2004 7:36:00 PM PST by cyborg
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To: cyborg; fight_truth_decay
Thanks for the info, I'll remember who to ignore if the name ever comes up in conversation. Then again, I come across a version of it in the American Indian community, with women complaining that the best men get taken by White women, and American Indian men complaining that the best women get taken by White men.
16 posted on 01/10/2004 7:36:17 PM PST by kingu (Remember: Politicians and members of the press are going to read what you write today.)
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To: freedom44
I wasn't aware there was such a bias. Somehow I keep missing these memos.
17 posted on 01/10/2004 7:38:31 PM PST by gitmo (Who is John Galt?)
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To: freedom44
One of my older sisters dated a black guy during her rebellious stage and ended up marrying him.

My father who is from the south was very opposed to it, so my parents didn't attend the wedding, though the rest of us did and had no problem with it.

Though the marriage didn't last long, and she's remarried twice since (both white guys..so much for the "once you go black you never go back" cliche) it opened my eyes up to the degree of opposition against interracial couples.

I had a brother marry a Korean and another married a girl from Guam and my parents initially gave them both problems about it.

However, I've had many, if not mostly black friends during my life and found that there is a lot of opposition to interracial dating and marriage in the black community as well.

I think prefering one's own race is a natural tendency and doesn't necessarily mean that much otherwise.

18 posted on 01/10/2004 7:40:18 PM PST by Jorge
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To: cyborg
At first, I wasn't going to respond to your post but your comments are something else.

You seem to be just as angry as those black females you accuse. Maybe some of those black women react the way they do because they are aware of history. It is a historial fact that SOME white women have falsely accused SOME black men of "wanting them" and the black men got hung or worse for it. Even in law, I believe it was Jared Taylor who brought up in his book, Paved With Good Intentions, that in rape cases, when the victim is black and the perp is black, the burden of proof is on the woman. When the victim is white, suddenly, the burden of proof SHIFTS to the black man to prove that he's innocent. With Kobe Bryant, why isn't the history of his "alleged" victim allowed to be considered? Maybe because it destroys the notion that SOME white women are as pure as snow as SOME white men have propped them up to be. But, I haven't been keeping up with the case so that might not even be relevant.

The sad truth is the history of blacks and whites in this country is bitter and painful. White women were right there with white men, discriminating against blacks, encouraging and defending the abuse of black men and women and, if you're black, you would know that. Maybe that's why so many of those so-called "angry black women" feel the way they do about black men who feel the need to chase down white women as if white women were the only women on the planet.

And before you "go there", I am a black woman who is happily married to a black man.
19 posted on 01/10/2004 7:42:09 PM PST by Sister_T (Democrats are the REAL enemies to freedom in the world!)
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To: Jorge
I do not about you guys, but I feel uncortable dating women of other ethnic background.

I can work with them and chat with people of other ethnicities, but when it comes to dating, I prefer someone similar to me.
20 posted on 01/10/2004 7:42:35 PM PST by Magno
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To: cyborg
..why such a powerful role model to black youth couldn't embrace his own race"

Tiger is part Asian, part white, part Native American, and part African-American.

When Fuzzy Zoeller made the stereotypical joke about blacks' eating habits in reference to Woods, the national media jumped on Zoeller. Tiger didn't involve himself in the issue.

When President Clinton extended an invitation to Woods to attend the Jackie Robinson tribute at Shea Stadium, Tiger refused, and it was reported Woods had nicer words for Zoeller than for President Clinton.

21 posted on 01/10/2004 7:46:04 PM PST by fight_truth_decay
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To: freedom44
I dated a woman who was half black. We didn't get any grief here in CT or back home in Il when I went to visit the folks. However, we took a trip to Germany and should have seen the stares I got there. I look very German. It was like I was being accused of heresy.
22 posted on 01/10/2004 7:47:06 PM PST by raybbr
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To: Magno
I can work with them and chat with people of other ethnicities, but when it comes to dating, I prefer someone similar to me.

And there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with feeling that way. Even though I went out with white guys (I'm a black woman), I KNEW my husband would be black. So, like Walter Williams, I practiced discrimination. I didn't want the hassle, grief and heartburn that interracial dating would bring.

23 posted on 01/10/2004 7:48:48 PM PST by Sister_T (Democrats are the REAL enemies to freedom in the world!)
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To: Sister_T
Where do I express anger in my posts??? If it doesn't apply to you then don't worry about it. I wasn't referring to ALL black females, just the ones that have a perpetual chip on their shoulder despite their success. You have issues lady and are way too angry. IN FACT, I think you'd be the prime target for Waiting to Exhale sweetie. I grew up with a lot of girls LIKE yourself so I CAN go there but I won't.
24 posted on 01/10/2004 7:50:36 PM PST by cyborg
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To: fight_truth_decay
Tiger does what I do, that is don't involve yourself in fruitless,pointless activities. I don't correspond, talk to, be friends with angry, negative people myself.
25 posted on 01/10/2004 7:53:18 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Motherbear
Nothing inflammatory about that. I agree with you because that's usually my argument about the way things go, culture wise a black christian man and a white christian woman (esp if they go to the same church no less) share more things in common. Depends on where you live too I think, on the types of people you meet.
27 posted on 01/10/2004 8:02:12 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Sister_T
LOL, talking about unintentionally proving the point.
28 posted on 01/10/2004 8:03:50 PM PST by Sloth ("I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!" -- Jacobim Mugatu, 'Zoolander')
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To: cyborg
You have issues lady and are way too angry.

Pot . . . kettle.

29 posted on 01/10/2004 8:05:37 PM PST by Ganymede
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To: Sister_T
With Kobe Bryant, why isn't the history of his "alleged" victim allowed to be considered?

The "history" could, I agree, show lack of good judgment; but it does not justify rape. If ,in deed, a rape did take place.

Respectfully
fight_truth_decay

30 posted on 01/10/2004 8:06:21 PM PST by fight_truth_decay
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To: Sister_T; cyborg
why isn't the history of his "alleged" victim allowed to be considered?.

I believe this is a legal issue, i.e., it has been prohibited for many years to probe into the sexual history of the rape victim.

Other aspects of her history, such as her mental health, may be fair game.

The sad truth is the history of blacks and whites in this country is bitter and painful. White women were right there with white men, discriminating against blacks, encouraging and defending the abuse of black men and women and, if you're black, you would know that.

I would guess that many of today's young people (both black and white) know little of the past political and cultural history of this country. I don't think cyborg is one of them, but that she has her own history and reality to draw from. I think many from this generation have left the anger of the previous generation behind and are more apt to deal with people on an individual basis, rather than a racial basis.

This is a good thing, and reflects Dr. Kings dream of a world where children would be judged on the content of their character.

31 posted on 01/10/2004 8:07:56 PM PST by happygrl
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To: Sister_T
With Kobe Bryant, why isn't the history of his "alleged" victim allowed to be considered? Maybe because it destroys the notion that SOME white women are as pure as snow as SOME white men have propped them up to be.

You are way off base. It has nothing to do with Kobe's color but more to do with the Rape Shield Law which protects the accuser's identity and past, be they BLACK OR WHITE. This is to insure that future rape victims will have no qualms coming forward. If you recall during OJ's trial, the history of Nicole, her family and her friends were as much on trial as he was.

32 posted on 01/10/2004 8:13:39 PM PST by StarFan
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To: freedom44
Interesting. Over the years, I've had black male friends who dated (and some who married) whites, and black female friends who dated (and one who married) whites. All of the said the dating was fine, being married was hard because of attitudes they encountered and how tough it was on the children. Uniformly, they said the biggest attitude problems were from the black side.

My own limited experience bears this out. During college and grad school I dated two black girls and, later when I was in the Army, I dated a Commanche girl. In all cases, these were relationships that developed out of mutual interests and some natural attraction. In the first instance, during the summer her parents found out and forbade her from seeing me, in the case of the second black girl, she was confronted by a number of other black girls on campus and threatened by them. With the Commanche girl, I'd been seeing her in and around the small city where I was stationed for a couple of months, when she asked me come out to her place to pick her up (she lived with her parents). It was with some shock that I found the tribal police wouldn't even let me on the reservation, and that her father had forbidden her to see 'that white army officer'. He even made her quit her job in town to work out on the reservation.

It's very funny, I hear all the stories of white families reacting badly, ala Guess Who's Coming to Dinner, but what I've actually seen has been the opposite.

33 posted on 01/10/2004 8:18:29 PM PST by CatoRenasci (Ceterum Censeo [Gallia][Germania][Arabia] Esse Delendam --- Select One or More as needed)
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To: happygrl
I would guess that many of today's young people (both black and white) know little of the past political and cultural history of this country. I don't think cyborg is one of them, but that she has her own history and reality to draw from.
***Thank you for saying that because you happen to be right.

I think many from this generation have left the anger of the previous generation behind and are more apt to deal with people on an individual basis, rather than a racial basis.

*** Right again. There's just no way you can broadbrush people today.

This is a good thing, and reflects Dr. Kings dream of a world where children would be judged on the content of their character.

*** I agree. This is a liberal's worst nightmare (and maybe some conservatives as well).
34 posted on 01/10/2004 8:19:30 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Sister_T
The sad truth is the history of blacks and whites in this country is bitter and painful. White women were right there with white men, discriminating against blacks, encouraging and defending the abuse of black men and women and, if you're black, you would know that. Maybe that's why so many of those so-called "angry black women" feel the way they do about black men who feel the need to chase down white women as if white women were the only women on the planet.

This is understandable, but on the other hand there have also been high profile successful black females who seemed only interested in marrying very successful white men.

And then there's the perception (which is probably accurate) that black women have an easier time of moving up in what is considered "the white man's world", and that black women have used this advantage to exert their independence and blow-off black men as they see fit....and even categorize them as losers.

Admit it. Black women haven't always been so perfect to their men.

Oh, and a lot of these resentments exist between white men and women when it comes to interracial relationships...but I do agree it is probably more of an issue for minorities.

35 posted on 01/10/2004 8:20:43 PM PST by Jorge
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To: happygrl
My parents are both Persians from Iran, they've never had a problem with me dating anyone, but they *strongly* discourage Blacks, and look down on Arabs, Mexicans, Pakistini, and Indians. Of course, they would prefer me to marry Persian, but they are not adamantly against others.

I think it's just a traditionalist mindset more than anything.

I've noticed that i myself have catch myself from the same type of feelings towards those groups, only because it was traditionally drilled into my brain.

My future kids can date anyone as long as they are educated, hard-working, moral, family-oriented, and are going to love my daughter/son like i do.

36 posted on 01/10/2004 8:20:52 PM PST by freedom44
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To: Sister_T
I re-read my post, and found out I made a lot of spelling mistakes. I am glad you understood it, my first sentence can mean anything.

The TV really brings a lot of interferance to my thinking. I just turned it off.

Thanks for the feedback. Sometimes I feel guilty when a pretty and nice lady of different ethnicity starts to flirt with me. One day, there was a woman from Korea that was being very persistant. I really felt guilty. But I did not feel comfortable going out with her. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable with people of my same ethinicity but of different nationality. I think that I am very picky (selective).

This may sound stupid, but I always try to find ladies who look like my mother, even the same hair style.
37 posted on 01/10/2004 8:26:00 PM PST by Magno
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To: Motherbear
Hear, Hear! Cultural compatablity is the key in any marriage, regardless of race or ethnicity. Perhaps it reflects class bias, but I am much more concerned about my daughters' potential spouses (when in comes to that) being cultivated gentlemen, with good educations and character, reflecting sound Christian principles (I'm less concerned with precise doctrine), comfortable in the world of ideas and the high culture of the West, than I am about race or ethnicity.
38 posted on 01/10/2004 8:26:36 PM PST by CatoRenasci (Ceterum Censeo [Gallia][Germania][Arabia] Esse Delendam --- Select One or More as needed)
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To: Magno
At least you are honest...btw you must have had a really good mom. She made quite an impression on you.
39 posted on 01/10/2004 8:30:00 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Sister_T
When the victim is white, suddenly, the burden of proof SHIFTS to the black man to prove that he's innocent. With Kobe Bryant, why isn't the history of his "alleged" victim allowed to be considered? Maybe because it destroys the notion that SOME white women are as pure as snow as SOME white men have propped them up to be.

Right.
The "alleged" victim who had the sperm of two other men and the pubic hair from a white man in her panties when examined by a doctor after her "alleged rape" by Kobe.

The decision not to consider her "history" is due to the fact that white men consider her "pure as snow". LOL!

40 posted on 01/10/2004 8:30:12 PM PST by Jorge
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To: Jorge
The decision not to consider her "history" is due to the fact that white men consider her "pure as snow

I disagree, most white men consider Koby above reproach. Especially if they're Lakers fans. It has nothing to do with race.

41 posted on 01/10/2004 8:33:31 PM PST by LisaMalia (Buckeye Fan since birth!!)
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To: cyborg; tsister
My MOM is a very good Christian woman. I want to marry a very good Christian woman, too. Catholic, Protestant, Bautist, etc... as long as we can be compatible.

I would not marry somebody who is not Christian. I respect people of other religions, but for a wife I require somebody within the same faith.

Once I was going out with a wonderful and pretty girl, until she made fun of my Christian beliefs.
42 posted on 01/10/2004 8:35:30 PM PST by Magno
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To: freedom44
My future kids can date anyone as long as they are educated, hard-working, moral, family-oriented, and are going to love my daughter/son like i do.

Commendable characteristics ! I heartily agree.

43 posted on 01/10/2004 8:35:51 PM PST by happygrl
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To: cyborg
. I don't correspond, talk to, be friends with angry, negative people myself.

Now, now, you're obviously fibbing.

You post on Free Republic, don't you?

44 posted on 01/10/2004 8:36:14 PM PST by WackyKat
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To: WackyKat
LOL oh yeah I forgot :-)
45 posted on 01/10/2004 8:37:00 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Trailerpark Badass; All
>>I live across the street from two interacial couples; in Forsyth County, Georgia, no less.

For those who don't know the history of Forsyth County, it was one of the last Klannish / seriously anti-black racist counties in GA. It has, in the last 10 or 15 years, become just another part of the suburban Atlanta metro area megapolis. And really an upscale one at that.

But 20 years ago, a co-worker's grandfather-in-law had a couple of black guys doing yard work on his lake house on the Forsyth side of Lake Lanier. A couple of country boys showed up in a fishing boat, told him his yard help had better be gone by sundown, and not to have them back. He had the impression they meant business.

Fortunately, those days are totally gone from Forsyth from what I can tell, and really from the rest of GA as well. If it's out there, it's really, really under the radar.
46 posted on 01/10/2004 8:41:03 PM PST by FreedomPoster (this space intentionally blank)
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To: Jorge
The "alleged" victim who had the sperm of two other men and the pubic hair from a white man in her panties when examined by a doctor after her "alleged rape" by Kobe.

That isn't the point nor would it be if she had consensual sex 365 consecutive days prior to the alleged 'unsolicited and forced sex' which she is accusing him of. The Rape Shield Law was established for this very reason. Her past sexual escapades have no bearing UNLESS she makes it a practice of crying rape and only then should it be entered into evidence.

47 posted on 01/10/2004 8:41:44 PM PST by StarFan
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To: freedom44
Although my husband and I are of the same race, my parents were more concerned about class issues than race. How the person was brought up, values, culture etc. They did show a preference for eastern or western Europeans, but had nothing against Asians, or Middle easterners either.
My brother, a born again Christian type (not saying this in a disparaging way...I'm attempting at a generalization)seems only to date foreign women of color. Of course they have to be Christians of the same stripe. If he ever gets married, I would assume his bride to be a dark complexioned Hispanic woman or an African woman. So far my parents have been welcoming of all his girlfriends. For them the religious schtick is the hard part.
48 posted on 01/10/2004 8:41:50 PM PST by Katya
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To: FreedomPoster
I believe you because all those weird talk shows that had featured Forsythe County were from the early-mid 1980s. Now according to a lot of people they say there are parts of the South that are better than the North! (I'd not mind living in J.Lo's new digs)
49 posted on 01/10/2004 8:45:14 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Jorge
The "alleged" victim who had the sperm of two other men and the pubic hair from a white man in her panties when examined by a doctor after her "alleged rape" by Kobe

Sperm can live in the female body for up to 5 days, during the middle of her cycle. Its very possible that semen from two days before could still be leaking out a little bit. And what if she did have consensual sex with another she could have had feelings for them. As I said, poor judgment does not justify rape..if it should play out that way.

He said..she said!

50 posted on 01/10/2004 8:48:38 PM PST by fight_truth_decay
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