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What men want (Vox Day tells about the male mind)
WorldNetDaily ^ | 4/19/04 | Vox Day

Posted on 04/26/2004 1:39:49 PM PDT by blitzgig

There is probably no question so universally feared by men the world over than one heard throughout the living rooms of the world on a nightly basis. "What are you thinking about?" True, "Do I look fat?" is arguably more laden with inherent danger, but there the answer is obvious: "No."

Now, this is not the typically self-flagellating column about men written by a man in a degrading attempt to appeal to female readers – the literary equivalent of the repugnant canine habit of rolling on one's back and urinating. Rather, it is a brief attempt to decrypt the male psyche for the benefit of women who might be interested.

First, men require respect the way that women need love and affection. For some reason, many women operate under the misconception that treating the men in their lives disrespectfully is cute or somehow scores them social points. But not only does this behavior lower the woman in the eyes of those witnessing it, rest assured that it causes bitter resentment in the man so treated, even if he refuses to speak out in his own defense.

Remember that stoicism is a male virtue. Whereas a woman is unlikely to remain silent when she is angry, male silence in the face of provocation is often a serious statement that is dangerous to ignore. Men don't like to talk things out, they prefer to think things through. A man who is silent while being abused is a man who is considering his options and, often, preparing to act.

Men are not as complex as women. Whereas a woman speaks for reaction, to test and gauge what her next words should be, men, being generally less verbally skilled, have a greater tendency to articulate their meaning as precisely as they can. The more a woman pushes and probes for clarification, the further she is like to diverge from the message intended. This does not mean there is never a subtext, but in most cases, text and subtext are the same.

A man defines himself by his responsibility, and one of them, strange as it may seem, is the mood of his woman. A man whose woman is unhappy considers himself a failure, and the short-sighted woman will use this knowledge to her temporary advantage. But even the sharpest tool grows dull with use – the wise woman will eschew such manipulation and instead choose to regard her man as a potential refuge from her troubles rather than the inherent cause of them.

A man may feel he is responsible for a woman's feelings, but the truth is that he can do very little about them even if he wants to. Most of the time, happiness is a choice. Making the choice to be happy whenever possible, even in spite of difficult circumstances, can be the difference between a lifetime of shared bliss or mutual misery.

Male confidence is always attractive to a woman, which is why tearing it down almost always leaves a woman dissatisfied with the result. It is said that whereas a woman is, a man must become. Without the confidence to become what he is meant to be, a man remains incomplete. The woman who can learn to read her man, to see when his confidence is shaken, and assure him that even if he cannot believe in himself at the moment, she still does, that woman will inspire loyalty that would shame a dog.

Finally, it is not a bad thing to encourage the boy within the man from time to time. The man who cannot put aside the cares of supporting a family from time to time is a widow waiting to happen. The woman who not only accepts, but supports the male friendships of her husband will always be the most popular woman among the married men in her social circle. And learning even a little about football and holding a staunch opinion on which Sports Illustrated Swimsuit model is the prettiest will go a surprisingly long way in ensuring acceptance by the boys.

If a woman treats a man with civility and respect, maintains a cheerful attitude toward him and encourages him believe in himself, he will not only respond with love and affection, but will consider it an honor to lay down his life for her, both metaphorically and, if the occasion demands it, literally.


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KEYWORDS: men; voxday; women
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1 posted on 04/26/2004 1:39:49 PM PDT by blitzgig
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To: blitzgig
Q: Do these pants make my butt look big?

A: Its not the pants.

2 posted on 04/26/2004 1:42:23 PM PDT by Phantom Lord (Distributor of Pain, Your Loss Becomes My Gain)
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To: hellinahandcart
"Now, this is not the typically self-flagellating column about men written by a man in a degrading attempt to appeal to female readers – the literary equivalent of the repugnant canine habit of rolling on one's back and urinating."

Don't get any ideas.

3 posted on 04/26/2004 1:42:45 PM PDT by sauropod ("How do you know he's a King?" "Because he doesn't have sh!t all over him.")
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To: blitzgig
That rally in Washington, D.C yesterday spoke volumes about the divide between women and men. Few men showed up to support women on abortion. I mean where are all the LIBERAL men? Good question.
4 posted on 04/26/2004 1:43:49 PM PDT by goldstategop (In Memory Of A Dearly Beloved Friend Who Lives On In My Heart Forever)
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To: Phantom Lord
"No, baby. Your butt makes your butt look big." Then duck, run, whatever keeps you alive.
5 posted on 04/26/2004 1:46:18 PM PDT by babaloo999 (Zionist troll since 2001)
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To: Snowtrill
!gnip

/john

6 posted on 04/26/2004 1:51:08 PM PDT by JRandomFreeper (Soy el jefe de la cocina. No discuta con mí.)
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To: blitzgig
Oh, com'n. My husband is a major magpie. I tend to keep my own counsel------and I know if my pants make me look fat without asking.
7 posted on 04/26/2004 1:53:04 PM PDT by annyokie (There are two sides to every argument, but I'm too busy to listen to yours.)
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To: goldstategop
My question was what kind of people are so motivated as to want to rally for a decidedly negative practice such as abortion? My answer: Leftist Cause Of The Month Club memebers.
8 posted on 04/26/2004 1:53:05 PM PDT by Williams
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To: blitzgig
Rather, it is a brief attempt to decrypt the male psyche for the benefit of women who might be interested.

Yeah, all three of them. The rest would rather just be able to continue complaining about men.

9 posted on 04/26/2004 1:54:28 PM PDT by dirtboy (John Kerry - Hillary without the fat ankles and the FBI files...)
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To: blitzgig
If a woman treats a man with civility and respect, maintains a cheerful attitude toward him and encourages him believe in himself, he will not only respond with love and affection, but will consider it an honor to lay down his life for her, both metaphorically and, if the occasion demands it, literally.


*LOL!!!!!! the humor in that statement
10 posted on 04/26/2004 1:56:03 PM PDT by cyborg
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To: blitzgig
If a woman treats a man with civility and respect, maintains a cheerful attitude toward him and encourages him believe in himself, he will not only respond with love and affection, but will consider it an honor to lay down his life for her, both metaphorically and, if the occasion demands it, literally.

Refreshingly simple.

11 posted on 04/26/2004 1:58:06 PM PDT by Taliesan (fiction police)
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To: goldstategop
i would have thought it would be an easy place to score, then i watched the c-span coverage. never mind.
12 posted on 04/26/2004 1:59:28 PM PDT by kallisti (you can't look like a sad, hollow tree.)
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To: blitzgig
I'm going to be the exception. I'm going to treat this seriously.

Don't ask a man what he's thinking unless you can accept that a man thinks about sex, on average, every 6 to 7 seconds.
It doesn't have to be, "What would she be like in bed?" It can be, "Wow, I wonder what my wife would look like in those pants?".

Men are not necessarily less verbally skilled. They give greater emphasis to nonverbal signals. Men do try to, "articulate their meaning as precisely as they can." so if a man isn't saying anything it usually means he has nothing to say. He's watching for the nonverbal signal as to whether or not this is REALLY important.

It IS a good thing to encourage the boy in the man at times but the times have to be chosen with care because a man will almost ALWAYS, under almost ANY circumstance, go along with this.

Men and women are different. Fact of life.

13 posted on 04/26/2004 1:59:30 PM PDT by Just another Joe (Warning: FReeping can be addictive and helpful to your mental health)
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To: blitzgig
What do men want?

A cute girl, beer, the remote control. Not necessarily in that order.

14 posted on 04/26/2004 2:00:14 PM PDT by colorado tanker
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To: Just another Joe
It IS a good thing to encourage the boy in the man at times but the times have to be chosen with care because a man will almost ALWAYS, under almost ANY circumstance, go along with this.

Because we think she actually means exactly what she says.

15 posted on 04/26/2004 2:01:31 PM PDT by Taliesan (fiction police)
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To: blitzgig
For some reason, many women operate under the misconception that treating the men in their lives disrespectfully is cute or somehow scores them social points. But not only does this behavior lower the woman in the eyes of those witnessing it, rest assured that it causes bitter resentment in the man so treated, even if he refuses to speak out in his own defense.

You can't tell the "Sex and the City" generation things like that - they've spent a whole lifetime getting the opposite message from television. They will never believe it.

16 posted on 04/26/2004 2:02:09 PM PDT by Mr. Jeeves
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To: kallisti
i would have thought it would be an easy place to score, then i watched the c-span coverage. never mind.

The abortion activists are the women least likely to ever need one.

17 posted on 04/26/2004 2:03:08 PM PDT by Taliesan (fiction police)
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To: colorado tanker
To put it as Jeff Foxworthy did, "I'd like a beer and I'd like to see somethin' nekkid."
18 posted on 04/26/2004 2:03:16 PM PDT by TheBigB (FINALLY got my FReepin' profile page done! :))
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To: blitzgig

"Do these glasses make my head look fat?"

19 posted on 04/26/2004 2:03:40 PM PDT by martin_fierro (A v v n c v l v s M a x i m v s)
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To: colorado tanker
In my experience it is hot meals and a hotter woman.
20 posted on 04/26/2004 2:04:49 PM PDT by annyokie (There are two sides to every argument, but I'm too busy to listen to yours.)
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To: TheBigB
JF is one of my fav comedians.
21 posted on 04/26/2004 2:07:35 PM PDT by cyborg
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To: TheBigB
Foxworthy has guys figured out. He is funny.
22 posted on 04/26/2004 2:08:30 PM PDT by colorado tanker
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To: colorado tanker; cyborg
"You see one woman naked and you ...want to see all the rest of them naked, too."--Ron White :)
23 posted on 04/26/2004 2:09:21 PM PDT by TheBigB (FINALLY got my FReepin' profile page done! :))
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To: annyokie
Kinda like John Wayne's situation at the end of The Quiet Man.
24 posted on 04/26/2004 2:09:33 PM PDT by colorado tanker
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To: Just another Joe
unless you can accept that a man thinks about sex, on average, every 6 to 7 seconds

This is an urban legend. It may be true in individuals, but no science is behind the claim.

25 posted on 04/26/2004 2:09:35 PM PDT by Shryke (Never retreat. Never explain. Get it done and let them howl.)
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To: colorado tanker
Yup! Lucky Mr. Annyokie, huh? ; )
26 posted on 04/26/2004 2:10:36 PM PDT by annyokie (There are two sides to every argument, but I'm too busy to listen to yours.)
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To: Phantom Lord
Q: Do these pants look my butt look big?

A: No, sugar. Your butt makes those pants look small.
27 posted on 04/26/2004 2:10:48 PM PDT by Shryke (Never retreat. Never explain. Get it done and let them howl.)
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To: Shryke
That may be true of teen males but I hardly think about sex once a day and I'm a middle-aged guy here!
28 posted on 04/26/2004 2:11:19 PM PDT by goldstategop (In Memory Of A Dearly Beloved Friend Who Lives On In My Heart Forever)
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To: blitzgig
Everything said here was said in Dr. Laura's new book.
29 posted on 04/26/2004 2:11:23 PM PDT by Hildy (A kiss is the unborn child knocking at the door.)
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To: Shryke
No science behind the claim that the moon is made of blue cheese but MAN there's a lot of that dressing around. ;^)
30 posted on 04/26/2004 2:11:31 PM PDT by Just another Joe (Warning: FReeping can be addictive and helpful to your mental health)
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To: Taliesan
You think we MEAN what we SAY?

Why do you think the word 'ssshhure.' was invented?

Observing men (particularly my current younger one) has taught me that it all boils down to sex, food, sex, tribal hunting, beer, sex and watching The Price is Right.

31 posted on 04/26/2004 2:11:34 PM PDT by txhurl (The Jihadists: spectacular media violence, zero military significance, huge psych significance.)
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To: sauropod
"How sharper than a serpants toth.........", Lear. I think he was about women, the Bard.
32 posted on 04/26/2004 2:11:41 PM PDT by Little Bill (John F'n Kerry is Swine, I want to see the MS's tax returns!)
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To: Taliesan
The abortion activists are the women least likely to ever need one

There's such balance in nature.

33 posted on 04/26/2004 2:13:00 PM PDT by kidd
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To: txflake
and watching The Price is Right.

That's redundant with sex. Think about the models. :^)

34 posted on 04/26/2004 2:13:36 PM PDT by Just another Joe (Warning: FReeping can be addictive and helpful to your mental health)
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To: Shryke
There is abso{nakedwomen}lutely no scien{nakedwomen}tific p{nakedwomen}roof that the{nakedwomen} male m{nakedwomen}ind thin{nakedwomen}ks about se{nakedwomen}x every {nakedwomen}six to sev{nakedwomen}en second{nakedwomen}s.
35 posted on 04/26/2004 2:17:32 PM PDT by TheBigB (FINALLY got my FReepin' profile page done! :))
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To: blitzgig
Now, this is not the typically self-flagellating column about men written by a man in a degrading attempt to appeal to female readers – the literary equivalent of the repugnant canine habit of rolling on one's back and urinating.

I've tried it.

Chicks dig it.

36 posted on 04/26/2004 2:18:03 PM PDT by Billthedrill
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To: goldstategop
That rally in Washington, D.C yesterday spoke volumes about the divide between women and men. Few men showed up to support women on abortion. I mean where are all the LIBERAL men? Good question.

I got the feeling that the majority of the women who showed up for the rally were the kind of women who would never have to worry about pregnancy, because they would never allow any part of any male's anatomy close enough

37 posted on 04/26/2004 2:20:33 PM PDT by SauronOfMordor (That which does not kill me had better be able to run away damn fast.)
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To: annyokie
In my experience it is hot meals and a hotter woman

You got it. But with a hot enough woman, the food doesn't need to be hot.

38 posted on 04/26/2004 2:23:21 PM PDT by SauronOfMordor (That which does not kill me had better be able to run away damn fast.)
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To: TheBigB
LOL!!!
39 posted on 04/26/2004 2:27:13 PM PDT by cyborg
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To: TheBigB; Just another Joe; goldstategop
I once, during a night of libations, puzzled over the toll taken up by women (and their various...gifts) on my over-taxed brain. I then went on to theorize about my brain's performance levels without that toll.

I came to the conclusion that if I could eliminate all thoughts of women, sex, etc. for 6 months, that several things would happen:

1. I would be worth billions.

2. I would be a nominee for governor, or President.

3. I would be a scratch golfer.

4. I'd win several gold medals in various sporting events.

I'm curious as to what you think would happen, if you were able to cut out the thoughts, for a limited period?

40 posted on 04/26/2004 2:28:18 PM PDT by Shryke (Never retreat. Never explain. Get it done and let them howl.)
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To: annyokie
Yup!
41 posted on 04/26/2004 2:29:44 PM PDT by colorado tanker
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To: Billthedrill
Which one, trying to appeal to female readers or rolling on your back and urinating? Just curious. ;^)
42 posted on 04/26/2004 2:30:15 PM PDT by Arkie2
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To: Shryke
From my cold, dead hands...

43 posted on 04/26/2004 2:32:14 PM PDT by TheBigB (FINALLY got my FReepin' profile page done! :))
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To: txflake
Observing men (particularly my current younger one) has taught me that it all boils down to sex, food, sex, tribal hunting, beer, sex and watching The Price is Right.

LOL! I heard someone - maybe Dr. Laura? - say, "Men are simple. If he's not horny, make him a sandwich."

44 posted on 04/26/2004 2:32:16 PM PDT by opus86
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To: TheBigB
careful.. those bones look sharp :)
45 posted on 04/26/2004 2:33:13 PM PDT by cyborg
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To: Billthedrill
That'd be quite a sight!
46 posted on 04/26/2004 2:34:01 PM PDT by cyborg
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To: Shryke
I would gladly settle for just a refund on all the money I spent chasing that stuff.
47 posted on 04/26/2004 2:34:41 PM PDT by Shooter 2.5 (Vote a Straight Republican Ballot. Rid the country of dems.)
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bttt
48 posted on 04/26/2004 2:36:48 PM PDT by GretchenM
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To: cyborg
There is no humor there. That is a dead-on fact, if we are talking about a real man.
49 posted on 04/26/2004 2:38:56 PM PDT by HeadOn (Free men do not ask permission to bear arms.)
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To: HeadOn
Real men (like real women) are like white buffaloes these days.
50 posted on 04/26/2004 2:44:09 PM PDT by cyborg
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