Posted on 07/16/2004 5:06:01 AM PDT by JohnHuang2
BUMP to that.
Some of the nastiest "have it all attitude" types are the "all the benefits of chivalry but none of the costs" - like being chaste and demure. I read awhile back that there's now an unwritten rule in Nashville - you can't write songs that say anything bad about women.
While that sounds good on the surface, it's ultimately false. Loyalty is a product of one human being's free will, it's not something that can be removed. If you cease to be loyal to your spouse, it's not because some 3rd party stole your loyalty, your loyalty isn't a thing that person can steal without your consent. Rather it's a case of you, through your own free will surrendering your own loyalty to your own lust. The notion of 3rd party theft is laughable.
Consent does come into it. Both parties in an adultery have to be willing to betray the marriage. The adulterer and his lover haven't been stripped of their free will; rather they enter into the liasion knowing that's its wrong. And the secrecy of the resultant affair is testament to this knowledge. We'll never get rid of cheating's one spouse unless we abolish human nature.
Why not today ?
Oh yeah, let's get the lawyers in on this. That's just going to fix everything. Uh-huh, yeah right.
Agreed on that part. This is one of those behaviors where I'm willing to condem the particpants but wave government past. Adultery is painful and destructive for sure, but it's nothing the state can fix. It shouldn't even make the attempt.
It's the men who are slipping their rings into their pocket - and for a reason: women don't want a married man. Trust me, get 10 women together, give them each a glass of wine, and ask them about men they have met who came on to them and lied about their marital status. It's commonplace, unfortunately. Remember Scott Peterson?
"It's Eve's fault!" - Bill Cosby
the three of them deserve each other, but the country doesn't.
Exactly. The woman (in this case, Monica) did NOT swear an oath before God and witnesses, as the man (BJ Bill) did. The onus is entirely on HIM to keep his word, to keep his vows.
Monica is no saint, and certainly doesn't deserve to be given celebrity status, or even a modicum of respect because of her willingness to be party to an adulterous affair. Nevertheless, when you're talking about a single person and a married person having an affair together, it is the MARRIED person (whether it's a man or a woman) who is entirely responsible for saying "no." I have always been disgusted and amused by women who, when they find out that their husband has been cheating on them, go after the other woman, and blame her for "stealing" her husband. They don't seem to realize (or perhaps are incapable of understanding) that their husband could only be "stolen" if he CHOSE to let it happen.
Monica doesn't owe any apology to Hillary, Bill does.
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