Posted on 08/10/2004 6:00:00 AM PDT by presidio9
Remember, it's nobody else's business what you & yours do.
It is my understanding that you also stay "Mrs. Barbara Smith," but not "Mrs. John Smith" after a divorce. The rule about not being "Mrs. Barbara Smith" after marriage seems impractical, though it may be technically correct. I doubt many doctors, offices, etc., would be willing to file your records under "Mrs. John Smith," and it seems too bad to have to give up your "Mrs." title just to have the clarity of using your own first name. Of course, most doctors, lawyers, professionals, etc., address everyone automatically by first name only now... which I dislike. I tend to use "Mr." or "Mrs." until asked by the person to do otherwise....
Or if you want to be really technical, it's Miss Lastname for the oldest(unmarried) daughter, and Miss Firstname Lastname for the younger daughters, and collectively, The Misses Lastname.
Good idea.
I also like it when kids use the generic "sir" or "ma'am" when addressing adults.
Thanks, Tribune. Actually, I am glad I responded to this post. A little mental exercise never killed anyone! Plus, as I said before, it's all in good fun and, in the end, we're all kindreds with the same goal. Bush for four more years.
I agree. You can never be too polite when addressing anyone. I still can't bring myself to call my father-in-law by his first name!
Ditto that.
Guess you fail to realize that in most cases we do it better than you. For the sake of clarity, I will also add defense to what husbands provide as well.
I'm not denigrating what husbands provide for the family. But please don't do the same to wives.
My signature has been Mrs. "my husband's name" since the day we married.
Pro-marriage bump!
When my wife and I got married (yes, she has my last name) we had that problem with a couple of invitations. My solution: Mr. and Mrs. (His last name). The heck with their silly little ego trips. Just because they screwed it up, didn't mean I had to.
I'm thinking of changing my last name to Patronym.
what happens when 2 lesbians marry? who get's what name? who wears the tux?
Bingo ! I'm not sure who Alex is, though.
Didn't say it did. What I said was that it was a signal to Society that the woman was committed and not likely to be an adulterer.
I consider my individuality very important and my husband and I are a family.
I want my cake, and to eat it, too. Which is paramount, your family or your individuality? What signals do you send to the world about that choice?
I also have a family in my parents and grandparents, who will be a part of my children's lives. Why should the "family ties" be with the husband's family?
They are not with your husband's family; they are with him and your children. Why do you wish to be set apart from them by not sharing a name?
BWA HA HA HA!
Thank you for providing an interjection of humor into an otherwise humorless thread. I have rarely seen such sexist bullshitting on both sides of an issue on this board.
"My solution: Mr. and Mrs. (His last name). The heck with their silly little ego trips. "
I've done that before and never gave it a second thought!
My sister-in-law took her husband's last name on her driver's license, etc. but uses her last name for work. They are entertainers and wanted separate "stage names". I think they'd do better if they advertised as a couple but that's just MHO. I still don't see the point in this. As if any fans she has wouldn't figure out that she'd gotten married. Oh well!
My signals to the world mean little to me, LexBaird. What matters is what my family thinks of me and they all support me on this. My commitment to my husband is signified by the rings I wear on my left hand. In this day and age, I think most people know that assuming a wife isn't committed to her husband just because she didn't take his name is a tad irrational. I'm not "set apart" from them, just because I didn't take his name. They are my children and the DNA and the love we share are all that I need to make my relationships real (this is not a swipe at adoptive parents). I don't think any less of a woman as a mother because she doesn't share the names of her children. Do you?
"I know one complete candyass who took his wife's name when he got married and his son has his wife's last name instead of his."
I just can't concieve of this. What kind of masochistic, wimp is this? If may wife (who is a very strong and accomplished woman) wanted to keep her fathers name I would maybe agree. I'd have to give it some thought. But taking her name? No way. This guy lost the game at the git go.
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