Skip to comments.I didn't know, sez gov's ex
Posted on 08/15/2004 7:37:15 AM PDT by kattracks
The first wife of New Jersey Gov. Jim McGreevey said yesterday she didn't know her ex was gay until last week.
"He told me just before he went on TV," Kari Schutz said in a phone interview from British Columbia.
Schutz described the call from her ex-husband as "difficult," although she declined to give details. But asked if she had any idea of her husband's sexual identity during their marriage, she said, "I never knew."
The governor's second wife, Dina Matos McGreevey, also didn't learn her husband was gay until just days ago, sources said. One source said that McGreevey first told Dina about his affair with a man last week, but it wasn't until Wednesday that he told her he was certain he was gay and was going to come out of the closet.
McGreevey took to the airwaves Thursday to say he had had an affair with a man he didn't identify, and that he was resigning the governorship, effective Nov. 15.
Schutz said she and her ex-husband had "discussions" about a brewing scandal involving former McGreevey aide Golan Cipel, since named as the other man in the affair, when she and their daughter, Morag, visited less than two weeks ago. It was unclear whether the governor had insisted the allegations weren't true at the time.
She and McGreevey have talked repeatedly since his bombshell announcement.
"We've been in touch with him," Schutz said. "And we're just wanting our privacy back, and we support him 100% and wish him well."
"He's a wonderful father," she added, noting that they have stayed in close touch with each other and that he sees their 11-year-old daughter often.
"My main concern is for my daughter," she said of the media maelstrom surrounding her family. But Shutz has nothing but good will toward her ex-husband.
"He's been a wonderful governor, and that's how people should remember him," she said.
McGreevey met Schutz, a librarian, on a cruise in 1990. They married in Canada and moved into a condominium in Woodbridge, N.J., where McGreevey became mayor. Schutz wasn't happy as a political wife and split for her native Canada in 1994 with Morag.
The divorce became final in 1997. Later, as he was running for governor, McGreevey took the unusual step of sealing the divorce records, with Schutz's permission.
Originally published on August 15, 2004
Absolute BS. Lies, Lies, Lies.
Trenton Times, yesterday:
Kari Schutz, McGreevey's first wife, conceded she has known for some time her husband is gay, though she declined to say exactly how long.See FR Thead: Wives steadfastly pro-McGreevey
the shy librarian visited her parents on vacation with young daughter Morag in 1995 and never came back,
Schutz would put no time frame to the length of time she knew McGreevey was gay. She also would not comment on whether she was aware of anyone else with that knowledge holding it over his head to make demands.
"You'd better ask him that," Schutz said.
Actually, we've learned from other reports that Kari went back to Canada in December 1994, and the divorce proceeded in 1995.
As to Dani Matos not knowing? An exceeedingly unlikely thing for her not to know -- for she was an active politician herself at state and local levels -- and she lived in Elizabeth -- the next town over. Almost certain she would have been aware of the proclivity from the grapevine.
I'm thinking of a really inappropriate joke I can't post here that begins "How do you know if you're roommate is gay?"
How would "I am a do-what-ever-feels-good at the moment kinda guy who can't say no because I have no self control or respect for others American" sound?
1. His current wife hasn't lived with him for the last two months, she's keeping a strong public face because McGreedy isn't financially secure, without the ability for him to make a sleazebag comeback like Torricelli, her alimony and child-support will dry up. She has known, from a minimum, from the date McGreedy broke his leg in 2002.
2. His EX Wife knew and has now, FOR OVER A DECADE. She is doing the same to protect the financial security of her daughter, and doesn't want the Dem. leaning goons to pay her a midnight visit.
3. Wish I was in Bangkok. Welcome to FR.
Dup post in same minute or so: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1191931/posts
Next I have to ask how someone becomes gay. Do they walk into a gay bar out of curiosity and find that they are attracted to the lifestyle? Seriously.
Many women I think become that way because they were dumped by their husbands or lured by brassy teammates/coaches in sports. But I have always wondered how some guys "discovered" (read: decided to become homosexual) this about themselves.
How many newspapers/TV stations will be going to court to have the records unsealed, as they did with Jack Ryan in Illinois?
Would someone spell out for me what the real deal is about the broken leg?
Nice research on the first wife's quote. That makes a lot more sense.
Maybe the divorce records are sealed for more than just dirty laudry -- maybe they reference a "keep your mouth shut" clause. The firsty Kari is quoted a number of times as saying "we keep the lines of communication open" -- I am taking that to mean she gets the monthly payment communicated to her account and she keeps not communicating on any matters McGreevey-esque. JMO.
I think you're right on the money. If we had a real press, they would have gone to court to get the divorce records unsealed, like they did for Jack Ryan.