He has NEVER shown any interest towards women whatsoever. He was ALWAYS delicate and effeminate in his manner. When others his age were outside playing he preferred to be inside playing the piano or doing something with his female cousins like playing with dolls or sewing. He confided in me at age 14 that he was attracted to males and always had been. At 16, he had his first sexual relations with a priest. And the rest as they say is history.Today he is 51 and suffering with aids.
I am sorry that your brother is ill. I have a number of gay friends, male and female and they have all felt that why from a very young age.
In general they are all wonderful people who happen to be gay.
Six year old kids don't have interest in girls. They are even often repulsed by them, especially prior to our modern culture of premature sexualization of adolescents.
Now, I asserted in post #67 that every telling of first sexual encounters I have ever heard or read describes horrific abuse. You say that at 16 years old, he had his first sexual relations with a priest. Yes, that is the sort of sexual abuse I was referring to.
Now for the speculation (and yes, of course, this is mere speculation): he tells you that at 16, he had sexual relations with a priest. That is the age where most people feel in control sexually, so he is probably comfortable acknowledging an event at that age. But the priest was a very sick pervert. Such perverts almost unanimously prey on adolescents somehwat older than 16.
Since he was physically an adult and you do not categorize it as rape, I'll presume it was somewhat voluntary (although it certa. So here we have a kid who at 16 and in 1967 does not believe that having sex with priests is out of the question. We're not talking peers, but grown men. Sorry, but this was not a kid who was normal in every way, except for his homosexual tendencies.
Perhaps he has always been too ashamed to describe an earlier sexual encounter, so acknowledged one that took place when he had some sense of being in control. Perhaps he does not consider an earlier instance of sexual abuse to be a significant "sexual experience." But something was probably very wrong with that picture before that priest came along
But I do want to say that I am very sorry to hear of his present state. It does sicken me when "Christians" talk about AIDS as if it were God's judge punishment. We all justly die because of our sins; no-one deserves extra suffering such as AIDS patients experience because of whatever sins they may or may not have committed.