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Judge's concerns were legitimate, attorney says (homosexual adopting 11 y.o. boy)
Times Leader ^ | 1/3/2005 | TERRIE MORGAN-BESECKER

Posted on 01/03/2005 5:33:26 AM PST by Born Conservative

Gay man claims Chester Muroski could have had ulterior reasons for executing a delay in a boy's adoption.

HAZLETON - Don Murray was thrilled the day his adoption of an 11-year-old boy was approved, but he was far less happy with a Luzerne County judge he claims caused an unnecessary delay. Murray, who is gay, said he believes his sexuality prompted orphans court judge Chester Muroski to initially refuse to approve the adoption at an Oct. 18 hearing. Muroski halted the proceeding and appointed attorney John Bellino to review the case, resulting in a more than two-month delay.

Muroski, through an employee, said he could not comment on the case because adoption proceedings are confidential. But Bellino said he was "shocked" when he learned Murray was questioning Muroski's objectivity. He said the judge had other, legitimate reasons for asking him to look into the case to ensure the adoption was in the child's best interest.

Murray, of Grant Street, had taken the boy in through a foster care referral made by Philadelphia's child welfare agency, which had custody. The child was placed with Murray and his partner, Donnie Strawser, about three years ago.

Murray said he and Strawser, 42, had undergone all required background checks and home examinations. All agencies involved with the child had signed off on the adoption, he said, and so he thought the Oct. 18 hearing was a mere formality.

But Murray said he ran into a problem when Muroski, seeing Murray was single, asked him if he resided with anyone.

"When I said 'his name is Donnie,' he (Muroski) rolled his eyes and called my lawyer to the bench and said 'I don't like surprises,' Murray said. "It wasn't like we hid this. From the very beginning, we were very open."

Bellino said he understands Murray was upset, but finds it hard to believe Muroski's actions were based on a bias against homosexuals. He noted Muroski has previously approved at least a dozen other gay adoptions over the past few years.

In Murray's case, Bellino said Muroski was concerned that the 11-year-old boy's biological brother, who was also placed with Murray, had been transferred to another foster care home.

Bellino said the judge wanted him to investigate the circumstances of that transfer before approving the adoption. Bellino said once he determined there was nothing amiss, he recommended the adoption be approved and the judge agreed.

Murray confirmed the boy's brother was transferred because he had difficulty accepting the rules of the home. But he questions if that was Muroski's motivation, noting the issue of the transfer did not come up until later in the proceeding.

Murray said he believes Muroski approved the adoption only after Philadelphia officials called and said they would take the case to court there.

Whatever the true reason, Murray said he's glad the ordeal is over and is now concentrating on adopting a second child, 7-year-old boy, who is also in his care.

"We'll definitely be going through Philadelphia for that," he said.


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: jessedirkhising

1 posted on 01/03/2005 5:33:27 AM PST by Born Conservative
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To: Born Conservative

May God protect this poor 11 year old boy from harm.


2 posted on 01/03/2005 5:36:36 AM PST by keats5
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To: keats5

Related story in same paper today:

He calls them 'dad'

Gay men add son to their family unit



"What I want is for them to be happy, whatever they turn out to be in life."
HAZLETON - They've been in a committed relationship for nine years, but Don Murray and Donnie Strawser always felt there was something missing.

The same-sex couple worked hard to develop a strong, loving relationship, they said. But their happiness was tempered by an unfulfilled desire each had: to have someone call them "dad."

It took two years, lots of hearings and even more patience, but the men got their wish Dec. 21 when Murray's adoption of Shawn, an 11-year-old foster child for whom he and Strawser were caring, was finalized.

With the adoption, Murray and Strawser join more than 300,000 homosexual men and women nationwide who were identified in the 2000 U.S. Census as raising children, said Sean Cahill of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force in New York.

While it remains a controversial societal debate, gay adoptions have gained approval through courts nationwide, Cahill said. Currently only two states, Florida and Mississippi, ban adoptions by homosexuals, he said.

In Luzerne County, orphans court judge Chester Muroski has approved at least a dozen other adoptions to gay men or women over the past several years, said John Bellino and Michael Shucosky, two attorneys who have been court-appointed to represent children in adoption and custody proceedings.

Officially, Murray, 34, said he is listed as Shawn's adoptive parent, with Strawser, 42, considered a "supportive spouse."

The couple, of Grant Street, said they love children and thought about adopting for years. Having once been a foster child, Murray said he chose to work through the foster care system because he wanted to help children from troubled homes overcome their problems.

"There are hundreds of thousands of kids in Pennsylvania sitting in group homes and foster homes who desperately need someone to love them. That's what Donnie and I are trying to do with these children, show them caring and love," Murray said.

On a recent afternoon Shawn was engrossed in watching a movie on the portable DVD player he got for Christmas. On the shy side, he wasn't interested in talking with a reporter.

The boy has lived with Murray and Strawser three years as a foster child. Now that his adoption is complete, Murray is working on adopting a second foster child, Angel, a 7-year-old deaf boy, for whom they've been caring. The couple also has two other foster children, a 17-year-old female and a 16-year-old male.

The children, all from Philadelphia, were placed with Murray and Strawser through the Institute for Human Resources and Services, a foster care placement agency in Kingston. The men said they underwent background checks and are subject to frequent home inspections.

"Any foster parent will tell you, it's not easy. You're expected to hold yourself to a much higher level than the average family," Murray said.

Theirs is not a typical household, they admit, but they do all they can to make it feel that way.

"We cook, we clean, we do laundry just like everyone else," Strawser said.

"I was up until 2 a.m. Christmas Eve baking cookies," Murray noted.

For entertainment, they take the kids to the movies, the mall and one of Strawser's favorite places, amusement parks.

"I'm a big amusement park fan. It's nice to have kids because he won't get on any of the rides," Strawser said with a laugh, referring to Murray.

That doesn't mean there have not been challenges. The couple had to take sign language classes to communicate with Angel, who is completely deaf.

"We had sign language books all over the house. Now we have it down pretty good and don't have to grab the books every time we talk to him," Murray said.

Angel also initially had behavioral problems, especially at school.

"In the beginning I was there three or four times a week. Now it's maybe one time a year," Murray said.

The men, both of whom work at an area home improvement store, get financial help through daily stipends paid for each foster child. Currently, that totals about $100 per day.

Murray said that seems like a lot, but each child has special medical and other needs that must be met. Money was never an issue for he and Strawser.

"They could say to me tomorrow we're not paying you any more and I'd say fine," Murray said.

As they try to build a home for the children, the couple said they also know some people frown upon the idea of gay people raising families.

"The big fear is that gays will try to make the child gay. That certainly is not the case here," Murray said. "I don't push a kid one way or another. What I want is for them to be happy, whatever they turn out to be in life."

The couple say they've never been the type to openly display their affection for one another, preferring to keep that part of their lives private.

"No couple, straight or gay, should ever let kids know what happens behind closed doors. What happens is between us."

Today they're focused on building a healthy, happy home for the children and themselves.

"There is nothing we wouldn't do for these kids. If we lost them you might as well take my heart with them," Murray said.

And they hope their story will motivate other local gay couples to consider adopting.

"Maybe this will let more gay people know it can be done. There are so many kids out there who need help," Strawser said.

TIMES LEADER STAFF PHOTOS/FRED ADAMS

Angel, 7, hopes to soon become the second adopted son of Don Murray, a gay man who recently completed the adoption of 11-year-old Shawn, seen in the background.

Don Murray, 34, of Hazleton helps his recently adopted son, Shawn, 11, work a portable DVD player the boy received for Christmas. Murray, who is gay, said his new son has brought a new joy to his life.


http://www.timesleader.com/mld/timesleader/10551468.htm


3 posted on 01/03/2005 5:39:12 AM PST by Born Conservative (Entertainment is a thing of the past, today we've got television - Archie Bunker)
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To: Born Conservative

they ain't got no shame do they? why is it that homosexual men always try to adopt BOYS, not girls? I'm sorry for the few that are sincere about parenting but it's better to be safe than sorry.


4 posted on 01/03/2005 5:40:32 AM PST by William of Orange (I'm John Kerry and I approve this message. No I don't. Yes I do. No I don't. Yes I do. Maybe, not.)
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To: keats5

Murray confirmed the boy's brother was transferred because he had difficulty accepting the rules of the home.

And the rules were?

OMG! This poor child, and now they are planning on getting another one. Who is protecting the children? They are only protecting the queers.

Before I joined this forum I was not aware of how rampant homosexuality is. How they are cramming it down our throats at every angle they can. It's like a wildfire out of control. Lord help us.


5 posted on 01/03/2005 5:41:35 AM PST by Ellesu
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To: Born Conservative

This is going to take time to undo. The homosexuals have used the courts to their advantage for decades.

I'd like to see the word, tolerance, deleted from the discussion and replaced with tolerate. We have been told that we must show tolerance which implies acceptance rather than tolerate which means to endure something or someone unpleasant.

I can tolerate someone's inclination, but I have no tolerance with the wholesale destruction of societal mores.


6 posted on 01/03/2005 5:42:24 AM PST by OpusatFR
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To: EdReform

Ping


7 posted on 01/03/2005 5:43:07 AM PST by Born Conservative (Entertainment is a thing of the past, today we've got television - Archie Bunker)
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To: William of Orange

I should've read the entire thing before responding, sorry.


8 posted on 01/03/2005 5:43:25 AM PST by William of Orange (I'm John Kerry and I approve this message. No I don't. Yes I do. No I don't. Yes I do. Maybe, not.)
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To: Ellesu

He will. Count on it. This crap won't last forever.


9 posted on 01/03/2005 5:44:33 AM PST by SirLurkedalot (Happy New Year!!!)
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Homosexual Agenda Ping.

Words fail me here, prayers for this one.

If you want on/off the list let me know.

10 posted on 01/03/2005 5:48:05 AM PST by DirtyHarryY2K (''Go though life with a Bible in one hand and a Newspaper in the other" -- Billy Graham)
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To: EdReform; backhoe; Yehuda; Clint N. Suhks; saradippity; stage left; Yakboy; I_Love_My_Husband; ...

Ping


11 posted on 01/03/2005 5:49:35 AM PST by DirtyHarryY2K (''Go though life with a Bible in one hand and a Newspaper in the other" -- Billy Graham)
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To: William of Orange

I totally agree. Can you imagine the outcry that would occur if a single heterosexual middle aged man tried to adopt a 12 year old girl....would never happen.

These people are clueless and should be locked up.


12 posted on 01/03/2005 5:50:17 AM PST by hiramknight
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To: Born Conservative

"With the adoption, Murray and Strawser join more than 300,000 homosexual men and women nationwide who were identified in the 2000 U.S. Census as raising children, said Sean Cahill of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force in New York."

Sorry, but I don't ever recall that the census asked whether anyone was homosexual or heterosexual.


13 posted on 01/03/2005 5:50:59 AM PST by ArmedNReady (.)
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To: Born Conservative

God save the children.


14 posted on 01/03/2005 5:53:24 AM PST by Aquinasfan (Isaiah 22:22, Rev 3:7, Mat 16:19)
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To: Born Conservative

It's one thing for two consenting adults to live a homosexual life, but the 11 year old boy is a minor and has no legal say in the arrangement.

What happens to these boys after they're adopted is something we never hear about. There seems to be no data or stats that would show how these boys are abused.


15 posted on 01/03/2005 5:53:47 AM PST by Noachian (A Democrat, by definition, is a Socialist.)
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To: Born Conservative
The definitive homosexual adoption story is that of Richard Hatch, "ugly naked guy" on the first Survivor.

The boy, now 15 yrs. old, was recently involved in a gay porn phone sting. Hatch tipped off the police, the adult predators were caught, and Hatch and his now homosexual son ended up on the talk show circuit, peddling this sick story. This is only the latest incident.

Please contact RI DCYF for further details and the names of the conspirators/social workers.
16 posted on 01/03/2005 5:54:08 AM PST by ishabibble
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To: Ellesu

"Cramming it (homosexuality) down our throats"
You have a way with words!!!


17 posted on 01/03/2005 5:54:16 AM PST by Luigi Vasellini
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To: Born Conservative

If you can't procreate, you molest and transform minds... thus "passing on" your "sexual preference".

How much better if society lets you adopt a young mind, and bring him into your home, for you to shape, and mold and create in your own image?


18 posted on 01/03/2005 5:54:24 AM PST by samtheman
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To: OpusatFR
I don't know if it can ever be undone. Homosexuality will be a problem until it is recognized as an emotional disorder again. I don't know when that might happen.
19 posted on 01/03/2005 5:56:35 AM PST by wolfpat
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To: Born Conservative

Homosexual behavior is NOT compatible with Military Service.
That is the Law and ought be policy.Equally True by reason
of their choices and Lifestyle-and world view homosexual
behavior ought disqualify those who choose to live an unnatural,anti-social, self and socially destructive lifestyle ought NOT be placed in any position of trust. Any
unjust Judge who would place children in a homosexual home
unjustly mandates they be exposed to that which is against
nature and Natures God. IT is unreasonable to believe that
homosexuals could provide for the best interest of a child
when they expose all who care about them to the increased
incidence of violence,and mental disorders, and drug abuse,and disease,and infidelity.Social Science documents
the lifestle is unsafe for anyone --especially the children.


20 posted on 01/03/2005 5:58:49 AM PST by StonyBurk
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To: Luigi Vasellini

Sorry, no pun intended. This is just so outrageous. The adoptions, the schools, etc. it's just out of control and seems to be snowballing.


21 posted on 01/03/2005 6:08:31 AM PST by Ellesu
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To: wolfpat

It can be done. The problem is we took too long by about 40 years to recognize that the left uses linguistic turns to redefine Western Civilization. We have to start somewhere and taking language back is the first step.

The second is to take the educational system back at the local level. We put more emphasis on the national elections than we do the local school board and city council elections. From the local level one can influence and put into place those ideas that will reclaim the institutions. We have been blind-sided by the slow attrition which is coming to fruition now.

It isn't too late. If the net did not exist, I would say all is lost. The net does exist and MSM does not have the influence it did. While MSM had the only voice, no one else was heard. That has changed.

We can use Gramsci's model with variations to circumvent any lefist offense to our own ends.


22 posted on 01/03/2005 6:09:22 AM PST by OpusatFR
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To: Ellesu

I agree, your pun just made me snicker!


23 posted on 01/03/2005 6:16:26 AM PST by Luigi Vasellini
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To: Born Conservative

"No couple, straight or gay, should ever let kids know what happens behind closed doors. What happens is between us."


Really? No more hetero "birds and bees" conversations from hetero parents?

The filthy things homos do behind their (sometimes) closed doors are pornographic, pure and simple. Thankfully, they cannot reproduce.


24 posted on 01/03/2005 6:39:15 AM PST by Vn_survivor_67-68
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To: Born Conservative
Murray, who is gay, said his new son has brought a new joy to his life.

Yeah, I'll just bet. Is there a minimum age for fisting?

I wish there were something legal that we could do to stop this kind of thing. I find it unbelievable that the courts allow it to happen. However, had this judge found against the "couple," it's a safe bet that the ACLU would've jumped in with both feet.

I don't want to read any tripe about how these particular people are different from the rest of the "gay community." They're not. This is just another step down the road to chaos, for which we can thank liberals and secularists bent on the redefinition of our society.

25 posted on 01/03/2005 6:42:38 AM PST by Marauder ("I tremble for my country when I reflect that God is just." - Thomas Jefferson)
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To: Born Conservative
...we do laundry just like everyone else...

Hopefully more often--far more often--and with caustic chemicals.

26 posted on 01/03/2005 6:44:17 AM PST by Petronski (I'm not *always* cranky.)
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To: keats5

Why not just beat the child to death with a blunt object after mentally abusing and torturing him for years...

NO DIFFERENCE WHAT-SO-EVER. Except maybe this alternative is a kinder and gentler alternative to some activist fagot/lesbian judge forcing the child to spend his life living in urine and feces.


27 posted on 01/03/2005 6:45:33 AM PST by odoso (Millions for charity, but not one penny for tribute!)
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To: Born Conservative
I cruised gay message boards for months, much like I participated in discussions on DU. Mostly to see what drove their point of view and see where they were coming from. Like I did on DU, I posted some really outrageous sh!t. What I found most shocking was how many of these men's first experience was not so much abuse by an older gay family member but a long and outright seduction. Most of these were honestly thankful that their father, uncle, older brother, neighbor had "shown them the way."

These men kept the affairs and relationships going well into their older teens or adulthood. They were "made" gay by someone they trusted who made homosexual sex a pleasureable experience for them from an early age. That is why adoption by a homosexual couple is such a danger for a youngster. He will be seduced into being a willing participant and will then be gay forever.

The psychology behind this is pretty simple. Even hetrosexual preferences are dictated by their earliest experience. I will use myself as an example. While I did make out with a few girls as a youngster, I had never really had sex until I met a black college girl who was absolutely amazing. Beautiful, sexy and a dynamo in bed. It was just a weekend affair. From that came an intense attraction to black women. I have been with all races, was married to a latina, but black women have always been a weakness for me.
28 posted on 01/03/2005 6:47:18 AM PST by speed_addiction (Ninja's last words, "Hey guys. Watch me just flip out on that big dude over there!")
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To: DirtyHarryY2K
Homosexual couples are totally lacking in the conjugal dimension representing the human and ordered form of sexuality. Sexual relations are human when and insofar as they express and promote the mutual assistance of the sexes and are open to the transmission of new life.

As experience has shown, the absence of complementarity sexuality in homosexual couples creates obstacles in the normal development of children who would be placed in the care of such disordered persons. Children would be deprived of the experience of either fatherhood or motherhood.

Allowing children to be adopted by persons living as homosexual couples would actually mean doing violence to these children, in the sense that their condition of dependency would be used to place them in an environment that is not conducive to their full human development.

The homosexual environment is gravely immoral and in open contradiction to the principle, recognized, in the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child, that the best interests of the child, as the weaker and more vulnerable party, are to be the paramount consideration in every case.

29 posted on 01/03/2005 6:48:40 AM PST by DBeers
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To: Vn_survivor_67-68
Thankfully, they cannot reproduce.

Yet they do, in a different way: There's no way to know whether this boy would've been gay or straight, but the odds were against it. However, what does anyone suppose his "lifestyle" is going to be once he becomes an adult, after 7 or 8 years of indoctrination?

Can you imagine the problems he'll face in school, especially after this publicity?

30 posted on 01/03/2005 6:49:18 AM PST by Marauder ("I tremble for my country when I reflect that God is just." - Thomas Jefferson)
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To: Born Conservative
It is simply wrong for the gov't to award a child as a prize to any homosexual. It goes against the obvious natural order of life as well as rational thought.

The homosexuals can say anything they like but facts are facts.

31 posted on 01/03/2005 6:51:44 AM PST by hoosierham
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To: Born Conservative

Gay men, continually in search of the father figure they never had, becoming fathers themselves - of boys - is the stupidest idea ever.


32 posted on 01/03/2005 6:58:47 AM PST by AmericanChef
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To: Born Conservative

As a retired foster parent of 27 years for Los Angeles County, a adoptive parent of 5 children, and a Christian , this article makes me sick to my stomach!!!!!!!!! My biggest fear was that some of my children would be placed in homosexual homes.


33 posted on 01/03/2005 7:01:46 AM PST by pollywog (Psalm 121;1 I Lift my eyes to the hills from whence cometh my help.)
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To: Ellesu

Denominatons arrange similar adoptions through their social agencies and brag about it. The ELCA works with the Missouri Synod and the Wisconsin Synod. The ELCA's Lutheran Social Services (largely funded with your tax dollars) has bragged about homosexual "parents" adopting through them for decades.

ELCA also pays for abortions for its its clergy and their children, no questions asked.


34 posted on 01/03/2005 7:04:49 AM PST by sine_nomine (I don't have a blog, yet.)
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To: Vn_survivor_67-68

Thankfully, they cannot reproduce.

So they have got to recruit.


35 posted on 01/03/2005 7:13:43 AM PST by Ellesu
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To: Born Conservative

Homosexual adoptions should be limited to children of the opposite sex, if we can't ban them outright.


36 posted on 01/03/2005 7:20:13 AM PST by JimRed (Investigate, overturn and prosecute vote fraud in the State of Washington !)
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To: Born Conservative
Homosexuals being allowed to adopt children is absolutely repulsive. I don't even want to imagine the immoral atmosphere of this "family" and the harm that can happen to innocents that are brought into it.
Our society is deeply troubled and God will have His judgement and revenge upon it, yet I rarely see any politician much less church leader standing up and speaking out against what is happening on this, one of the most base issues. There are many childless heterosexual married couples who would gladly welcome adoption. Tragically, there are other agendas at play here.
37 posted on 01/03/2005 8:52:19 AM PST by vox_freedom (Fear no evil)
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To: OpusatFR

"wholesale destruction of societal mores", that's it in a nutshell. The goal of the liberal elite is to destroy our culture from the inside out by using the courts and the msm.


38 posted on 01/03/2005 9:04:22 AM PST by thombo
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