Married, without children: Finding fulfillment with no kids

Rocky Mountain News ^ | 1/3/05 | Mark Wolf

[HairOfTheDog]

Have fun on all those riding trails.

I will! Have fun berating apparently happy people on the internet, or do you have any other hobbies?

[exnavychick]

Exactly. :)

[exnavychick]

I've got 4 with one more coming. I feel your pain, lol. :)

[Artist]

Man, are you defensive. I sincerely wished you well, and all I've gotten is insults from you ever since.

I'm sure there are more to come.

[A Ruckus of Dogs]

My former boss got divorced over this. He wanted children, she didn't. I don't know if this was discussed prior to their marriage, but it's entirely possible that one of them changed their mind later.

[HungarianGypsy]

Our fifth is a spoiled little fellow. The other kids think he's a doll.

[P-Chan Penny]

Wow you two! I always wanted 4, but God had other plans. I will have as many as I can and adopt the rest.

:o)

[HairOfTheDog]

You're being a smart aleck and so am I... I am just more honest.

[hopespringseternal]

Had you 'grown up' before you had kids....my bet is you never would of had them.

Care to make an actual logical argument?

Sacrifice and giving are the marks of maturity. Selfishness is immaturity.

And you folks determined not to have children at any cost are the ones guaranteeing that someone else's children will have to support you in your old age.

[HungarianGypsy]

When I first got married my husband and I talked about having four or five. After our first we thought two or three would be enough. Somehow the last two just snuck into our lives. They're cute, though.

[Artist]

Like I said, more insults.

[exnavychick]

I bet. :)

[HairOfTheDog]

My former boss got divorced over this. He wanted children, she didn't. I don't know if this was discussed prior to their marriage, but it's entirely possible that one of them changed their mind later.

And sometimes they both change their minds. I know a couple who first decided not to have kids, she had never had them, but he had grown children and was considerably older. He happily let her change her mind later, they adopted and they adapted to the change really well. The main consideration on such a life changing decision, is that it isn't pressure at the risk of losing the marriage. Decisions made under threat are always resented.

[P-Chan Penny]

I'm sure they're all great! I am the oldest of 5 children, and I am close to each and every one of my younger siblings, despite the age differences.

:o)

[mvpel]

"I believe there's a problem with population, serious issues with the environment, and I believe I have to be part of the solution."

If there's a problem with population, why is the nation of Russia facing extinction because of its massively declining birth rate?

[don-o]

This thread has degenerated into a brawl, and it's a shame.

Nah. It's bidness as usual.

[exnavychick]

Depressing.

[WolfRunnerWoman]

"And you folks determined not to have children at any cost are the ones guaranteeing that someone else's children will have to support you in your old age."

Gimme a break.

Any social security I see as the result of somebody else kid "supporting me" is far outweighed by the thousands of dollars in taxation spent on other peoples kids.

I don't rely on a New Deal era ponzi scheme to fund my retirement anyway.

[jer33 3]

Kevin,

God's timing is perfect and He is NEVER too late. Please don't allow worldly pressures try to cause a rift. Your wife is still young. I have many friends that have had healthy, beautiful children much later in life. If I may, enjoy the precious time with your wife to strengthen the marriage and your spiritual lives together. I will specifically pray for the Lord to richly bless you. Trust Him!

[A Ruckus of Dogs]

That's Russia. The MIddle East and parts of Asia are rapidly increasing their population. Overall, the earth's population is increasing.