Skip to comments.Leaving the Brothel Behind
Posted on 01/19/2005 7:28:26 PM PST by wagglebee
A year ago, a pimp handed me a quivering teenage girl. Her name was Srey Neth, and she was one of the hundreds of thousands of teenagers who are enslaved by the sex trafficking industry worldwide.
Then I did something dreadfully unjournalistic: I bought her.
I purchased Srey Neth for $150 and another teenager, Srey Mom, for $203, receiving receipts from the brothel owners. As readers may remember, I then freed the girls and took them back to their villages.
Now I've come back to find out how they coped with freedom.
At first, it turns out, everything went well for Srey Neth. Our plan was for her to start a shop in her village, near Battambang. She invested $100 I had given her to build a shack and stock it with food and clothing. For a few months, business boomed.
The problem was her family. Srey Neth's parents and older brothers and sisters had a hard time understanding why they should go hungry when their sister had a store full of food. And her little nephews and nieces, running around the yard, helped themselves when she wasn't looking.
"Srey Neth got mad," her mother recalled. "She said we had to stay away, or everything would be gone. She said she had to have money to buy new things."
But in a Cambodian village, nobody listens to an uneducated teenage girl. Indeed, the low status of girls is the underlying reason why so many daughters are sold to the brothels. So by May, Srey Neth's shop was empty, and she had no money to restock it.
"It was our fault," her father told me, looking ashamed. "It was not Srey Neth's fault."
Srey Neth worried about her father, who was coughing up blood from tuberculosis. She also worried about her older brother, who could not afford to get married, and about the family debts, which could cost her family its land.
It was that kind of concern for her family that had led her, at the suggestion of a female cousin, to sell herself to the brothel in late 2003 and send the proceeds home.
This time, she thought about looking for work as a dishwasher in neighboring Thailand for $1.50 a day. A trafficker said he could smuggle her into Thailand and get her a dishwashing job, but only if she promised him $100.
Some 700,000 people are trafficked across international borders each year, and that's often how they end up in the sex industry: they assume debts and then, when they cannot quickly repay the money, gangs force them into brothels - where they are stuck until they are dying of AIDS.
Fortunately, I'd arranged for American Assistance for Cambodia (www.cambodiaschools.com), an aid group, to keep track of Srey Neth. It offered her something less risky: a move to Phnom Penh to learn to be a beautician. So, with money sent to the group by New York Times readers a year ago, Srey Neth started in the beauty school.
That's where I met her again. She was beaming, and she proudly told how she had learned to give manicures and haircuts. She placed third in her class in applying makeup, and she's even studying English. She bubbles with happiness in the way a teenager should.
"I'm happy with Srey Neth," said the beauty school's owner, Sapor Rendall. "She studies hard."
Ms. Rendall added that there was only one problem with Srey Neth: "She doesn't want to do massage. ... I've talked to her about it many times, but she's very reluctant."
Massages are routine in beauty shops in Cambodia and are not sexual, but for Srey Neth, they scream danger. I'm delighted.
Srey Neth cut my hair - I was her first paying customer - and she is excitedly talking about starting her own beauty shop so she can support her family again. She says she'll call it Nick and Bernie's, after me and Bernard Krisher, the chairman of American Assistance for Cambodia.
Today Srey Neth steers clear of the boys trying to flirt with her - she's still deeply distrustful of boys and men - but she has learned to laugh again. She is a happy, giggly, self-confident reminder that we should never give up on the slaves of the 21st century. I couldn't be more proud of her.
That's the good news. In my column on Saturday, I'll tell you about Srey Mom.
Wow, that's terrific. One girl with a *legitimate* marketable skill and a reasonable future may not seem like much, but God values every person immeasurably, and will reward Mr. Kristof for his kindness.
Yep, it's a very powerful story.
Good for Kristof. This is the way that the truly good things are done in Cambodia.
And good luck to Srey Neth. It's very easy for these girls to get sucked back into the abyss.
It seems to me that there are some cultural issues at play that lead girls into that situation.
now if only all (or most) male western tourists to SEA would
cultivate this attitude and behavior . we owe it to these long suffering people to help them and not try to take advantage of them.
Here's another related story that Kristof had the other day
It's called slavery.
It's a lot.
Getting even one of these girls out of the brothels, and then affording her a skill, also means that her family might have other options. Maybe she'll pay for her brother to go to school, maybe pay for Mom's cataract operation. Maybe both. For certain she'll warn other girls not to be taken by the traffickers and their lies.
I saw that article. It's horrible. And the sexual abuse of girls and boys by Moslems in Africa and Arabia is horrible. And there's not much I can do about it except pray. Very frustrating!
That's a cheering line of reasoning. Thanks!
I would be looking at Europeans as the biggest customers for the sex trade in that region. Southeast Asia seems to be the biggest tourist destination of Europeans.
The sex trade wouldn't exist if there weren't any consumers.
I'm just happy to see that a liberal like Kristof actually DOES SOMETHING about these tragedies, most of the others just go and take pictures and try to make us feel guilty for it.
It reminds us that all liberals aren't evil. Some are just ... deluded, or something. But this man obviously has good instincts, and perseverance. And a girl owes him her chance in life.
It's a terrific story. I hope the next installment isn't a tragedy!
Looks like Kristoff took Sam Kinneson's advice about poor people being filmed for the Sallie Struthers special, "Why doesn't the cameraman feed them?" It was a very noble effort, but it shows what do gooders are up against trying to solve these horrible situations. The law of unintended consequences set in when they staked her in a business and it was a failure. Then they retrained her and seem to have succeeded. What this really shows is that the only way to eraidicate this barbarism is through implementing capitalism. When investment is freed up and the market is allowed to function, things like this stop happening. Thailand had many similar forms of white slavery, but since it became more developed these practices stopped. Now they import these people from Cambodia.
Just send Kofi some more money. He'll fix it.
cripplecreek: I would be looking at Europeans as the biggest customers for the sex trade in that region.
Wrong and wrong.
The biggest brothel customers in Cambodia are Cambodians; in Thailand, Thais; in Macau, Chinese; and in Vietnam, Vietnamese.
In Cambodia, at least, Westerners are the only people taking really effective action aginst the traffickers. And note that Nick Kristof needed an onsite American NGO to do followup on Srey Neth.
Yes, Westerners avail themselves of the brothels, but not in the percentages that the Western media likes you to believe.
That is because all the sex tourists were in Phuket. Don't you read FR? LOL!
A girl making $1.50 a day in Thailand is better than a girl starving in Cambodia. I have a few friends who you would consider on the 'slave' scale when it comes to wages. They are simply happy they can make money and be alive.
The Thai prostitutes come mainly from Isan in northeastern Thailand, not from Cambodia.
Though I like your premise about capitalism, Cambodia also is a fairly capitalist society, but with a lot of corruption and a kleptocratic government.
The real problem is that these rural societies which are dirt, dirt poor don't provide too many chances for education or training.
Oh yes, I forgot. Every Westerner in Thailand is a sex tourist. Right.
Beautifully stated, Tax-chick.
That old AmericanInTokyo did good on this earth.
Yep, that's how I hope I'll go out and on to the other side. "Do-gooder."
What supercilious driveling, hubristic back-patting, sort of senseless jerk would write this for pay?
This reminds me of stories I've read about how African blacks confiscated many stores from their Indian owners during the early years of independence. What the new store owners were unable to understand was that you couldn't immediately spend the profits from each day's sales, because you had to use some of the money to restock.
So, all the stores ran out of goods, the new owners ran out of money, and the economy collapsed.
Keeping the shelves filled seems like a simple concept, but if you've never done anything like that before, evidently the logic of it escapes you, just as it did this girl's family.
You need a little training in basic business methods, and above all you need LAW, so people can run a business without having it stolen, ripped off, or confiscated.
I also remember hearing about a bunch of sanctimonious human rights groups accusing them of "supporting the slave trade."
Those scumbags are typical leftists... Recognizing a problem, and then sitting around, talking amongst themselves about what a terrible thing it is... But condemning those trying to do something about it!
I recall a saying by someone far wiser than myself saying that when you save one person, it's like saving the whole world.
The author fails to mention the tragedy that communism is on country.
Try a tall glass of Metamucil. You'll feel a whole lot better.
The white slavery trade isn't limited to Southeast Asia. Young girls are also smuggled into this country for the same purpose. Most are Korean, Eastern European, and Latin American.
In another 5-10 years the Patpong district will go the way of the Combat Zone in Boston and Times Square in NYC. Going into one of those Thai bars and seeing the show to me was one of the most depressing sites I had ever witnessed. You could see that these people were totally exploited.
Cambodia has a screwy government, but it is not communist. A warlord's kleptocracy maybe, but not communist.
You got that right.
Yes. Pol Pot and the Khmer Rouge were communists.
What?!?!?!? No Happy Ending?
But what you are seeing is the same results of what happens when the government controls the wealth in a country.
Ping me if you hear about Strey Mom. I hope it is good news as well.
Every second, third, or fourth ...
The slave trade persists ...
Evil does not release its grip willingly.
A Ding! for you for accepting MSM propaganda and for being a naive individual.
I know more than a dozen expats in Thailand. Not one of them is a "sex tourist."
As I said above, the largest group of sex customers in Thailand is the Thais themselves. Same in Cambodia. Same in Vietnam.
The only one I knew was and I was shocked that he disgraced himself.
Then again men are weak.
I'm not sure it's that simple, though you do have a partial point.
Having spent a lot of time there, I can assure you that best description of Cambodia's government is "warlord kleptocracy". It isn't even close to being communist.
Yes, wealth is in the hands of the warlords, and they will do just about anything to get it: brothels, heroin trafficking, arms sales (almost openly and to the Tamil Tigers when I was there), and plain old graft and payola.
That's all an effect of the warlord society, and Cambodia is a nation of warriors, no ifs, ands, or buts.
Ironically, Nepal is having a true Maoist Communist insurrection which is aimed at the (also kleptocratic) Rana monarchy. And Nepal also has (or had) several "brothel towns" which were exclusively the domain of Nepalis and Indian traders. No Westerners, not one. They weren't allowed there. Despite those "brothel towns", there is no sex tourism in Nepal. Same in Delhi and Bombay.
The myth that Westerners are responsible for Asian prostitution is absolutely ludicrous and bizarre, though Americans are ignorant and naive enough to believe it. It starts with the locals.
Thank you for posting this thread. I look forward to reading the sequel.