Posted on 02/19/2005 10:58:11 AM PST by srm913
Want longer life for wife? Let her argue with you
LONDON - A WOMAN who keeps quiet during an argument with her husband is four times more likely to die from heart disease and other causes, according to a study published in the American Heart Association (AHA) journal.
Researchers believe women who argue with their husbands are warding off heart disease and other causes of death.
And women whose work had a disruptive effect on their home lives were twice as likely to develop heart disease.
The researchers studied 3,700 people in Framingham, Massachusetts, over a 10-year period, the BBC reported.
The joint Boston University and Wisconsin-based Eaker Epidemiology Enterprises team also found that marriage suited men as husbands only had half the chance of dying from heart disease as unmarried men.
Lead researcher Elaine Eaker said doctors should be looking for signs of marital stress to refer patients for counselling.
'We believe we have found characteristics of marriages that have an impact on people's health and longevity.
'While medical care providers are not specifically trained to intervene on psychosocial issues such as marital characteristics, they may be the most likely contact to observe or uncover these characteristics or emotions.'
A second study of 35,000 women by the Centres for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta looked at the link between cardiovascular disease and work.
It found unemployed women looking for work reported the worst physical health, with nearly a third having high blood pressure and 6 per cent suffering a heart attack, stroke or chest pain.
At least one British doctor has disputed the research published in the AHA, saying it should be treated with a 'pinch of salt'.
'We need to remind ourselves that we self-select into certain groups. People who choose to get married have different characteristics from those who do not. So they may be more or less at risk of developing health problems.
'We cannot be sure that the research is comparing 'like with like', ' said Sir Alexander Macara, of the National Heart Forum.
My wife, OTOH, will be alive for 169 years at least ;)
A couple of Henny Youngman classics:
Why do Jewish men die before their wives? Because they want to.
Why are Jewish divorces so expensive? Because they are worth it.
(He used "Jewish", not me. They'd still be funny without it :))
Well, sounds like my soon to be ex will live to be 1,000...
Yeah SHE lives longer because she sucks the life out of YOU.
No problem here either!!!
Let me get this straight. If you argue with your wife, you're an ass. But if she wants to argue with your, it's medically proven to be the right thing to do.
Let me guess. If she wants the ba--s, it's best to let her have them...
LMAO
Why do men die first?
If you put a woman on a pedestal and try to protect her from the rat race... you're a male chauvinist.
If you stay home and do the housework ... you're a pansy.
If you work too hard ... there's never any time for her.
If you don't work enough ... you're a good-for-nothing bum.
If she has a boring repetitive job with low pay.... this is exploitation.
If you have a boring repetitive job with low pay ... you should get off your lazy behind and find something better.
If you get a promotion ahead of her ... that is favoritism..
If she gets a job ahead of you ... it's equal opportunity.
If you mention how nice she looks ... it's sexual harassment.
If you keep quiet ... it's male indifference.
If you cry ... you're a wimp.
If you don't ... you're an insensitive bastard.
If you make a decision without consulting her.... you're a chauvinist.
If she makes a decision without consulting you.... she's a liberated woman.
If you ask her to do something she doesn't enjoy ... that's domination..
If she asks you ... it's a favor.
If you appreciate the female form and frilly underwear ... you're a pervert.
If you don't ... you're gay.
If you like a woman to shave her legs and keep in shape ... you're sexist.
If you don't ... you're unromantic.
If you try to keep yourself in shape ... you're vain.
If you don't ... you're a slob.
If you buy her flowers ... you're after something.
If you don't ... you're not thoughtful.
If you're proud of your achievements ... you're full of yourself.
If you don't ... you're not ambitious.
If she has a headache ... she's tired.
If you have a headache ... you don't love her anymore.
If you want it too often ... you're oversexed.
If you don't ... there must be someone else.
Men die first because they want to.
It doesn't really add years....it just seems much longer.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We like it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining when you leave it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT fun. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Nagging is emotional abuse.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just ask!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. Girls discuss, guys fix things. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1 When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine...Really.
1. Don't! ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round is a shape.
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight; but did you know men really don't mind that? It's like fancy camping.
Just think of the commerical with the referee being yelled at by his wife. Be at peace and remember, it's only background noise. ;)
2. VULNERABLE (vul-ne-ra-bel) adj.
Female...... Fully opening up one's self emotionally to another.
Male........ Playing football without a cup.
3. COMMUNICATION (ko-myoo-ni-kay-shon) n.
Female...... The open sharing of thoughts and feelings with one's partner.
Male........ Leaving a note before taking off on a fishing trip with the boys.
4. COMMITMENT (ko-mit-ment) n.
Female...... A desire to get married and raise a family.
Male........ Trying not to hit on other women while out with this one.
5. ENTERTAINMENT (en-ter-tayn-ment) n.
Female...... A good movie, concert, play or book.
Male........ Anything that can be done while drinking beer.
6. FLATULENCE (flach-u-lens) n
Female...... An embarrassing byproduct of indigestion.
Male........ A source of entertainment, and used as self-expression in male bonding.
7 MAKING LOVE (may-king luv) n.
Female...... The greatest expression of intimacy a couple can achieve.
Male........ Call it whatever you want, just as long as we do it.
8. REMOTE CONTROL (ri-moht kon-trohl) n.
Female...... A device for changing from one TV channel to another.
Male........ A device for scanning through all 375 channels every five minutes.
Slacker...
AMEN!
Be direct and ask for what you want, quit obsessing about your weight and quit looking at those dang mazines with the Diet of the Week on the covers, and don't drag out the old laundry list of injustices from years past.
Let?
Denny Crane: "There are two places to find the truth. First God and then Fox News."
That is soooo funny!
If she doesn't get it, you're doomed.
I did, she didn't get it, she moved out shortly thereafter...I'm free - FREE, FREE!!!!!!!!
LOVE that picture...too funny
I will live FOREVER!!!
While you may be free free free, I'll bet it wasn't for free free free.
Work all week, come home, relax and drink a few beers, have your wife yell at you because you are drinking beer and won't be ready in time, take a shower, have your wife yell at you for not throwing your clothes into the hamper, get dressed up, wait twenty minutes for your wife to finish getting ready, get in the car, head for the club, realize you don't have enough cash, stop at a convenience store ATM and pay an extra two bucks for that cash, have the wife yell at you for paying the extra two bucks because you didn't plan ahead, get to the club, spend twenty minutes looking for a free parking space while your wife yells at you for not being willing to pay ten bucks to park next to the club, walk ten minutes to the club with your wife complaining about the walk the entire time, wait half an hour to get into the club, get soaked because it starts raining and you don't have an umbrella with your wife yelling at you because her hair is getting ruined, get into the club, stand in a corner because all the tables are taken, wait ten minutes at the bar to get a drink, carry the drinks back to your wife standing in the corner while losing half the contents because some drunk knocked into you, have your wife yell at your for losing so much of her drink, watch the comic on stage repeat the same jokes about masturbation that he's told for the last three years, finish your half drink and this time flag down the cocktail waitress, wait for the next comic to come on stage, have the waitress bring the drinks, have the wife yell at you because she thinks you were checking out the cocktail waitress, spill half your drink down your shirt when some drunk bumps into your arm just as you are taking the first sip, and then realize that the comic telling masturbation jokes was actually the headliner because you got there so late and the show's over. And you get to have your wife yell at you the entire walk back to the car in the rain, which is turning to snow.
Or, there's the passive aggressive solution.
Put the seat down and pee on it. ;o)
Simple.
Men have to live with women.
Sounds like an old joke I heard in high school:
Q: How did Helen Keller's parents punish her?
A: They put a plunger in the toilet.
Hawhawhawhawhawhawhaw
Wow....the ultimate double-edged sword.
No, but the best money I ever spent!
Really, how can you put a price on freedom?
And give her sticky buns.
with credit to Cheech and Chong for that one...
Because women make men WISH FOR DEATH!
Hehe, snicker.
That would be funny if it weren't so terribly close to the truth..
You can't.
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She could.
LOL
I'll drink to that.
Ping- just for fun.
Bud, I spent close to twenty years living that hell.
Fifteen years later, I'm here to tell you there is life after that slow death.
All the best! D1
Hitlery anyway - ol' bl*wj*b Bill hasn't been looking too good lately...
"Bud, I spent close to twenty years living that hell."
We are surrounded by failed marriages. I'm single and never been married, and I love my freedom. I get lonely--and don't believe in shacking up, not that I don't think about it--but that's the price of the freedom. Like I read somewhere: "Freedom means no home, Home means no freedom"...or at least not the kind of freedom the wanderer has.
Are you completely burned against marriage or do you see any hope there for yourself? I worry because so many marriages are failing, and I do wonder if singleness is the better option given these times of all the little gods and goddesses running around thinking they deserve to have the best of everything (i.e. full of pride, which is fatal to a marriage).
In my first marriage, I wasn't perfect. Hell, I'm not perfect now. Nobody is. Living with someone else is like living with two minds, never quite in sync.
Rationality is the key. If she's rational, you'll get along. If she's not, there's no basis for settling differences. And this doesn't mean victory. It can even mean, we agree to disagree amicably.
My first wife was as irrational a person as you'd ever meet. If we didn't have money, and money was tight then, her comeback was that she deserved to have whatever she wanted and that was that. To hell with the bills and whatever was important. The examples could be legion.
The scenario Dirtboy laid out was like a blow by blow from my first marriage. It almost brough a panic attack on. LOL, just kidding but seriously, what a waste of time.
I am married to one of the most level-headed people I've ever met. She is beautiful, extremely capable, and happy within herself.
I wish for any guy the same luck that I have experienced. It will be a blessing to them.
Don't go out looking. Be a little bit of a joiner. Meet people. Sooner or later you'll meet the right one.
My wife now spends time doing her thing, and I mine. But it's nice to have someone around for shared experiences.
Single life can been quite enjoyable. Some people perfer it, and if you do more power to you. If it gets old, here's to wishing you success in finding someone to "ENJOY" life with.
D1
HUH??? Bill doesn't argue back. He takes it like a lil' bitch.
Actually, I read that one particular fight between the two resulted in broken glass and smashed cupboards in the kitchen of the Arkansas governor's mansion.
D1 ~ You speak from wisdom.
I have been married to my husband for 41 years. Let me help you guys out on this "let her argue" bit. It's not quite as bad as it sounds.
There are some women who, because of inner insecurities, hold everything in and feel afraid to speak their minds. Giving them the opportunity to express themselves can increase their confidence in themselves, in the marriage, and in their husbands. And it alleviates the stress in their lives that causes bad things such as heart attacks.
Now, what you said, D1, is the key. She might be inhibited and needs to work some things out with a loving, understanding husband. However, she must be a rational human being. As you say, this is key.
That's key for both genders. As well as an understanding of the difference between what women see as rational and men see as rational in the relationship.
Oh yeah ... that Venus/Mars thing ;)
Otherwise referred to as "trench warfare."
THAT is fun-ny...
And I should have added the punch line. That she suggested the outing, but on the way back to the car in the rain she bitched at you for suggesting going to the comedy club.
Well, in my experience I wouldn't exactly refer to it as trench warfare. But there truly are differences in perspective in what is important, what is not between men and women.
For instance, I don't think men have an affinity for talking things out. My husband credits Tim the Toolman for giving him great wisdom (lol).
My husband and I are such good friends that there are few "wars" or turf battles. Marriage is an evolution, and all 41 years have been a wonderful adventure.
Well, in my experience I wouldn't exactly refer to it as trench warfare. But there truly are differences in perspective in what is important, what is not between men and women.
For instance, I don't think men have an affinity for talking things out. My husband credits Tim the Toolman for giving him great wisdom (lol).
My husband and I are such good friends that there are few "wars" or turf battles. Marriage is an evolution, and all 41 years have been a wonderful adventure.
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