>>>Children are not destroyed for life by molestation.
That is an unfair branding of a victim and it needs to stop.
We are ostracizing them and telling them their lives are ruined and destroyed. How can one expect a child to rise above their background if we constantly shove it in their face that they can't - they are a victim.<<<<
Maybe not destroyed totally but greatly scarred and their lives turned upside down for a long long time. Have you been through it to know how hard it is? How your young mind is inundated with very adult things and you have no clue how to handle it? Do you understand what it's like to have NOWHERE to turn for help and no way to get out of the situation? I pray you don't but let me tell you it is not easy in most cases because of the dysfunction of the families. Child molesters specifically choose those kinds of vulnerable children to take advantage of.
We could greatly reduce the number of victims if the sentencing laws were appropriate for the crime. Any grown man or woman who get's off sexually with a child under 12 or 13 should never have the opportunity to reoffend it should be a mandatory life sentence with no parole.
Keep telling children about this burden they carry, and you will end up with a dysfunctional adult who will never recover, and perhaps perpetuate the crimes on other children.
We need prison reform in this county, and until we get it, expect more of the same. However, lots of unions and government politicos make good money on imprisonment, so that won't happen.
In addition, asking someone if they have been a victim of such a crime does nothing to further the discussion but rather satisfies your sense of voyeurism, in my opinion.