Keep telling children about this burden they carry, and you will end up with a dysfunctional adult who will never recover, and perhaps perpetuate the crimes on other children.
We need prison reform in this county, and until we get it, expect more of the same. However, lots of unions and government politicos make good money on imprisonment, so that won't happen.
In addition, asking someone if they have been a victim of such a crime does nothing to further the discussion but rather satisfies your sense of voyeurism, in my opinion.
You said that children who are molested aren't ruined for life, which is true *if* they get the right help. However, it usually doesn't happen right off the bat in most instances because the freaking family is screwed up. Those are the one's predatory child molesters target. If the child gets the appropriate support when they first disclose then yes they usually recover faster. It also depends on the severity of the offense. Fondling is much easier to overcome than actual rape.
I agree about the prison reform issue.
****In addition, asking someone if they have been a victim of such a crime does nothing to further the discussion but rather satisfies your sense of voyeurism, in my opinion.****
THat was not the intent, the way you made the statement regarding molestation not ruining lives made it sound like that you probably had not been through it. Which is what I hope. I have and would not wish that on my worst enemy. I did get over it, but only by the healing touch of God.
While you all have focused your anger on someone who was trying to give you information, [me] 100's of other children who needed advocates have been abused by "the guy down the street" and the "the guy who went to church every Sunday."
The countless victims of abuse who have been able to rise above the degradation of that predatory abuse to lead productive lives and rear emotionally healthy children, have done so with no help from you, and hundreds of people like you.
The children who perpetuate the abuse onto the next generation are the ones who had no help when they asked for it, and that's because the people they went to for help [teachers, relatives, neighbors] scoffed at them, and told them they "had it coming," including those who are victims of "statutory rape."
You should seriously consider what your vituperous words and attitudes toward me really mean. I would suggest that you save the thread, and in a week, read it from the beginning.
We are either in a common effort to save the children of this nation from ALL predators, or we are of a common mind to ignore the obvious.
If all you have to say to me is acidic, save your breath and the bandwidth. I already know how you "feel" about me because you tried very hard to make me run away and hide. Wrong answer. I'm still here, and any time I feel like adding something to a thread, I will do so, just as you will. Some people can't tolerate the truth, no matter how it is presented.
Good luck with your lives.