Posted on 07/15/2005 6:10:21 AM PDT by newgeezer
Well said.
You're right, Andy. You failed your child from the moment you got her 16-year-old mother pregnant, you immature, incontinent, thoughtless male.
Justice is in God's hands.
The predictable lib response: "Oh, no, Andy, don't feel bad. There was nothing you (or any of the gazillion absentee fathers like you) could have done." This, of course, is a huge lie, but it makes libs feel better about abandoning their own kids.
He was not a custodial parent. Okay, that's lamentable, and indicative of the disturbing decline of the American family. I fully agree with you there. But I cannot agree with you blaming the girl's death on the father's absence. He was not neglectful of her, nor did he actually harm her. He just wasn't around as much as a parent should be.
This guy is blaming himself for something that is not his fault. While the breakdown in his child's family is partially his fault, his daughter's death is not. Don't let a "pro-family" agenda make you blame the father of the victim.
'I was not there to protect you.' He is right and he does bear responsibility in this -- and he knows it. Shasta's dad was not there to protect her, either. Non-custodial is a legal determination only, not a moral exoneration. Dads DO protect their families physically; when the parents split up, the children are left unprotected. Biology is unaffected by Political Correctness, sorry.
He was not neglectful of her, nor did he actually harm her.
I wholeheartedly disagree.
If you want to lament that he was non-custodial, I'll join you , with the caveat that we don't know for sure that he was the one who chose to remain non-custodial. Just as possible was that the girl's mother didn't allow him to take an active role in his daughter's life. It happens, especially in this "hook-up" culture.
Sure. Which is why it's EVIL to make babies you can't nurture and protect. Some of them end up dead. The dad should feel guilty. He set the whole chain in motion when he unzipped his pants.
Don't be ridiculous. No one's suggesting Christie violated civil law. But, in the practical sense of the term, he was neglectful.
Everything he said in the quote is true. It seems he understands; he 'gets' it.
> Evelyn's father didn't live at home with her, and it now haunts him that he wasn't around when she disappeared in the night.
The crime wave we're seeing against women and children in particular is part of a broad attack against the family. The weakest are the most vulnerable.
But that doesn't mean men are always to blame.
Hmm. Uh, well, okay. Er, thanks for sharing.
Words, words, empty words.
You're welcome.
Such a sad life for this little girl. Did the mother's boyfriend show up at the funeral? Did he speak?
The biggest neglect it seems was in her home life most evident by her final night alive.
Departure: Leaving the service are Noel Miller and her boyfriend, Casey Frederiksen. Behind them, at right, are Lindsey Christie and Andy Christie.
Tears flow at service for Evelyn; anguished parents talk of child 'so many loved'
Departure: Leaving the service are Noel Miller and her boyfriend, Casey Frederiksen. Behind them, at right, are Lindsey Christie and Andy Christie.
Someone at the Register messed up; it's supposed to be "fiance"; "boyfriend" sounds so... noncommittal.)
the father and his wife are dressed more appropriately for such a sad occasion.
I think this whole thing is very tragic, but I don't believe in putting the blame on the father. Maybe I am too close to this to see clearly, and maybe I know too much as it is. Its harder when you live by these people, went to school with them, and then something this drastic happens. It has sent shock waves through our whole community. I also find it hard to believe what Marilyn Dettmer says,"No one is in anymore danger than before this happened." I just read in the paper today that they found the body of a 47 year-old female in her garage in Nora Springs. I happen to live in between these towns and don't feel safe AT ALL! What is this world coming to?
They are all just kids.
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