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Woman raised in homosexual household speaks against same-sex marriage
Catholic News Agency ^ | August 26, 2005

Posted on 08/26/2005 11:55:12 AM PDT by NYer

Ottawa, Aug. 26, 2005 (CNA) - A Canadian woman who grew up in a homosexual household in Toronto in the 60s and 70s says same-sex marriage does not respect or protect the rights and best interests of children.

Dawn Stefanowicz said as a child she was at high risk of exposure to contagious STDs due to sexual molestation, her father's high-risk sexual behaviors, and multiple partners. She shared her personal story and her position on same-sex marriage in a statement at a pro-family rally in Ottawa on Parliament Hill in April.

Her father, who was molested by older males as a child, lived with depression, control issues, anger outbursts, suicidal tendencies and sexual compulsions. He died of AIDS in 1991.

Stefanowicz, who cared deeply for her father, noted that growing up in a gay household exposed her to "bathhouse sex, cross-dressing, sodomy, pornography, gay nudity, lesbianism, bisexuality, minor recruitment, voyeurism, and exhibitionism.” In addition, she said, "Sadomasochism was alluded to and aspects demonstrated. Alcohol and drugs were often contributing factors to lower inhibitions in my father's relationships."

After two decades of exposure to these behaviors, she became insecure, depressed, suicidal and confused over her own sexuality.

“I did not see the value of biological complementing differences of male and female or think about marriage. I made vows to never have children since I had not grown up in a safe, sacrificial, child-centered home environment,” she said.

“I can tell you that I suffered long term in this situation and this has been professionally documented … I witnessed that every other family member suffered severely as well … My gender identity, psychological well being, and peer relationships were affected.”

According to Stefanowicz, children should not be subjected to such an environment. "Same-sex marriage will put the human rights of the individual in a higher place than what is best for society, families and especially children."

Stefanowicz says her experience is not that uncommon. She said research and personal testimonies indicate that children do best with both a mother and a father in a lifelong marriage bond. “Children need responsible monogamous parents who have no extramarital sexual partners. Parental promiscuity, abuse and divorce are not good for children.

“Children need consistent appropriate boundaries and secure expressions of emotional intimacy that are not sexualized in the home and community,” she wrote.

In addition, legalized same-sex marriage will provide “a direct legal entranceway of indoctrination, desensitization, personal and political recruitment of our vulnerable children by some gay activists within our schools while silencing all students who oppose the gay agenda.

“We have an obligation, for the sake of our children, to speak freely and to direct the laws of our land,” she wrote.

Stefanowicz is currently writing her biography, soon to be published. 

For her full statement, go to: http://www.citizenimpact.ca/issues/defn_marriage/ssm_children.html


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KEYWORDS: gay; gaymarriage; gayunion; homosexual
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1 posted on 08/26/2005 11:55:12 AM PDT by NYer
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To: american colleen; Lady In Blue; Salvation; narses; SMEDLEYBUTLER; redhead; Notwithstanding; ...
Catholic Ping - Please freepmail me if you want on/off this list


2 posted on 08/26/2005 11:55:47 AM PDT by NYer
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To: little jeremiah

Ping!


3 posted on 08/26/2005 11:56:12 AM PDT by NYer
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To: NYer

This kind of talk can get you arrested in Canada.


4 posted on 08/26/2005 11:57:15 AM PDT by atomicpossum (Replies should be as pedantic as possible. I love that so much.)
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To: NYer
growing up in a gay household exposed her to "bathhouse sex, cross-dressing, sodomy, pornography, gay nudity, lesbianism, bisexuality, minor recruitment, voyeurism, and exhibitionism.

This should not come as a surprise. Gay guys do not live like Ozzie and Harriet. Children should not be subjected to the way they live their lives.

5 posted on 08/26/2005 11:58:00 AM PDT by Bahbah (Air America: kids-for-kilowatts)
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To: NYer

Are we surprised?


6 posted on 08/26/2005 11:58:10 AM PDT by AliVeritas (Ignorance is a condition. Stupidity is a strategy.)
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To: NYer

The APA did a huge disservice to the world when they removed homosexuality from the list of sexual disorders.

It is truly unfortunate that they succumbed to political pressure.


7 posted on 08/26/2005 11:59:24 AM PDT by Paloma_55
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To: Bahbah

Yeah, but under that standard shouldn't we feel sorry for Chelsea Clinton?


8 posted on 08/26/2005 12:00:39 PM PDT by misterrob
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To: NYer

Bookmarked for later reference.


9 posted on 08/26/2005 12:01:39 PM PDT by <1/1,000,000th%
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To: Bahbah; Lazamataz

"bathhouse sex, cross-dressing, sodomy, pornography, gay nudity, lesbianism, bisexuality, minor recruitment, voyeurism, and exhibitionism."



Or, as Laz might call this... Friday! : )


10 posted on 08/26/2005 12:01:46 PM PDT by Hand em their arse
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To: NYer

Thank you for the post. I'm glad to hear someone is getting their story told.


11 posted on 08/26/2005 12:03:05 PM PDT by TXBubba ( Democrats: If they don't abort you then they will tax you to death.)
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To: Hand em their arse
Or, as Laz might call this... Friday!

LOL.

12 posted on 08/26/2005 12:03:09 PM PDT by Bahbah (Air America: kids-for-kilowatts)
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To: NYer

She better be careful, thinking like this might get her arrested for hate crimes.


13 posted on 08/26/2005 12:05:02 PM PDT by trubluolyguy (I am conservative. That is NOT the same thing as Republican. Losertarians are dead to me.)
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To: Hand em their arse
It's not a Friday.

I see nothing about alpaca sex, monkeys in rubber suits, or 20 gallon jugs of marmalade.

14 posted on 08/26/2005 12:06:04 PM PDT by Lazamataz (Islam is merely Nazism without the snappy fashion sense.)
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To: Bahbah

2X LOL on that friday thing. So what was anyone expecting? Of course all this perversion led to sexual abuse ofr minors.


15 posted on 08/26/2005 12:06:57 PM PDT by TrailofTears (We laugh at honor and are shocked that traitors are in our midst!!! C.S. Lewis)
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To: Lazamataz

YOU SUCK, THAT WAS YOU THAT BOUGHT UP ALL THE MARMALADE????


16 posted on 08/26/2005 12:07:19 PM PDT by Hand em their arse
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To: NYer

HOMOPHOBES!!!


17 posted on 08/26/2005 12:07:25 PM PDT by manwiththehands (If the Left offends you, stick around. They're always just getting started.)
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To: Hand em their arse
YOU SUCK, THAT WAS YOU THAT BOUGHT UP ALL THE MARMALADE????

If you want to have sex in my town....

(cocks my thumbs at myself)

....yer gonna have to talk to me.

18 posted on 08/26/2005 12:09:16 PM PDT by Lazamataz (Islam is merely Nazism without the snappy fashion sense.)
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To: Lazamataz

"Shoot, a fella' could have a pretty good weekend in Vegas with all that stuff."


19 posted on 08/26/2005 12:09:25 PM PDT by cj2a (When you're pathetic, but you don't know you're pathetic, that's really pathetic.)
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To: Lazamataz

Stay tuned, dude.


20 posted on 08/26/2005 12:09:38 PM PDT by brivette
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To: Lazamataz
(cocks my thumbs at myself)

Read that backwards the first time. Glad I re-read it.

21 posted on 08/26/2005 12:11:00 PM PDT by atomicpossum (Replies should be as pedantic as possible. I love that so much.)
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To: NYer
This is an outstanding article, and she's right on target. Unfortunately, it was written on April 9, 2005, long before Canada legalized same sex marriage.

Stefanowicz, who cared deeply for her father, noted that growing up in a gay household exposed her to "bathhouse sex, cross-dressing, sodomy, pornography, gay nudity, lesbianism, bisexuality, minor recruitment, voyeurism, and exhibitionism.” In addition, she said, "Sadomasochism was alluded to and aspects demonstrated. Alcohol and drugs were often contributing factors to lower inhibitions in my father's relationships."

This is what I've been thinking. Now that homosexuals and Lesbians are allowed to get married as they are in Canada, they are free to adopt children and free to raise them as they see it fit.

Will the Canadian government and judges legally promote unhealthy and unsound environments that encourage motherless and fatherless units through same-sex marriage?Ultimately, children will be the real victims and losers if same-sex marriage is legally enacted. What hope can I offer innocent children who have no voice? What price is Canada willing to pay for sexual freedom, tolerance and diversity? Is that price children's lives?Government and judges need to advance and defend marriage as between a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others for the sake of our children.

Excellent point.

22 posted on 08/26/2005 12:14:26 PM PDT by Victoria Delsoul
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To: NYer
"Same-sex marriage will put the human rights of the individual in a higher place than what is best for society, families and especially children."

I think I know what she means, but I don't think this is the best phrasing.

legalized same-sex marriage will provide “a direct legal entranceway of indoctrination, desensitization, personal and political recruitment of our vulnerable children by some gay activists within our schools while silencing all students who oppose the gay agenda.

And the pervs are salivating at the thought.

23 posted on 08/26/2005 12:15:16 PM PDT by workerbee (A person's a person no matter how small)
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To: Bahbah

When deviancy is portrayed as the norm, the norm becomes deviancy.


24 posted on 08/26/2005 12:15:25 PM PDT by oyez
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To: atomicpossum; Lazamataz

"If You're Cross-Eyed And Have Dyslexia, Can You Read All Right?"


25 posted on 08/26/2005 12:16:26 PM PDT by Hand em their arse
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To: NYer
According to Stefanowicz, children should not be subjected to such an environment. "Same-sex marriage will put the human rights of the individual in a higher place than what is best for society, families and especially children." Stefanowicz says her experience is not that uncommon. She said research and personal testimonies indicate that children do best with both a mother and a father in a lifelong marriage bond. “Children need responsible monogamous parents who have no extramarital sexual partners. Parental promiscuity, abuse and divorce are not good for children.

As many of us have been saying for years, allowing homosexuals to adopt children is government sanctioned child abuse.
26 posted on 08/26/2005 12:19:27 PM PDT by Antoninus (Benedictus qui venit in nomine Domini, Hosanna in excelsis!)
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To: workerbee
"Same-sex marriage will put the human rights of the individual in a higher place than what is best for society, families and especially children."

Should read:"Same-sex marriage will put the perverse sexual gratification of the individual in a higher place than what is best for society, families and especially children."

27 posted on 08/26/2005 12:20:20 PM PDT by Dems_R_Losers (Where is Chris Lehane??)
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To: misterrob
"Yeah, but under that standard shouldn't we feel sorry for Chelsea Clinton?"

LOL

there are a lot of reasons to feel sorry for Chelsea. Just like the gal from Canada in the story, one has to wonder how she would have turned out if she'd been raised in a more main-stream environment.

I was friends with a gal starting in 4th grade who, during our Sr. year in H.S. unloaded some truth on me about what her dad had been doing to her for years. It REALLY goofed her up. When I saw her 20 years later at a reunion she said that her telling me that day was one of the first steps she took toward putting a stop to it. Her entire life was tainted by her dad's behavior. I can only imagine what this Canadian women went through.

The things we put our kids through....
28 posted on 08/26/2005 12:20:58 PM PDT by mad puppy ( The Southern border needs to be a MAJOR issue in 2006 and 2008)
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To: AliVeritas

No, but it sure is nice to hear it from an insider. I wish more would come forward, but I suspect most are so screwed up, and probably gay, that they see nothing wrong with it.


29 posted on 08/26/2005 12:21:27 PM PDT by conservativewasp (Liberals lie for sport and hate their country. Islam is a terrorist organization.)
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To: misterrob
Yeah, but under that standard shouldn't we feel sorry for Chelsea Clinton?

I do feel for Chelsea Clinton, and all of the children of the rich, powerful, and decadent. The ones that grow out of such environments into useful, productive, upstanding members of society are the exception, not the rule.
30 posted on 08/26/2005 12:21:27 PM PDT by Antoninus (Benedictus qui venit in nomine Domini, Hosanna in excelsis!)
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To: NYer
In addition, legalized same-sex marriage will provide “a direct legal entranceway of indoctrination, desensitization, personal and political recruitment of our vulnerable children by some gay activists within our schools while silencing all students who oppose the gay agenda.

Yep.....

31 posted on 08/26/2005 12:21:53 PM PDT by Deetes (God Bless the Troops and their Families)
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To: Lazamataz

What flavor marmalade?


32 posted on 08/26/2005 12:27:47 PM PDT by DesignerChick
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To: DesignerChick
Orange.

As in, "Orange you glad we're having sex?"

33 posted on 08/26/2005 12:29:07 PM PDT by Lazamataz (Islam is merely Nazism without the snappy fashion sense.)
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To: Lazamataz

LOL!!!!


34 posted on 08/26/2005 12:32:19 PM PDT by DesignerChick
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To: conservativewasp

I finally got to see the HBO documentary that a daughter did about her father dying of AIDS (I think his name was Jeff Betancourt). His daughter was trying several times to ask him when he realized he was gay, was it before he married her mom (yes), how could you get married (didn't see a problem with it), did you cheat on her (yes, with men in the village)...he was dying and still didn't see what he did and the great risks he put them in. It was crazy. I have to believe he just said that, he was ashamed, he was already paying the price but I don't think so. It was really twisted.


35 posted on 08/26/2005 12:36:47 PM PDT by AliVeritas (Ignorance is a condition. Stupidity is a strategy.)
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To: NYer; little jeremiah; scripter

MSM will ensure this woman's incredibly true (and probably very commonplace) story goes deep down the memory hole, n'er to be seen again.


36 posted on 08/26/2005 12:45:33 PM PDT by ItsOurTimeNow (Pap always said, "Never trust a Hogwallop!")
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To: NYer; ItsOurTimeNow; EdReform; backhoe; Yehuda; Clint N. Suhks; saradippity; stage left; Yakboy; ...
Bump and ping.

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Let little jeremiah and scripter know if you want on or off the homosexual agenda ping list.

37 posted on 08/26/2005 12:58:08 PM PDT by scripter (Let temporal things serve your use, but the eternal be the object of your desire.)
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To: AliVeritas

like the tagline... my favorite bumper sticker:


I not stupid, I'm just big-boned


38 posted on 08/26/2005 12:59:06 PM PDT by Hand em their arse
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To: AliVeritas

We are not surprised, but do we ever celebrate this voice of Truth in all the lies that are mucking around. I wait to hear more of these individuals step forward to counter the rancid propaganda that the Gay Agenda people are spewing.


39 posted on 08/26/2005 12:59:16 PM PDT by bboop
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To: bboop
I wait to hear more of these individuals step forward to counter the rancid propaganda that the Gay Agenda people are spewing.

Indeed, we need to encourage ex-gays and those raised in homosexual households to speak up. Here is a list of ex-gay testimonials you may find of interest.

40 posted on 08/26/2005 1:05:02 PM PDT by scripter (Let temporal things serve your use, but the eternal be the object of your desire.)
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To: atomicpossum

....also in the U.S.......


41 posted on 08/26/2005 1:14:51 PM PDT by auto power
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To: Lazamataz
I see nothing about alpaca sex, monkeys in rubber suits, or 20 gallon jugs of marmalade.

You seem to be settling down...

Myweighin.com - my pet project

42 posted on 08/26/2005 1:18:34 PM PDT by smith288 (Peace at all cost makes for tyranny free of charge...)
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To: scripter

Thanks for the ping.

There should be no surprise.

The terrible life this woman had with her gay predator father is probably typical for most children in gay households.


43 posted on 08/26/2005 1:44:24 PM PDT by Grampa Dave (The civilized world must win WW IV/the Final Crusade and destroy Jihadism!)
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To: Bahbah

This story just rips at your heart.


44 posted on 08/26/2005 1:49:43 PM PDT by jmaroneps37 (The quisling ratmedia: always eager to remind us of why we hate them.)
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To: jmaroneps37
This story just rips at your heart.

Yes, and particularly since some seem to be in such a hurry to put even more helpless children in similar situations.

45 posted on 08/26/2005 1:53:02 PM PDT by Bahbah (Air America: kids-for-kilowatts)
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To: atomicpossum

Yeah, "thumbs my..." sorta makes a guy wince.


46 posted on 08/26/2005 1:56:03 PM PDT by r9etb
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To: Paloma_55

That and the fact that there are a whole lot more "homophobes" needing "treatment" out there than there were ever homosexuals...


47 posted on 08/26/2005 1:56:36 PM PDT by Little Ray (I'm a reactionary, hirsute, gun-owning, knuckle dragging, Christian Neanderthal and proud of it!)
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To: NYer

This story is both frightening and sad.


48 posted on 08/26/2005 3:08:31 PM PDT by TAdams8591 (Member since December 1998)
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To: NYer

"bathhouse sex, cross-dressing, sodomy, pornography, gay nudity, lesbianism, bisexuality, minor recruitment, voyeurism, and exhibitionism.” >>>>>>>


I'm surprised she didn't mention the gerbel thing they do, isn't that a popular pastime? LOL


49 posted on 08/26/2005 6:41:38 PM PDT by SaintDismas (Jest becuz you put yer boots in the oven, don't make it bread)
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To: NYer

Ping


50 posted on 08/27/2005 1:08:27 PM PDT by MrEdd
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