Skip to comments.More women are asking for prenups
Posted on 09/18/2005 3:05:48 AM PDT by Caipirabob
Over a casual dinner, Rachel Kaplan turned to her boyfriend and asked, "You're open for a prenup, right?"
Darren Waldohlz, 38, a partner in a successful speed-dating business, admits he was caught off guard. But he said he realized a prenuptial agreement would protect the house he owns, too.
"It's not that I plan to get divorced," says Kaplan, 23, a single mom from Fort Lauderdale, who has a sizable inheritance. "I have to protect myself and my daughter."
While men are still more likely to seek a prenup, "women are becoming a more dominant force," said attorney Alan Braverman, who has offices in Fort Lauderdale and Boynton Beach.
Experts attribute the change to women marrying later or more than once.
"It's not uncommon in today's world that women are entering marriages with assets and stock options," said matrimonial attorney Jacqueline Valdespino, in Coral Gables. "Now both sides have equal bargaining power."
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Yup. Don't you just get that feeling.
Well, she does have a child from a prior relationship. She has an inheritance coming that needs to be sheltered for the child. It doesn't say in the article whether her bf has children from a prior marriage. If she should die, if I'm not mistaken, legally her husband would inherit all of her assets under common law. That means his children would also stand to inherit. Have you ever seen grown children fight over money? It isn't pretty.
As for first time married couples, pre-nups, set you up for failure. Jmo, however Tori Spelling has one, for obvious reasons. I'm sure when Paris and Paris tie the knot, they'll both have one. The rich are not like you and me.
Yes, stigma having been stigmatized has had negative consequences. Approval and disapproval are what drives a culture "for better or worse."
If we recover our collective senses, getting married and staying married (even when the going gets tough) will be highly valued. Still, prenups are prudent to have, like wills and life insurance.
Yup... and with no thanks to the feminsit, and TV shows like Oprah.
"If you really want to look at the reason why things are today, just take a look at what the feminist have done to brainwash, warp, and pollute women's minds...."
Hold on a minute. As a female, I admit that Feminism has done alot of damage but it's also done some good. 40 or 50 years ago, a man could walk out on his wife for a younger woman (and it happened quite often), leaving the wife with absolutely nothing. There are instances like this in my family. The man left the woman (with kids) and carried on with his new girlfriend as if he didn't have a life before her. The wife had no choice but to go out and work, but back then, women weren't as educated as they are today, so the wife had to get a menial job and the pay was menial as well. Try raising children in a position like that.
Some of you Freeper men really confuse the hell out of me. First women are blood suckers and should be forced to sign a prenup if the man is wealthy. Then women are bitches if they dare to educate themselves, move up the corporate ladder but have a difficult time finding a male companion. So if you are looking to blame Feminism, then some of the blame falls squarely on your shoulders as well. Woman are damned if they do, and damned if they don't.
Sorry to rant, but geez.
Correct. Someone going into a marriage, may not see things which should raise red flags. Men as well as women can be gold diggers, never mind just plain nuts.
Yep. But - love comes with a set of blinders.
One item, two words:
-Darren Waldohlz, 38, a partner in a successful speed-dating business, admits he was caught off guard.-
Guess he jumped in too fast?
The ability to treat deadbeat husbands, especially dads, as criminals is a great reason for the state to enforce the terms of marriage. This is just nuts and bolts of civilized life, or should be, if we weren't so fixated, collectively, on individual gratification rather than individual responsibility, to the extent that we don't even know what marriage is for.
Feminism defined as more women having career available to them is fine, but not when it takes away the option of devoting themselves to child-rearing. A woman should not have to stay in the workforce as a protection against the husband abandoning his responsibilities - society and the law should provide the protection.
An even better question is why someone want to marry a lying, conniving snake, in the first place?
Just because there is a pre-nup, does not preclude the spouse from contributing money to the marriage. If the amount of money is sizable, then the principle is held in trust, and one can live off the interest.
Inheritances are exempt from the mutual assests considered in a divorce action. Well, they used to be. We don't know how the document was written up. It could have been worded to avoid a fight between the children in case of death. Wills can be successfully challenged. Just look at the mess Anna Nicole Smith went through.
Always remember that the love of money is the root of all evil.
Start asking her for money... Before long, if she doesn't dump you, she'll demand one!
Blinders and a temporary lobotomy, lol!
The ones you have to watch out for, are the ones who have a problem. They are one person during the courting process, then they get the ring on your finger, and you see the real person. If you're young, it's difficult to spot them in time.
"I'm not being dour, just practical."
Quite right. People grounded in morality KNOW they are going for the long haul because if they don't they are not who and what they believe themselves to be.
Looking at it from another angle: Those guys who go over the top into the teeth of machine gun fire do so not because they WANT to but because they recognize a Truth greater than their own lives.
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