In response to the person who said his parents had weekly battles in which they screamed so loud that their small children were terrorized, I said that such behavior was either insane or evil. The person responded that his parents were not evil, though what they did was "wrong." It's amazing to me that we cheer so loudly when our President finally gets up the nerve to call the hurtful behavior of foreign enemies by its right name, but we insist on using milder terms for hurtful behavior that is closer to home. I suppose that is because few of us would become suicide bombers, but many of us--sadly--have subjected our own children to the horrors of a broken family.
It appears that you feel comfortable with putting those you don't want to understand into either the insane or evil catagory. Your world is safer that way and you don't have to deal with human failings and then forgiveness for those who have failed you.
You are in fact the one sugar coating the situation when you clump all behavior into 2 catagories. There was/is no evil to exorcise and no insanity to fix or medicate therefore you've left no other options to deal with the situation.
They are people that both react to stress with anger. They needed to be taught a better way to work out issues in their marriage. It was fixable.