Skip to comments.Many Couples Must Negotiate Terms of 'Brokeback' Marriages
Posted on 03/09/2006 2:06:41 PM PST by nickcarraway
One hour into "Brokeback Mountain," Amy Jo Remmele began to cry, and not just for the woman on-screen, standing in a doorway in Riverton, Wyo., watching her husband embrace a man.
"When I saw that look in her eyes, I thought, 'Oh, yeah.' Even though I never saw my husband with another man, I knew exactly how that woman would have felt," said Mrs. Remmele, a respiratory therapist in rural Minnesota.
On June 1, 2000, Mrs. Remmele, then 31, discovered her husband's profile on the Web site gay.com. The couple stayed up all that night weeping and talking. Soon afterward, 10 days before she gave birth to her second child, Mrs. Remmele's husband went off to spend a couple of nights with his new boyfriend. "I tried to talk him out of it, and he left anyway," Mrs. Remmele said. "I was devastated." Three months later the couple divorced.
Mrs. Remmele now married to a farmer who raises cattle, corn and soybeans is one of an estimated 1.7 million to 3.4 million American women who once were or are now married to men who have sex with men.
The estimate derives from "The Social Organization of Sexuality," a 1990 study, that found that 3.9 percent of American men who had ever been married had had sex with men in the previous five years. The lead author, Edward O. Laumann, a sociologist at the University of Chicago, estimated that 2 to 4 percent of ever-married American women had knowingly or unknowingly been in what are now called mixed-orientation marriages.
Such marriages are not just artifacts of the closeted 1950's. In the 16th century, Queen Anne of Denmark had eight children with King James I of England, known not only for the King James Bible, but also for his devotion
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Mrs Remmele is one understanding woman. Ten days before the birth of his child he walks out to be with another man? He's lucky she didn't shoot him!
Right, so this is common place, a downright historical tradition.
1.7 million to 3.4 million?
I've seen some of these walk away gays. They drop everything (wives, children, relatives) for their perverted life style. Sickos.
Put an enemy's profile on a gay site and drop a dime to his wife?
(Which is another question... how'd she know to look?)
DANGEROUS! I think I would value my life more highly.
--- Such marriages are not just artifacts of the closeted 1950's ---
So, if the guy had gone off to visit his girlfriend 10 days before his wife had a child, would that have been an artifact of Closet Adultery?
Is the next step to make adultery fully socially acceptable.. (Not counting the Clinton Marriage here)
I will be unable to comment on this article since after reading it my brain ran away whimpering and hid behind my pancreas.
Same thing happened to my best friend. Only she found out about hubby 5 months into her pregnancy. Made for one rough pregnancy. I think guys who do this should be jailed or fined or something for breach of contract.
Well, in the case of my friend she went to get a pencil out of his briefcase and found condoms instead. Turns out he was meeting someone at a health club. Ewwwwwww.
"Three months later "
What took her so long?
If you wanna be, or are gay, just 'man' up and go gay,
Just like in "the Fantastic Four"---
"DANGEROUS! I think I would value my life more highly."
Not to mention my self-esteem. What a weak, sad woman.
Ha! Big points for that one!
"(Not counting the Clinton Marriage here)"
What a joke. How do they have the gall to show up in public together? I don't think I know of anyone, liberal or conservative who buys that marriage. Of course, liberals could care less.
Actually, I am surprised she could get divorsed so quickly with children involved.
Yeah, my guess is that he didn't fight.
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