Adoption is not "tossing the kid off", it is a loving, selfless act.
Not in view of the fact that the baby is better off with their own natural father as opposed to some unrelated couple.
Are you adopted ot an adoptive parent who feels threatened by a story such as this?
I was one of those babies, although my mother did not give me up for adoption. The man she married when I wwas 2 adopted me and as far as I was concerned, he was my father.
"For the good of the child" meant my biological father had no contact with me. What no one ever realized was that there was room in my heart for both. Even at 53 I cannot tell you how huge a scar that is for me. I don't dwell on it, it is just there. I know the decision was made in what everyone thoought was my best interest, yet it still hurts to this day.
My point is these babies grow up, learn the truth and then have to deal with whatever the reality of their situation is. I know what it is like to know a father wanted you, wanted to be a part of your life, but "the good of the child" did not allow it.
So until you have been there, done that as that child, I respectfully suggest you may not know what you are talking about.
I agree with you completely, but even this loving selfless act should not be forced on the biological father without his knowledge, much less his consent. I consider myself to be a well educated, well read, fairly knowledgable professional, but I had never heard of these registries. If they are going to have them, they should be publicized. Otherwise they do just seem like a loophole intended to allow adoptions without a father's knowledge.