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Growing Up Bi-racial
April 7, 2006 | Joshua Baldwin

Posted on 04/07/2006 10:49:37 AM PDT by Alice Linsley

Growing up Bi-racial

Joshua Brown

(Joshua Brown is a cadet at Millersburg Military Institute in Kentucky. He is studying Journalism and Creative Writing.)

Their hair may be black or golden brown. Their eyes may vary from cat green to bark brown. Skin tone may be light with freckles or a Hawaiian sun tan brown. These are some of the physical features of bi-racial persons. Bi-racial persons are faced with tough decisions when it comes to their families. White parents-in-law may not accept white daughters-in-law, or vice versa. The children of bi-racial marriages are often caught in the middle, having to choose which side of the family they will identify with.

A person shouldn’t have to pick sides, but in reality a kid can’t wear Abercrombie without their black side calling them white, and they can’t dress in Roca wear without being questioned by white family members. People say that society doesn’t care about race barriers, but in the day to day of bi-racial persons, it is evident that society does. Decades after desegregation, many Americans haven’t adjusted to inter-racial marriages and bi-racial offspring. Unfortunately, children who grow up with families not liking each other often feel that they are the cause of the conflict.

My own family has seen this dilemma. At my nephew’s birthday party, his mother’s side (white) wouldn’t celebrate his birthday with our side of the family, so they threw him a separate party for their side. It is their choice, but are they considering how this may affect him? My nephew will go through this when it comes to the holidays also. Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter become times of conflict and pain.

Sometimes I find myself tripping out about the clothes his mother lets him wear or the way she gets his hair cut. I like a coordinated and sharp look, but I would never try to dress him to fit in with only one side. It is tough to grow up having to please both sides of one’s family. For an interracial couple it is already tough, because they deal everyday with discrimination, but when they have to deal with watching their children suffer in strained relationships, it gets tougher.

People will need to open their eyes to the realities of bi-racial children and adjust. Why should a kid have to worry about things like: “Will grandma get mad if she hears me listening to rap music?” or “Will my uncle say something about me if I have braids?” Bi-racial children need room to live as normal children. What they need most is for their families to love them.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; US: Kentucky
KEYWORDS: biracial; children; ebonyandivory; heynicelink; jm; lifeisrough; mixed; racism; saltandpepper
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1 posted on 04/07/2006 10:49:38 AM PDT by Alice Linsley
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To: Alice Linsley+
I've always found it funny how,today,when someone is seven-eighths white and one-eighth black,that person *invariably* identifies him/herself as being "black".
2 posted on 04/07/2006 10:52:27 AM PDT by Gay State Conservative
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To: Alice Linsley+

I KNOW WHAT HE MEANS.......


3 posted on 04/07/2006 10:52:59 AM PDT by Red Badger (I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.....)
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To: Alice Linsley+

I don't think the issues outlined in the article are a result of Bi-racial, but an issue of Bicultural. No one cares what color your skin is, or your eyes, etc. But as the article pointed out there is a difference in culture and what each one appreciates, like music, dress, food, religion, and the like.


4 posted on 04/07/2006 10:54:16 AM PDT by colorcountry (You don't have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body.....CS Lewis)
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To: Alice Linsley+

My kids are half French and half Texan


5 posted on 04/07/2006 10:54:31 AM PDT by SF Republican
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To: Gay State Conservative

There's an old racist type saying that a black woman can't have a white baby but a white woman can have a black baby...............


6 posted on 04/07/2006 10:54:52 AM PDT by Red Badger (I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.....)
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To: SF Republican

So, do they eat BBQ Snails?......


7 posted on 04/07/2006 10:55:38 AM PDT by Red Badger (I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.....)
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To: Gay State Conservative
'Cause there's no financial breaks in identifying as "white".

I find it funny how Arabs are white and Hispanics aren't. How does that work?

8 posted on 04/07/2006 10:57:06 AM PDT by blueminnesota
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To: Gay State Conservative

"I've always found it funny how,today,when someone is seven-eighths white and one-eighth black,that person *invariably* identifies him/herself as being "black"."

Except by "black" people....in which case...they're not "black enough".

Careful...that axe swings both ways.


9 posted on 04/07/2006 10:57:46 AM PDT by taxed2death (A few billion here, a few trillion there...we're all friends right?)
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To: Gay State Conservative

Maybe Barak Obama or Halley Barry could explain that one to ya.


10 posted on 04/07/2006 10:57:47 AM PDT by BlueStateDepression
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To: Gay State Conservative
I've always found it funny how,today,when someone is seven-eighths white and one-eighth black,that person *invariably* identifies him/herself as being "black".

With the exception of those who are unaware of it or actively attempt to hide that eighth, of course.

11 posted on 04/07/2006 10:58:28 AM PDT by FormerLib ("...the past ten years in Kosovo will be replayed here in what some call Aztlan.")
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To: Alice Linsley+
Hmmm....My uncle is royalty, he's king of the rednecks. Before I married my wife, he asked "Y'all gwanna marry 'nutha brown gurl?". At which point he vanished from the invite list because I did just that. Later, his son married a little Mexican girl. Now we have the first generation of a proud family, that arrived on these here shores in 1635, fought and died for the Confederacy and then shed blood in the following great wars, of children who tan and don't burn on a hot summer's day.

And those children are so very loved by all of the kin it never has entered their mind they might be slightly darker than the average Hwita clan member.

Kin is kin.

12 posted on 04/07/2006 10:59:07 AM PDT by Caipirabob (Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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To: Red Badger
do they eat BBQ Snails? ......- no but my wife has started drinking champagne like it was a long-neck beer bottle!
13 posted on 04/07/2006 11:00:13 AM PDT by SF Republican
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To: Gay State Conservative

Hmm... bi-racial?

What happend to plain old "mixed?"

;-)


14 posted on 04/07/2006 11:01:11 AM PDT by Smogger
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To: Alice Linsley+

Its tough for them , thats no lie.


15 posted on 04/07/2006 11:01:54 AM PDT by sgtbono2002
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To: Alice Linsley+
Is anyone else as smitten by Eurasian women as me? Vietnamese-French is such a pleasing mixture...


16 posted on 04/07/2006 11:02:42 AM PDT by chimera
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To: Smogger

As my name indicates, I am in favor of the mongrelization of America. Maybe that would finally end the assumption that "race" somehow forces you to identify with a particular culture.


17 posted on 04/07/2006 11:03:30 AM PDT by mongrel
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To: Alice Linsley+
When calling someone white... important is...
Michael Jackson white, Tony Brown white, Julian Bond white, Steve Martin white, or few other tints must be specified.. else you will not how black someone is or is NOT..
18 posted on 04/07/2006 11:03:54 AM PDT by hosepipe (CAUTION: This propaganda is laced with hyperbole..)
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To: blueminnesota
This poor girl has suffered horribly

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20 posted on 04/07/2006 11:07:44 AM PDT by cripplecreek (Never a minigun handy when you need one.)
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To: Alice Linsley+
Most people we call blacks are actually biracial, and many "whites" are actually quite mixed.

It not a matter of mixed race; it's more a matter of choosing cultures.

Do you like purple cars and gold teeth? Do you like engineering and harp music? Decisions, decisions, decisions.

21 posted on 04/07/2006 11:08:30 AM PDT by george wythe
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To: SF Republican

Lone Star Champagne....mmmmmmmm...........


22 posted on 04/07/2006 11:08:44 AM PDT by Red Badger (I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.....)
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To: Alice Linsley+

I grew up as a human being. When I went to college, I was told by other people I gew biracial. Go figure.


23 posted on 04/07/2006 11:09:36 AM PDT by cyborg (I just love that man.)
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To: BlueStateDepression

Is Angelina Jolie bi-racial? I can't tell..........


24 posted on 04/07/2006 11:10:52 AM PDT by Red Badger (I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.....)
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To: Gay State Conservative

I know several children who have one white parent and one non-Caucasian parent (either African-American or Asian).

All the children are expected to identify as black, Asian etc.

Why is that? Aren't they just as much white as they are asian? aren't they just as much asian as they are white?

It sure sounds like the old "one drop of black blood" stuff to me. And I just don't get it. How can they "be" either race, solely, and why should they be forced to claim one race and reject the other?


25 posted on 04/07/2006 11:11:09 AM PDT by wouldntbprudent (If you can: Contribute more (babies) to the next generation of God-fearing American Patriots!)
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To: Alice Linsley+

During the early '90s I dated a guy who had a bi-racial cousin. I remember that she would come to their family functions with her mother (white) but her father (black) was never there. I asked my boyfriend at the time, what gives? It seems the father had never been accepted by the mother's parents and older family members. In fact, it was apparent that the mother herself wasn't exactly warmly welcomed at these events by these same folks. I remember how that girl, a young teenager at the time, would sit quietly by herself, picking at her nails, rarely making eye contact with anyone. My boyfriend and the other younger family members would try to include her but she was very aloof. It was really sad to watch. I wonder what became of her.


26 posted on 04/07/2006 11:12:32 AM PDT by workerbee (A person's a person no matter how small.)
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To: cyborg
Mrs. Bustard has fun with the BATF Form 4473 (to purchase a gun). It has a long list of possible racial categories, with the instruction "check all that apply" ... so she does. Wears out the pen, but the BATF must be obeyed.
27 posted on 04/07/2006 11:14:08 AM PDT by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilisation is aborting, buggering, and contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: Alice Linsley+

Solution...don't bi-racial. The kids are the victim in these cases. Until society looks at things as colorless, it will always be this way. And don't plan on a color blind society in our life time.


28 posted on 04/07/2006 11:14:22 AM PDT by sit-rep (If you acquire, hit it again to verify...)
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To: cyborg

I grew up multi-ethnic. I thought I was in the clear for knowledge of all my ethnicities until I was 22 and I found out that I should be fitted for a yarmulke.

After that, I said "Screw this, I'm calling myself American".


29 posted on 04/07/2006 11:14:29 AM PDT by TypeZoNegative (".... We are a nation of Americans. We are DECENDED from legal immigrants"- johnandrhonda)
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To: blueminnesota

Who says arabs are white??


30 posted on 04/07/2006 11:15:45 AM PDT by sit-rep (If you acquire, hit it again to verify...)
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To: wouldntbprudent

White is seen as an absence of culture. That's why non-whites are referred to as "ethnic".


31 posted on 04/07/2006 11:16:24 AM PDT by blueminnesota
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To: Alice Linsley+; maikeru; Dr. Marten; Eric in the Ozarks; Al Gator; snowsislander; sushiman; ...
What a load of crap! So much so that I'm pinging the Japan list as I know there are many there with "bi-racial" (BAAAAAAAARF!!) kids who will likely agree.

In Japan such kids are called ha-fu, the Japanese pronunciation for "half" (half-Japanese, half another race). Such people, while sometimes teased as kids (not our experience at all), are often later in life the object of admiration/envy for having the combined beauty of two races as opposed to one (often our experience): namely larger eyes and browner hair, a highly desired trait among many Japanese young people these days who have their eyelids widened and dye there hair lighter shades. Take a look at any pop fashion/music mag in Japan for prime examples.

Tiger Woods is a good example here in the US of a good-looking "bi-racial" person who seems very self-confident about himself.

Joshua sounds like he's simply carrying the racial "baggage" of his parents.

Japan * ping * (kono risuto ni hairitai ka detai wo shirasete kudasai : let me know if you want on or off this list)

32 posted on 04/07/2006 11:16:44 AM PDT by DTogo (I haven't left the GOP, the GOP left me.)
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To: Red Badger

I would think they would have a better chance being accepted by the white side then they would the black. Same with Japanese. I doubt this was the case 40 years ago.


33 posted on 04/07/2006 11:16:56 AM PDT by Dead Dog
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To: cyborg

Now I'm seriously confused. If one white parent and one black parent make someone bi racial, what does having a parent of either sex make me?


34 posted on 04/07/2006 11:16:57 AM PDT by cripplecreek (Never a minigun handy when you need one.)
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To: sit-rep
Until society looks at things as colorless,

With all due respect, "society" can go f@#$ itself. My kin are kin, and I don't give a rat's rump what continent or island their ancestors came from. Same goes for friends and neighbours.

35 posted on 04/07/2006 11:17:51 AM PDT by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilisation is aborting, buggering, and contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: Gay State Conservative

Ditto. my backgounr makes me three-parts American Indian to five parts Anglo, but I was raised in the "white world." My sister, who has the same parents is very dark while I am fair. She was also raised "white " It's a matter of which culture you choose.


36 posted on 04/07/2006 11:18:01 AM PDT by RobbyS ( CHIRHO)
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To: george wythe
Do you like purple cars and gold teeth? Do you like engineering and harp music? Decisions, decisions, decisions

Being "mixed" I can pick the best of both worlds. Cadillac CTS on "dubbs", 12 inch subwoofers, GWB sticker on the back.

As I got older I realized it was better to be tall, intellegent, and good-looking, (in that order) rather then white or black ;-)

37 posted on 04/07/2006 11:19:30 AM PDT by Smogger
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To: chimera

I agree. Eurasians tend to be wonder-blends.


38 posted on 04/07/2006 11:19:51 AM PDT by RobbyS ( CHIRHO)
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To: sit-rep

All the fill-in-oval quota sheets. I have had to fill in enough of these for school, job applications, etc. to know the categories. "White" is defined as "from Europe, Middle East and North Africa". Weird? Yeah. But the whole racial classification thing is weird to me. Especially, as this article points out, in a mixed-race society.


39 posted on 04/07/2006 11:21:19 AM PDT by blueminnesota
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To: cripplecreek
Ask one of these guys...


40 posted on 04/07/2006 11:21:24 AM PDT by Nexus6
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To: mongrel
It would still boil down to a question of "taste." Symmetric features look good whether one is talking about Swedish blond or Nigerian ebony.
41 posted on 04/07/2006 11:22:45 AM PDT by RobbyS ( CHIRHO)
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To: cripplecreek

And she is? Besides skinny, I mean.


42 posted on 04/07/2006 11:23:27 AM PDT by RobbyS ( CHIRHO)
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To: RobbyS

The Russian woman living with my wife and I is a strawberry blonde asian.


43 posted on 04/07/2006 11:23:40 AM PDT by cripplecreek (Never a minigun handy when you need one.)
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To: ArrogantBustard
So what's your point... I did not write the article, just commenting on it.

I am half Irish. My family tree has been called a name or two in it's history. Point being, If you get involved in a bi-racial relationship for any other reason besides true love, then the child is indeed a victim. True love relationship would be instilled in the child through upbringing, which in turn will give the child the strength to overcome prejudice in the matter. How many are the former/the latter?... Knowattlemean?

44 posted on 04/07/2006 11:24:42 AM PDT by sit-rep (If you acquire, hit it again to verify...)
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To: RobbyS

Nicole Ritchie, Lionel Ritchies daughter.


45 posted on 04/07/2006 11:24:42 AM PDT by cripplecreek (Never a minigun handy when you need one.)
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To: SF Republican
My kids are half French and half Texan

Frexicans? ;)

46 posted on 04/07/2006 11:25:08 AM PDT by freedumb2003 (Don't call them "Illegal Aliens." Call them what they are: CRIMINAL INVADERS!)
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To: cripplecreek

White girl.


47 posted on 04/07/2006 11:25:38 AM PDT by RobbyS ( CHIRHO)
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To: cripplecreek

She's his adopted daughter.


48 posted on 04/07/2006 11:25:49 AM PDT by blueminnesota
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To: Dead Dog

I am bi-racial, Asian/White, and grew up in The South in the 60's. During the Vietnam War was a really tough time to be Asian looking in The South. I was called everthing from Gook to Ho-Chi-Minh by white kids who had relatives in the war.......


49 posted on 04/07/2006 11:25:58 AM PDT by Red Badger (I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.....)
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To: Smogger
Being "mixed" I can pick the best of both worlds. Cadillac CTS on "dubbs", 12 inch subwoofers, GWB sticker on the back.

I'm glad you posted those comments.

There is no downside to being biracial. I'm tired of the whining from the victim-makers.

50 posted on 04/07/2006 11:28:05 AM PDT by george wythe
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