tell him he'll be allowed to eat and sleep inside for his pay...
Posted on 04/30/2006 11:13:33 AM PDT by fgoodwin
Bingo.
I raised 4 boys 2 girls. (A 15 year old left at home)
Parents today are complete wimps.
When my grown children were young, they were told to do something, they understood I meant: do it right now and I was not going to ask again. I was their father, not their friend.
Today, my 15 year does have it a bit easier. I have asked him twice to do something and he got away with it. I must be slipping.
He does cut the yard and I will pay only if it is done correctly so he has some pocket change to learn the value of a dollar.
tell him he'll be allowed to eat and sleep inside for his pay...
That should be Americans not *American's*.
Spelling: A job I'm not willing to do. Bring on the illegals!
Yep - will my usual panache, I stole it from someone.
Exactly right. My boys and I have tried for two years to get lawns to mow in our area of South Central Texas (we are reasonable on our charges) but can get nothing but the lawn of the church property at which we attend because so many yards are done by illegal aliens.
That job is gone too. The papers in our area only hire people with vehicles.
My only son is a very bright (top 1% SATs) under-achiever in high school.
Before I forked up the cash for college, I required him to get a job and work for a year.
He worked in a local grocery deli, made friends and gained an appreciation of freedom and obligations.
Perhaps gaining some motivation also.
He is coming home next weekend after a successful freshman year at a prestigious technical college in Florida.
He owns his own stock portfolio.
His major is civil engineering, but I convinced him to minor in business.
He really enjoyed freshman economics.
An MBA after college would greatly enhance his resume in engineering.
Anyway.........he always had chores starting at 5 years old.....
and it was my discretion whether I paid him or not.
He never asked me for a dime....even though I am generous.
Well, alright. It was a few months ago and last year but still. Where will those kids be next winter? No where! I may have to break down and get a snow blower!
Our teenager does chores and he doesn't get an allowance (no pay for household chores, that's part of being a family, you're not going to get paid as an adult for doing household chores.) He has a part-time job and has money from that for spending.
Chores include:
Lawn mowing (but it's a rider, so does that count, LOL)
Blowing and weedeating the lawn
Taking out the garbage everyday, and putting the big container out 2 times a week
Cleaning his bathroom
Vacuuming the floors (probably every other day)
Putting in his own wash...I transfer it to the dryer and fold it, but he's responsible to get it in the washer
Brushing one of our dogs everyday (the one that sheds volumes)
He also is responsible for his car maintenance (changing the oil, etc.) and for working right alongside his dad, cleaning the boat after an outing.
He helps his dad with chores around the house...got the initiation of replacing a pea trap under the sink last year, LOL, helps with repairs to the sprinkler system, and also normal household maintenance, like replacing a ceiling fan, electrical outlet, etc.
Here's our take, if parents don't teach their sons how to do these kinds of chores, and expect them to carry out the responsibilities of being part of a family, what kind of husbands are they going to make?
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It's easier if we do everything ourselves. Kids just like to play . . . |
Chores? Kids should work actual jobs.
My sister threw her back out one weekend.
I asked how she did it and she said she was scrubbing the tub in her 12 yr. old daughter's bathroom. I asked why she didn't make her daughter do it and she said because she whines and throws a fit and it was easier to just do it herself. I pointed at her back and the fact that she couldn't stand up straight and said "Yeah, that was MUCH EASIER than making her do it!"
You're the parent and you don't tell him no because...????
Wake me when the fascination with those idiots is over...
I certainly wasn't paid to do chores.
I was allowed to go do something special if I completed my assigned chores, otherwise I was stuck at home.
The kid across the street want to mow my small in-town lot around my house for $50. Maybe 2 hrs of work just to ride his mower around. I rather do it myself!
I think your comment was done in jest, and I might be the only one who "got it," judging from some posters. If not, take it from me....I worked as a nurse in the emergency room years ago, and you don't want to see what a lawn mower or electric hedge trimmers, could do to adults yet alone kids.
My kids hauled away the collected grass in a wheelbarrow, (when I didn't have a mulcher), but they never were permitted to go near the power equipment.
Don't even get me started on wimpy parents! I was engaged (very briefly) to a "man" who let his son call the shots. When I witnessed that, I broke it off pronto. I'd rather remain single than marry a wimpy father.
It's rare that I encounter young people I really like anymore. I attribute it to squishy parenting. It's not hard to tell when a young person has been well-parented -- or when they haven't.
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