FREEPER JUDYB1938 WILL BE TAKEN OFF LIFE SUPPORT 5/5/06

e-mail from son Victor

[GrandmaC]

I received this from former freeper donnalyn. It came from JudyB1938 son Victor:

Last Friday mom went in for a routine heart catherization for clogged arteries. The doctor, in his infinite wisdom, decided that she had to have an immediate triple bypass. She recovered, as expected, the next day. Then, on Monday, she has fluid build up around the heart and coded. Her brain was deprived of oxygen for too long and she is now effectively brain dead. She will be taken off of life support tomorrow.

Judy B lasted posted on 4/25/06 and on 4/21/06 actually posted on Heart Disease the focus shifts to women. You can see her posts here http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/user-posts?id=20872.

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Note of appreciation from Judy's son FReeper EZ Victory: Judy's son Victor

Judy's friend, FReeper Salem remembers Judy (photos included): Salem's tribute with photos

[PsyOp]

Regards and condolences.

[My Favorite Headache]

God Bless her....great post.

[GrandmaC]

Still praying for you all. I know this is a very hard time. Keeping Donnalynn posted also. Our hearts go out to you all.

[Salem]

"Thank you so much for this, Mike. Damn! I'll miss her."

You and me both, but I know you will more, though.  The last couple days since the news broke, I wake up in the morning and lay there a minute, for that moment your mind is a blank for a second, and then reality comes rushing in again and I think about her and what's happening.

She was a perfect example of how the Internet has transformed society and the way we interact.  Outside of the Internet, I would have never known her.  But all these years our relationship became just as real as if she was a neighbor. 

Please keep us appraised of her current situation.... 

[Salem]

"Judy took me under her wing on this site a long time ago...."

Yeah, that doesn't surprise me.  She had this knack for seeing that people had some thing going and just "volunteered" her help.  It wasn't just here at Free Republic, but off site as well.

She would send something through, and for every five articles or resource, one would just be invaluable in worth.

Just think about everything we have been through since the late 90's when I first started corresponding with her!  The bitter end of the Clinton years, Y2K and the millennium, the Florida recount fiasco, and 9/11.  Every one generated a mound of information and response, and Judy always had a knack of gleaning through it all and gathering the most excellent.

[Global2010]

Bump of Prayers to another fine Freeper who is making the transition to go home.

I never had the honor to post back and forth with her but from reading ya'lls posts sounds like she is a great woman.

[GrandmaC]

You are absolutely right. I hope Victor, Dana and them are all ok. Continue my prayers.

[HairOfTheDog]

Prayers for comfort for your whole family.

This time is very difficult, I'm reminded of the wait when my own mom was passing... It was not long, but it felt like it at the time. Time stood still.


May you and your mom have peace.

[cyn]

Update:
Date: Sat, 06 May 2006 19:56:43 -0400
no change with mom. she is resting comfortably, still breathing well.

Hi, EZ -- so sorry to read about your mom, our friend. Update?

Was she in the CCU being monitored when she ran into problems last Monday?

[cyn]

Prayers continue for Judy, family, and friends at this difficult time.

[GrandmaC]

Thank you for the bump, we are still waiting to hear. Possible he has had to go back where she is and doesn't have computer access.

[Billthedrill]

Prayers up, FRiend. BTT.

[Global2010]

Prayer Bump.

Man I have really had your Mom (I never had the pleasure of posting/knowing her) on my mind/prayers this last week.

God only knows why as they say.

Hope your family is doing well.

[EZ Victory]

Mom is still hanging on. She has been without IV fluids for a week. It is
remarkable that she is still hanging on! There is no hope since she is in a
vegatative state but you have to admire how tough she is. She should pass
anytime now. Vincent says that it looks like she is just sleeping. She has
opened her eyes once or twice.

Vincent has been by her bedside almost the whole time. Dana is leaving
tomorrow. Kerrie Lynn and Jodi (her daughters) are still there.

I'll keep you updated.

p.s. I just performed a cat scan on Caleb, my St. bernard who was diagnosed with bone cancer on Feb 3 and had a rear leg amputation, and saw no lung cancer or bone
cancer or anything else! How cool! He is certainly beating the odds. He does show some minimal degenerative changes of the hips, though, which is not
unexpected on a big dog.

Life certainly has its twists. When Caleb was diagnosed 3 months ago, I was with mom. I was extremely grieved and sad over him at the time since we are so close. Now, he is still living and healthy but since that time, mom, Baby Luv (Caleb's sister) and another dog of mom's has died. Who could have ever of foreseen such events? Life is certainly odd at times.

[EZ Victory]

re: Was she in the CCU being monitored when she ran into problems last Monday?

She had the heart cath on a Friday, was recovering on Saturday and coded on Sunday in the Cardiac ICU.

She was there to be monitored and I think that the nurses really dropped the ball and let her go hypoxic. They did not monitor her closely nor provide O2 fast enough.

She is healing nicely from the CABG but that is not now not relevant because of the cerebral hypoxia.

The hospital is taking good care of my 3 sisters and brother by providing a house for them to stay in.

After 13 yrs in the medical field myself, I know that corporations do not do things out of the kindness of their hearts. I'm sure that they are afraid of a lawsuit which I very seriously doubt that anyone will pursue in my family.

Obviously, however, there was negligence involved but people are only human.

I cut my assignment short here in Deming, NM but will not be back in time to see mom. I would never have figured that she would hang on for so long. I find that incredible. But I will be back in Arkansas on May 23/24. I will commence doing some work on the place (i.e. place some siding up and put security door up and bar or board some windows). I also feel that Vincent will need some support from me and I will do what I can. I may bring him along with me and Caleb on my next assignment but I need to make the house secure first.

[Sisku Hanne]

Daily prayers of comfort & support going out to JudyB , loved ones and friends.

[Sisku Hanne]

Crossed posts. Thank you for the update. The whole scenario you described is heartbreakingly familiar and I can sympathize with your family. This is emotionally grueling time for you all...praying for extra strength.

[cyn]

Hi, EZ -- thanks for the update & add'l info on your mom. It's a tough situation, indeed. I'm not sure what to say, except that my prayers for her, for your family, & for you continue. May you be blessed with restful sleep, wisdom, and more. Take care of yourself.

Hi, GrandmaC -- thanks so much for posting this thread.

"In His hand is the life of every living thing, and the breath of all mankind." Job 12:10

[EZ Victory]

Well, mom finally passed at noon (MTN Time) on May 12, 2006. I am amazed that she lived for so long after the surgerical complications and hypoxia. She lived well over a week with no IV fluids. This is a testament as to how tough she really was! Happy Mother's Day, mom! I'll miss you and always love you!

Here is a quote that I just read in Book VII of "The Children of the Lion" series:

"Life is so brief. We live hardly longer than a butterfly and the afterlife is so long, you'd think we'd barely even notice the little time we have here. But it's so beautiful. So beautiful! And we rarely ever really pay attention to it while we're here. We're always so caught up in the passing pains and pleasures of the moment, we don't see how lovely it all is. We try to grasp it! We try to hold it! We try to control it! And we're so unhappy when we can't do so. If I tried to catch this butterfly, it'd fly away and I'd have nothing. But look! I let the butterfly do as it pleases, so it trusts me. Just because I haven't tried to force anything, I've had this lovely moment that will never come again. We're all so blind here. The lovely moments pass us by, and we wind up with our hands and heart equally empty."

So, I encourage everyone to enjoy today. Be thankful of the things you have in your life today, not tomorrow, but today. Life is so fragile, so delicate, that we know not what tomorrow may bring.

[StarCMC]

Tears and prayers for your family. God be with you all. Thank you for sharing her with us.

[cyn]

I am thankful for the extra time you all had with her. God's blessings and peace to you, your family, and your friends at this difficult time.

Thank you for that quote. How appropriate. It seems I can see life more clearly when I'm at a funeral or in an ICU. Perspective can be clearer & relationships dearer. I try to live my life w/that in mind.

[Perdogg]

Prayers. I am really sorry.

[bvw]

No IV fluids and no water by mouth?

[groanup]

prayers and rememberance

[TASMANIANRED]

My prayers for you in your time of grief.

[Palladin]

May the Lord console you as you mourn for your beautiful mother.

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they SHALL be comforted."

[Sisku Hanne]

Heartfelt condolences to your entire family, and all of your mom's dear friends. She is now at peace.

Thank you for the lovely thought-provoking quote.

[null and void]

Thanks for letting us know.

Prayers up.

[GreenHornet]

My condolences on your loss. You and your family are in my prayers today.

[PGalt]

Love

[Angelwood]

Prayers and condolences to you and your family on the loss of JUDYB1938. I am so saddened by this news. We are never prepared for the death of a loved one.

[My Favorite Headache]

God Bless Her Soul....prayers for you and your family.

[bvw]

When a parent has a beloved child of tender years -- a baby -- who becomes sickly, and then autistic, uncommunicative, a type of almost brain death -- severe autism -- and that loving parent then lovingly withholds water and food from that child until the child passes lovingly into the loving arms of the loving Jesus, we should all offer our loving support to those loving and courageous parents?

Is that the ever loving drill?

Count me off THAT bus.

[dljordan]

God bless her. The same thing happened to my Mom.

[EZ Victory]

Sorry about your mom, DL, it a shame but death is a great part of life that all of us will share at some point unless the rapture happens first.

To clarify:

After mom coded on Sunday, April 30, her brain was deprived of O2 due to the nurses slow response. She was essentially 'brain dead' from that point on and was in a vegatative state. Her living will stated that no heroic actions should be taken in such a case. This is why she was not given IV fluids, etc. I have no idea how she lived so long afterwards. It just shows how tough she really was!

Thanks for all of the sincere support and prayers. It certainly helped. I feel so much better and accept her fate. There is absolutely no doubt whatsoever that she was a Christian and she now has a wonderful existence. We have no idea the joy she is experiencing right now so I'm happy for her. She has no regrets, I'm sure.

My brother was really depressed but came to an acceptance the last two days before mom died. He was actually there when it happened. He prayed for that to be the case. The process was painful but was part of his healing. So, I'm not so worried about him now.

Today is mother's day. Wish she was still here but that's not the case. I sent her a beautiful bouquet last year for mother's day and she was so thrilled! I'm so glad that I gave her moments like that. Afterall, she was a great person to be around.

God bless you all!

Victor

[mafree]

My deepest condolences to you and your family. Your mother is surely at peace now with Jesus. My mother also died unexpectedly following bypass surgery (she was diabetic and on dialysis) so I've been there myself. God be with you and yours.

[queenkathy]

I've had a loss this year also. A Daughter in law who was killed in an accident last July. My son was driving and they'd been married only 2 months...Anyway---

I know what you mean about loss. I have found myself remembering her present to me last Mother's Day. She was so excited because she made me a beautiful plant arrangement. Floral arrangement was her career. It's raining today and I feel very sad for our losses.

But---I know my DIL is in heaven and you say your mom was saved, so to them it is GAIN...We yearn to have them back with us, but they wouldn't want to come back. Would we? I'm sorry but I don't think I would want to come back. It's only for a little while until we follow their footsteps and join them.

I'm reminded of the story about standing on a ship and waving good bye to those who have come to see us off. Then going to the other side of the ship and waving to those who are greeting us. Something like that.

Thanks for sharing that beautiful writing. I didn't know your mom, but she must have been a wonderful person. May you find peace and comfort.

[GrandmaC]

That was beautiful queenkathy and absolutely right.

Victor I am sorry for your loss. My Dad died 3 years ago this July. This morning I was talking to my daughter about a financial decision I have to make, and said "I use to always call Dad" - it brought tears to my eyes almost 3 years later. A parent is very special, the Lord planned it that way. We will see JudyB again in heaven - Praise be to Jesus who died for us so we would have a way.

[GrandmaC]

Thank you cyn, been off a couple of days from the thread, but donnalynn had told me what happened. It was actually my honor and I thank Jim Robinson for having the forum to do it in.

[satchmodog9]

Prayers for her family.

[Salem]

~ FreeRepublic Memorial Wall ~

In honor of those FReepers who now rest from the labors of life.

Their voices may have been silenced, but their words and deeds will never be forgotten. {Judy is listed here, with others}