Posted on 05/30/2006 1:11:02 PM PDT by billorites
Special parents, special kids. They'll adapt and the extra hardships will bind them all even closer.
Which is not to say there won't be some rough spots down the road a bit.
that is a very sweet story.
I think the man who sued should be more careful about where he leaves his DNA. I thought someone donating would sign off on the results.
I don't think it was a donor -- almost certainly another man whose wife/partner was a patient at the same clinic, and the samples accidentally got switched. And if that man's wife/partner wasn't successful in her attempt to have a baby, that would be plenty of motive for the man to try to get at least some contact with these twins.
I agree that they most likely will do just fine, and particularly since they're twins, growing up together. They'll never feel like they're the only kid in the world in this situation, and they'll always have somebody they can talk to about it who really understands.
The moral of the story: If you're undergoing a medical procedure that really MUST be done right, DON'T go to the NHS for it. I find it absolutely amazing that with this major foul-up by the NHS, the couple was apparently left to their own devices to get the children DNA-tested to establish their real parentage. Or perhaps the NHS did offer to do the testing, but the couple had learned their lesson and resolved never to go anywhere an NHS facility again.
if you live with this worry everyday, then chances are it's going to happen... gosh, stop listening to the "experts" already... what do they know? parent your babies as if they were yours biologically... raise your kids as you've always dreamed... that's it...
"‘I told her they had used a brown man’s sperm.’ "
I don't know how mixed race families teach their children to deal with questions but a six year old talking about a brown man's sperm vs. daddy's sperm freaks me out.
I remember an episode of Lassie where Timmy is at the table with Mother and Grandpa explaining what he learned about making tadpoles. He said the male spreads his milt over the eggs and Mother and Grandpa look at each other.
WWJD, eh? Guess I'm not that holy.
Maybe I'm just a hairsplitter, but if I had been struggling to have children of my own, genetically mine, and found that my wife had given birth to the children of a stranger who was not even of my racial group (guess that makes me a racist too), I would absolutely, positively, go berserk.
It is strange, and a bit disturbing. When I was six I doubt if I knew what sperm was. Also, kids that age don't notice race unless some racist adult makes a big deal about it in front of them.
Yes, of course. duh. I didn't think. Thanks
and six years later? would you still be in a state of berserkness? at this point, they are well into raising these children... (they could have put them up for adoption when it first happened... but they didn't... they chose to keep them... and that is fantastic!.. props to them)... but now to be "worrying" on a daily basis about how the children MIGHT react at some time in the future is USELESS! the only thing all this worrying can do is to actually "make it happen."
they've made major decisions based on rearing these two boys (not trying to have biological children)... obviously they love these boys... now enjoy them... enjoy parenthood... it goes by so quickly...
lmbo at that!
No, but I'd probably still be in a state prison :)
So what happened to the sperm from the man with the half Asian kids? Is some Pakistani family raising his child?
Since the story is not mentioning any children who are biologically his, whatever woman got his genetic material did not have a baby as a result.
Sh!t happens. Remember the story many years back, about Kimberly Mays, who was discovered at age 10 to have been switched at birth, and given to the wrong parents? The switch was discovered when the other child died of heart problems that had been evident at birth, and Kimberly's life was a general wreck after all the legal battles and emotional turmoil.
http://www.cnn.com/US/9906/25/mays.hearing/
The Kimberly Mays case was apparently not accidental, but rather arranged by a doctor who decided one set of parents was more deserving than the other, and should therefore get the healthy baby.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/067940015X/002-6776573-2736063?v=glance&n=283155
Actually there are quite a lot of "switched at birth" cases, some accidental and some deliberate, but most are discovered much sooner (or not at all). Imagine getting hit with this info right as you're (or your child is) hitting puberty.
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