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U.S. wedding costs soar
Washington Times ^ | 6-15-06 | AP

Posted on 06/15/2006 11:59:09 AM PDT by JZelle

The cost of weddings in the United States has soared to a point some of today's younger generation may be turning away from the ritual. Courtney Martin, whose article on marriages appears in the Christian Science Monitor, seems to be one. She says a typical wedding in 1990 cost $15,208, compared to $4,376 in 1980. Martin, who has no immediate plan to wed her friend of seven years, says that wedding today will set a couple back $22,360, or enough for private college tuition for their future child if that sum is invested at 10 percent return. "Truth be told, we (she and her boyfriend) avoid the topic of walking down the aisle because it is so inextricably tied up with gross, conspicuous consumption," she writes. "We have watched friends get sucked into the tidal wave that is the emotionally manipulative wedding industry -- now totaling $50 billion in sales a year." Saying the marriage ritual has turned into "a circus of decadence," Martin says, "Not only is the egregious spending offensive in a world where too many have too little, but the meaning of the ritual is all but lost amid the designer dresses and lobster dinners."

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TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: decadence; extravagance; wedding; weddingbubble; weredoomed
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Some of those birthday parties for little kids can go pretty overboard too.
1 posted on 06/15/2006 11:59:14 AM PDT by JZelle
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To: JZelle

Wow. This is important.


2 posted on 06/15/2006 12:00:41 PM PDT by PeterFinn (Anything worth fighting for is worth fighting dirty for.)
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To: JZelle
"We have watched friends get sucked into the tidal wave that is the emotionally manipulative wedding industry -- now totaling $50 billion in sales a year." Saying the marriage ritual has turned into "a circus of decadence," Martin says, "Not only is the egregious spending offensive in a world where too many have too little, but the meaning of the ritual is all but lost amid the designer dresses and lobster dinners."

Phooey. What, are they putting a gun to your head forcing you to spend a load of money? If you don't want to spend it, just don't spend it. That's what we did.

3 posted on 06/15/2006 12:01:25 PM PDT by ahayes ("If intelligent design evolved from creationism, then why are there still creationists?"--Quark2005)
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To: JZelle

If you think wedding costs are high, check the cost of divorce!............


4 posted on 06/15/2006 12:01:34 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: JZelle

Ridiculous. I like the garden wedding at the bride's parents' home. Close friends and relatives, followed by a potluck.

That's what my wife and I did, and it's a great memory for us. There's no evidence that a big, fancy wedding does any more to solemnize the occasion than a simple garden wedding.


5 posted on 06/15/2006 12:02:08 PM PDT by MineralMan (non-evangelical atheist)
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To: ahayes

That's right. Someone who has punch and cookies in the church hall after the ceremony is just as married as someone who puts on a big show.


6 posted on 06/15/2006 12:02:26 PM PDT by linda_22003
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To: JZelle
Definitely true about kiddies' birthday parties.

There's no reason weddings can't be simple.

7 posted on 06/15/2006 12:02:49 PM PDT by Kenny Bunkport (Left's reaction to "GODLESS": "They haven't hated a book this much since the Bible." (pissant))
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To: JZelle

A new reason for the irresponsible to avoid marriage. Ridiculous.


8 posted on 06/15/2006 12:02:56 PM PDT by American Quilter (Equal laws protecting equal rights...the best guarantee of loyalty and love of country. -- Madison)
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To: JZelle

"Saying the marriage ritual has turned into "a circus of decadence"

Like it never was? It is traditional and an opportunity to show off. Happens all over the world.


9 posted on 06/15/2006 12:03:12 PM PDT by dhs12345
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To: ahayes

We go married ('79) in my parent's house with a few close friends and that was all that's necessary.........


10 posted on 06/15/2006 12:03:39 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: JZelle
Who the hell is spending 20K on a one day party?
11 posted on 06/15/2006 12:04:13 PM PDT by Centurion2000 (Support Network Infrastructure Defense: Kill BlackHats)
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To: dhs12345

I even heard there was a wedding in Capernaum where some guy turned water into wine!.......


12 posted on 06/15/2006 12:04:38 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: JZelle

I've been to lavish blow-outs and Justice of the Peace ceremonies. A wedding is always just as good as the relationship of the couple getting married.


13 posted on 06/15/2006 12:05:10 PM PDT by inkling
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To: Centurion2000

Who the hell is spending 20K on a one day party?.......Any Kennedy........any day of the week.........wedding not required......


14 posted on 06/15/2006 12:05:31 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: Red Badger

Two can always elope...


15 posted on 06/15/2006 12:06:19 PM PDT by JoanneSD (i)
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To: JZelle

No kidding... Birthday parties should be cake, soda, games - no reason for it to even reach $50....

But with some careful shopping, there is no reason for wedding costs to go so high... You can still get all the major parts together and do a fancy wedding and reception for under $10k if you put some time into it, negotiate a bit, and don't go for all the frills no one will notice anyway...


16 posted on 06/15/2006 12:06:47 PM PDT by eraser2005
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To: Red Badger

He would have come in handy at my wedding; the bar tab was spectacular.

We did elect to spend about $10k, twenty years ago. We had 55 guests, and it was quite elegant, but we could have married much more simply as well. The article seems to be saying that since young people can't have a big blowout, that's a REASON to avoid marriage.


17 posted on 06/15/2006 12:07:12 PM PDT by linda_22003
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To: PeterFinn

Sorry for wasting your time.


18 posted on 06/15/2006 12:07:17 PM PDT by JZelle
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To: JZelle

Best weddings are the ones with an open bar and music to dance to.


19 posted on 06/15/2006 12:08:24 PM PDT by JmyBryan
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To: JZelle

My daughter got married in March. We had a small ceremony with just the parents, grandparents and two friends of the bride and groom. Including the wedding dress (which my daughter found on sale for less than $300.00) the entire thing cost right around $1200.00. Most of that was for the B&B where she was married. It CAN be done inexpensively if you WANT to.


20 posted on 06/15/2006 12:08:37 PM PDT by mouse_35
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To: JZelle

My daughter got married in March. We had a small ceremony with just the parents, grandparents and two friends of the bride and groom. Including the wedding dress (which my daughter found on sale for less than $300.00) the entire thing cost right around $1200.00. Most of that was for the B&B where she was married. It CAN be done inexpensively if you WANT to.


21 posted on 06/15/2006 12:08:47 PM PDT by mouse_35
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To: Ramius

Viva Las Vegas, hon. ;-)


22 posted on 06/15/2006 12:09:06 PM PDT by RMDupree (HHD: Join the Hobbit Hole Troop Support - http://freeper.the-hobbit-hole.net/)
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To: mouse_35

OOPS. I didn't mean to post twice.


23 posted on 06/15/2006 12:09:28 PM PDT by mouse_35
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To: JoanneSD

That's what my hubby and I did. We went to Vegas and got married with Elvis at 10:30 a.m. on a Tuesday. It is my favorite memory.


24 posted on 06/15/2006 12:09:31 PM PDT by morans14
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To: linda_22003

A young man who isn't committed will grab at ANY reason not to get married..........My daughter's boyfriend........Grrrrr don't get me started............


25 posted on 06/15/2006 12:09:45 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: JmyBryan

Why ruin a good party with a marriage, I always say.


26 posted on 06/15/2006 12:09:49 PM PDT by AppyPappy (If you aren't part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.)
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To: mouse_35

Weddings aren't for the bride or groom, they are for the mother of the bride.


27 posted on 06/15/2006 12:10:09 PM PDT by dfwgator (Florida Gators - 2006 NCAA Men's Basketball Champions)
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To: JZelle

I have two toddler girls. I plan to give them each a $10K wedding gift. They can use that for a wedding, a honeymoon, appliances... whatever. But if I were them, I would do a quick ceremony at church, then start looking at real estate.


28 posted on 06/15/2006 12:10:44 PM PDT by inkling
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To: JoanneSD

Elopements are looked down upon in some ethnic communities......


29 posted on 06/15/2006 12:10:44 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: dfwgator
Weddings aren't for the bride or groom, they are for the mother of the bride. And the Father OTB to "complain" about the costs........
30 posted on 06/15/2006 12:11:46 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: morans14

With Elvis or BY Elvis?..........


31 posted on 06/15/2006 12:12:24 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: JZelle
My wife and I married almost a year ago - July 29th.

My wife is very frugal with money, so we shopped around for deals and made cuts here and there. For example, the reception hall was going to charge us $65/head for dinner, but we negotiated it down to $45/head by reducing the 5-hour open bar to 1 hour and making it a buffet-style dinner instead of waiter served.

For flowers, we went to a wholesaler instead of a private florist and made our own bouquets and centerpieces.

For the limo, my brother-in-law had a friend whose family owns a funeral parlor, so we got to use the limo for free (just had to tip the driver).

There's lots of ways to save for weddings.
32 posted on 06/15/2006 12:12:27 PM PDT by CT-Freeper (Said the perpetually dejected Mets fan.)
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To: RMDupree

Wow... $20+Kilodollars for a one day party?

That just strikes me as silly. Just starting out a life together and the first thing you do is pour a nice nest egg down the drain.


33 posted on 06/15/2006 12:12:46 PM PDT by Ramius (Buy blades for war fighters: freeper.the-hobbit-hole.net --> 1400 knives and counting!)
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To: JZelle
A shared six-pack and a couple of lobster can be just an intimate and memorable.
34 posted on 06/15/2006 12:14:22 PM PDT by Pukin Dog (Sans Reproache)
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To: JZelle

Cost of fancy pants weddings is up.

You can still do it for the cost of a liscense.


35 posted on 06/15/2006 12:16:27 PM PDT by TASMANIANRED (The Internet is the samizdat of liberty..)
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To: JZelle

I got married in March at a small chapel for about $500, and that included two nights in a cabin. My wife and I agreed spending a large amount on a ceremony was a bad idea.


36 posted on 06/15/2006 12:16:29 PM PDT by LanPB01
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To: eraser2005

I got married 9 years ago and spent under $3,000 total with over 100 guests. We sat down and figured out our circumstances and what we could use in our favor to save costs. We did that and it worked beautifully.


37 posted on 06/15/2006 12:17:54 PM PDT by twigs
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To: JZelle

$1500 Canadian, that was in 2000... pretty cheap, more like $700 USD then, my wife planned all of it... She's the CGA of the house.


38 posted on 06/15/2006 12:18:21 PM PDT by MD_Willington_1976
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There's no evidence that a big, fancy wedding does any more to solemnize the occasion than a simple garden wedding.

I would go as far as to say that people who spend more than they can comfortably afford put themselves in a HUGE bind to start the marriage out.

Sex and money are the 2 biggest reasons for divorce. Why exacerbate either?

39 posted on 06/15/2006 12:18:59 PM PDT by freedumb2003 (The Left created, embraces and feeds "The Culture of Hate." Make it part of the political lexicon!)
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To: PeterFinn

I wonder if, at these prices, it would be just as cheap to charter a small jet and fly your guests to someplace where you could get cheap catering, hall rental, etc.


40 posted on 06/15/2006 12:19:55 PM PDT by posterchild (Fresh out of compassion, how about some limited government.)
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"Truth be told, we (she and her boyfriend) avoid the topic of walking down the aisle because it is so inextricably tied up with gross, conspicuous consumption," she writes, adding, "Anyway, I just don't like him that much. There's always a chance somebody better will come along, and I'd hate to be stuck with this yutz."
41 posted on 06/15/2006 12:20:09 PM PDT by Tax-chick (I am not singing to get to the end of the song.)
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To: Ramius

There are people who sit less than 20 feet away from me at work who have spent double that on their weddings. (And two of them have since divorced.)

What a waste of money. Sheesh. *shakes head*


Let's just have a party, OK? You get the kegs and I'll get the food. ;-)


42 posted on 06/15/2006 12:20:17 PM PDT by RMDupree (HHD: Join the Hobbit Hole Troop Support - http://freeper.the-hobbit-hole.net/)
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To: Red Badger

Elvis gave me away and sang afterwards. It was at the Graceland Wedding Chapel and as our lovely parting gift, we got an official replica of Elvis & Priscilla's marriage license. What a fun time.


43 posted on 06/15/2006 12:20:24 PM PDT by morans14
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To: JZelle
Cost of fancy pants weddings is up.

You can still do it for the cost of a license.
44 posted on 06/15/2006 12:20:53 PM PDT by TASMANIANRED (The Internet is the samizdat of liberty..)
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Only $289!

45 posted on 06/15/2006 12:22:53 PM PDT by uglybiker (Don't blame me. I didn't make you stupid.)
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I have a recent experience with this as a Best Man (yes, someone was naieve enough to extend me that honor).

Approximately 300 guests. Surf and Turf dinner. Open full bar for 4 hours. International coffee bar. DJ. Photgrapher hired for 3 hours. Massive reception hall at a 4 star hotel on the water. 3 Limo's to carry folks 4 blocks from the Church to the hotel. Hotel rooms and airfare paid for Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, and a few other folks.

I'm guessing this thing topped 40k.

We had a blast; just glad I didn't have to have something this extravagent.

46 posted on 06/15/2006 12:23:29 PM PDT by Sam's Army (Back to lurking...)
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To: morans14

Was Elvis still alive at the time? Pre 8-77?......


47 posted on 06/15/2006 12:23:29 PM PDT by Red Badger (Liberals ignore criminal behavior, reward sloth and revere incompetence...........)
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To: Red Badger

Are you cleaning your shotgun? :)


48 posted on 06/15/2006 12:24:20 PM PDT by linda_22003
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To: Red Badger

No it was 1998. The impersonater was a "dead ringer" for the King. He sang well too.


49 posted on 06/15/2006 12:25:32 PM PDT by morans14
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To: JZelle

Egads, have you seen that tv show, "My Sweet Sixteen"? We're talking hundreds of thousands for some clueless rich kid's birthday party.

I was just telling my teens our wedding cost less than $500, including my gown and Mr. M's suit, shoes, rice, preacher, cake, flowers, invitations, and renting a beautiful Victorian B&B. Thankfully, the kids agreed weddings now days are too far out there and one said she's always wanted to get married outside - pretty and free.


50 posted on 06/15/2006 12:25:34 PM PDT by mtbopfuyn (I think the border is kind of an artificial barrier - San Antonio councilwoman Patti Radle)
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