Most parishes use that form; "for us, and for our salvation". It was part of the PC changes a few years ago, which, I hope will be going the way of the geese with the new Liturgical Norms approved by Pope Benedict. I've continued to say "for us MEN and for our salvation", the whole time, as do many around me, during Mass. I've never thought that anything that says "men" during Mass excludes me, and anyone who does is just WAY too sensitive about it.
Not in my town. Only the one dingbat priest has used it, that I've heard. And in the last few years I've gone to mass in Laramie WY, Nebraska, Topeka KS, KC MO, LA, Tucson, and few others. I'm happy to report no dropping of "men". :o)