Skip to comments.A Question of Manliness
Posted on 07/12/2006 10:39:54 AM PDT by Syco
There is, apparently, a resurgence of manliness in America. Superman has returned to the big screen and unshaven, testosterone-charged film stars such as Colin Farrell no longer look socially marginalised.
The A To Z Of Manliness, a compendium of tips on such matters as how to punch properly, is number two on the New York Times bestseller list, while a rash of academic books on the importance of real men have added fuel to the fire. The Boston Globe recently summed up the phenomenon: "We're in the middle of a Menaissance."
It is the atavistic desire to provide for those you love that forms the basic building block of manliness. It has existed since the physically stronger sex travelled the plains in search of meat for the family and it continued until the rise of feminism in the 1960s, a movement which would have us believe that men and women are biological and emotional clean slates, each possessed of identical and interchangeable faculties when it comes to work, life and family.
This is the lunacy that allows women fighter pilots to get aloft even though a man is more effective in combat because his stronger frame better protects him from G-forces. It is the feminist orthodoxy that renders my wife faintly embarrassed when she owns up to being a housewife. It is the notion that children do not need fathers.
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As a man in his mid-thirties who is trying to raise three young boys I pray that his general theory of a "Menaissance" is correct. Our culture has suffered for decades under the unrealistic and suffocating theories of radical feminism and it has led to a breakdown of male responsibilty in large sectors of our culture.
Perhaps men and women should be seen as political equals but that doesn't mean that we're the SAME. Men are better at some things than women! Women are better at some things than men! Any honest observer of humanity could tell you this if they'd take off the politically correct blinders.
As a man, I know more and more other guys who are slowly saying enough is enough. We're angry and we're beginning to demand changes. We love our wives and we don't blame women in general. We blame the institutions (our churches, schools, government, and media) that have cemented the worst of radical feminism in our culture. We're no longer willing to allow those institutions to tell us how to live and how to raise our families.
As one example, I meet with a group of men from my church every other Monday for a men's small group. Our church is dominated by a simpering metrosexual pastor (who hails from Europe) who has dismantled every mens ministry opportunity in our congregation over the past three years while simultaneously expanding an already robust womens ministry. This despite the fact that I, and several other men, have volunteered to take the ball and run with it to breathe new life into our mens ministries. All of the guys (save one) in my group are fed up, and we're ready to walk. We're not leaving Christianity or the church in general, but we are looking for a new church home where we will be allowed to be men.
I know that this is sort of a rant and I apologize, but I'm tired of being told that I'm wrong for wanting to be a MAN. Not a macho idiot, but a MAN! A man who wants to love and protect his wife and raise up a strong family. I simply thought that this article was well written and offers a glimpse of hope for men and manliness on this side of the Atlantic. I do feel sorry for the poor Brits though.
I like your post Syco. Feminist, many years ago, went from wanting to be able to do more in society to now wanting to have their cake and eat it too. Being manly is a good thing. Being manly doesn't mean that you go around picking on people and acting like a jerk. But that is how feminists today would have us believe. Being manly is just giving in to your natural way of behaving as a man. Of course there is the violent and angry side of being a man but that's what your father is there for, to teach you how to be responsible and deal with the aggression.
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Get together with the rest of the congregation, put up a petion to remove the pastor and take a vote. Take your church back.
Or maybe you could have a couple o' guys "talk" to him and beat the crap out of him.
(The Palestinian terrorist regime is the crisis and Israel's fist is the answer.)
REAL MEN don't act impulsively, they plan things out. An unfortunate accident could perhaps befall the pastor.
I haven't read the article yet, but may I just say on behalf of the Women of the United States: THANK GOD!
...testosterone-charged film stars such as Colin Farrell...Bad example.
If you want to show your sons what real men ought to be, tell them about Rick Rescorla.
If you want to show your sons what real men ought to be, tell them about Rick Rescorla.
Exactly! Feminists want men to feel guilty for being men. They've had the bullhorn for a long time and they have told us all that being a man means that you're a jerk, a caveman, or a bully. That's not the case. CS Lewis, George Washington, Ronald Reagan, St. Paul. These are my heroes. These are men! These guys were NOT jerks, or bullies, or cavemen. They were men who understood that to BE a man meant taking responsibilty and being willing to sacrifice for your family and your community.
I love it when liberals make the obvious seem foreign and in need of study. When common sense human nature is a surprise and news that must be reported.
You're very right. Sounds like a much better plan.
"I love it when liberals make the obvious seem foreign and in need of study."
Ah, yes, the "National Geographic" effect.
Okay, given! Still, despite his gay term he's got a pretty good point.
When my husband (active duty AF at the time) came home from Gulf War on the underside of the toliet seat I had taken a magic marker and written:
IT'S SO NICE TO HAVE A MAN AROUND THE HOUSE
there's got to be some middle ground tho. manliness is nice, but with a feminine side. i'm one of the odd ones who has no middle ground but embodies both extremes. i spent 9 years taking ballet, i spend extra time picking out clothes, matching them, making sure they're pressed, i'm cleanshaven across most of my body, and wear a good deal of jewelery. but i love taking my jeeps out and playing in the mud, i hunt, i camp, i ride motorcycles.
i'm the guy that proves that men can do anything women do (except have kids) only better :)
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With women, the few women who were turned off, were the type you really didn't want to hang around with anyways. With men, well ALL men respect a manly man, even the geeks and nerds. Employers, I find, prefer manly men as well. Heck, DOGS AND CATS prefer manly guys, its just natures way..
Amen, Sister Polly, and preach on!! Give me a man who knows how to use his fists in a fight -- and can grin when he's doing it.
Here's a guiding principle for you, boy:
"What Would John Wayne Do?"
Answer that, and you'll know what "manliness" is.
PS: You get it from doing it, not from praying for it.
Also one of my heroes, But I'll stick with WWJD. He was the ULTIMATE man.
a rat is a dog is a pig is a feminist (with profound apologies to rats, dogs and pigs).
Bubba? You mean Billy Jeff Clinton? I couldn't agree more!
I have this horrid mental picture of a bunch of flaming Morfordite fags prancing about singing "It's Raining Men" and proclaiming themselves a "Menaissance" ...
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The writer is forgetting, ignoring or is totally ignorant of the fact that most of our gender roles such as showing emotion (typical of women) or not showing it (men), leadership (men) and self sacrifice (women) are conditioned into us when we were young babies and children. In other words, our gender traits are mostly cultural, not biological. Take the social conditioning out of the story of men and women and you would find very little difference between the sexes.
Men have much stronger position socially when they own property and earn more than women. They are now making noise as they don't want to lose this position.
- Carmel Meehan, London
Sums up the Left's worldview nicely - it's all about the feminization of the Marxist class struggle. That's why the "feminists have to stop..." lines we keep seeing in all of these articles miss the point - the perpetrators fo these societal trends are trying to destroy our society and replace it with a Marxist one.
Yeah, I hate that too.
I saw it and just rolled my eyes. The Left will NEVER get it. They are the problem in a nutshell.
Don't you mean:
asbestos panties *on* ?
>>> We're in the middle of a Menaissance
That's the gayest thing I've heard since they coined the term "metrosexual."
I agree men don't need a name for how they are... we are just men
I agree. I have had a mustache since I was 16. I only cut it off in boot camp. I have had a beard since I was in the Navy.
hey Syco, lighten up. Get over it, already. You've been a man all your life, you don't need nobody to tell you, affirm you, validate you, or otherwise replace your own absolute truth of this eternal fact with their own bullshit.
Fire in the belly, hombre... and while you're at it, watzzup wit dat tag (syco)???
Rick Rescorla was a giant among men.
This at least is not the case - women tolerate G-forces better than men, although they seem somewhat more susceptible to long-term medical side effects such as hemorrhoids. (Sorry - inelegant but a fact). Men tend to be better fighter pilots because men are more aggressive, more prone to combat in the absence of a direct threat to, say, an offspring. Individual performances may vary, of course.
That said, I do agree with the author that some resurgence of attention on the cultural phenomenon of manliness is taking place. I do not think we are ever likely to reach a consensus between the sexes as to what, precisely, that consists of, nor do I think it would be any fun if we did.
The author reflects that there may be a difference between European and American cultures in the overt signs of this characteristic - no kidding. This accounts for part of the common European view that Americans are arrogant, IMHO - as President Bush remarked about his swagger, "In Texas we call that 'walking'."
I have seen soccer players kiss one another on the field after a goal, to cite a rather trite example, but I don't recall seeing that in American football. Well, OK, maybe the Raiders... ;-)
The article is pretty good too. Whole thing reminds me of our man John Wayne.
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I'm not worried about me. I know who I am and I don't need validation from anybody. I'm a guy and I like it. I worry about my kids. My sons are just entering school and they have to put up with a ton of crap from the Looney Left about alternative lifestyles. I had to explain to my four year old yesterday why he couldn't bring a flourescent green squirt gun to school with him because there are some people who are just paranoid and nutty in this world. I want my sons to be comfortable being guys and it pisses me off that they're being told by so many "institutions" that there's something wrong with that.
And the tag... let's just say it fits me.
It is fascinating how the left operates, on the one hand, they want to say that boys are boys and girls are girls because they have been RAISED that way, and yet, when it comes to homosexuality, they claim those people were BORN that way. The hipocracy is striking!
After his role and performance in ALEXANDER I wouldn't cite Colin Farrell as an examplar of manliness.
That new James Bond guy is a man's man though..
Men in America have become "woman-hearted" and they have permitted political corretness to castrate them - present company excluded.
i'm doing my part too -- haven't taken a bath in two weeks and splash bourbon on as cologne to keep the smell down (one swig, two drops splashed, one swig, two drops splashed, *hic*)