Skip to comments.Guys should evolve beyond masculinity
Posted on 10/13/2006 1:25:04 PM PDT by SeenTheLights Mom
Men being Men is a Bad Deal. Guys should Evolve Beyond Masculinity. By Robert Jensen
Sunday, October 8, 2006
It's hard to be a man; hard to live up to the demands that come with the dominant conception of masculinity, of the tough guy.
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Maybe I didn't get it. It seemed to me that the guy was preaching against boorish behavior that passes for machismo, not masculinity. No one likes a jerk who's idea of manhood rests in the notion of who's ass he can kick.
The next time a building is on fire with you in it, I wish a 5'0 80 lbs firefighter woman comes to your rescue. I'm sure you won't diminish her effort and sacrifice to save your butt from the engulfing flames. She might not have the strength of a masculine man, but she possesses the noble human characteristics that will suffice to save you from an imminent death. If in the process she fails, we can all feel proud that men and women are considered equally endowed with comparable traits and characteristics, to the exclusion of important differences.
All jokes aside, I hope masculinity never disappears. Real women like real men, and that means masculine men. I've loved the idea of real men since I was a little girl. No one told me to, it was in my mind and built into my system. Whenever I saw a movie I picked the masculine guy as the guy I liked the most... no wimpies, crybabies, or mama boys, I never liked that.
I don't necessary consider masculine men to be calendar boys with a massive body structure. They are usually gays and they totally turn me off. Sure, a nicely built man is always nice, but more importantly is the way they think, and the way they relate to women. I like guys who are courteous and sweet, as I find that to be totally masculine.
A masculine guy is a man who makes his voice heard, and I don't mean by shouting. He is a man who commands respect, who isn't a henpeck, and who doesn't listen to old ladies tales. Rather, he is able to stand for himself and think for himself. See, effeminate guys love to be around the old biddies for the latest gossip... this reminds me of a hairdresser I had a few years ago who was gay and loved to gossip with the old ladies. A real man doesn't do that.
A masculine man is protective, romantic, and courteous and as the same time tough he doesn't waffle. My idea of masculine man is Donald Rumsfeld (he's old but he still looks good), Bibi Netanyahu, (I love Bibi.) And from the movies... I was a kid when I saw My Fair Lady and fell in love with Rex Harrison, lol, he could've been my grandfather, but I thought he was beautiful and a manly man. Also, when I saw Christopher Plummer in the Sound of Music, oh wow! John Wayne, Steve McQueen, Humphrey Bogart.
I can't think of an actor roughly my age who is a manly man. Leonardo DiCaprio, yikes! Keanu Reeves, double yikes. If we talk of older ones... Tom Cruise, Ben Affleck, Matt Damon, ughhhhh you got to be kidding me. I think Damon is gay and Tom... well...
See, it's hard to measure up with the old timers.... the truly masculine men. I'm not saying there aren't masculine men nowadays, but God forbid they get swept into the current fagginess so prevalent among the elite class and the pseudo intellectuals.
Great! I feel good now. :-)
It's true! LOL
On a similar note, I love truly feminine women. Women who have a good heart and a good mind and who are a compliment to a man rather than a competitor against a man in a relationship. Also, what the hell happened to fashion models? I look at movies from the 1950s and 1960s and see women who are built like women and not stick-thin, hipless waifs. I would much rather see more women look like Anne Margaret rather than Paris Hilton.
No problem! Your last paragraph was great too. The whole metrosexual thing is pretty annoying.
I totally agree with you. And that's my point, you can see the difference between men and women in the old days.
I can't stand it!
Robert Jensen............................George Stephanopoulos
I don't necessary consider masculine men to be calendar boys with a massive body structure. They are usually gays and they totally turn me off.
The words just flow together, don't they?
I guess Friday the 13th works for me, LOL.
That was truly an inspired post.
Bush would kick Kerry's ass on a Mountain Bike.
The November 2005 issue of "Mountain Bike" magazine has an article where some of the writers/editors of that mag went mountain biking with Bush.
Resting heart rate in the 50's. He smoked' em.
Well, after reading Jensen's article, it just came easily.
I think being basically honest and realistic with yourself is essential to any kind of fulfillment in life. You have clarity on this issue and that is very rare.
You got that right. That's a good point.
It's true, it's true.
Full Disclosure: can you name a male leading actor of yesteryear who sets your heart aflame (or would, if he were that age today...)?
OK . . . That was truly an inspired post. ;-)
Even for a guy that's just nasty. So much muscle that the range of motion is crippled ? Too much.
Personally, I blame the hippies (Why not? It isn't as though they are going to stand-up and fight the accusation). All those dudes wearing their hair like women and getting "in touch with mother nature".
Yeah, and Roger Moore, I think he was great, too.
LOL, thanks AC.
Another thing about modern culture...
What happened to feminine beauty? Women like Raquel Welch could wear a bulky jumpsuit and still be gorgeous because she had confidence that she was beautiful. Today, actresses (and many young women today), for the most part, seem to think that having atrificial enhancements and showing acres of skin are the definition of beauty. A woman's beauty comes from confidence - confidence that she is beautiful.
Also, a woman's beauty comes from her mind and her abilities. For me, I would be seriously "turned-on" by a woman who can discsuss the Austrian school of economics (among other topics) and cook. Heck, I'd walk on coals for a woman who could cook from scratch (a skill that I greatly admire). Also, a woman's beauty comes from having a good heart and, for me, a wickedly-good sense of humour.
That's an excellent point.
Heck, I'd walk on coals for a woman who could cook from scratch (a skill that I greatly admire).
Uh oh, that's not so good... how about frozen dinner? LOL!
Bonus points if you can name the person!
As long as it is hot when it hits the plate...
My heart flutters... :)
Whew!!! OK, hahaha.
One of my favorites! I want the truck from the video!
Oh, boy -- what an appropriate song . . . from the "anti-metrosexual" of country music. LOL!
Do you have "Should Have Been a Cowboy?"
Let me check.
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I got to meet this gentleman today, and he was talking about how nice it was to see young people showing an interest in country music, especially classic country music.