Skip to comments.Boys Will Be Boys
Posted on 10/14/2006 11:06:11 AM PDT by wagglebee
I spent the first 10 years of my life living near my grandparents and my father's four younger brothers. I heard dozens of tales about the escapades of those five Shaw brothers; from the accounts, my dad and his brothers certainly fit the description given of boys by one psychologist who called boys little aggression machines.
The mischief of my dad and his brothers was tolerated (and often encouraged) by my grandfather, but he also established boundaries and meted out decisive punishment when the boys found ways to sneak around the rules. In the process of taming those troublemakers, while cherishing their masculinity, my grandfather taught them how to become men. Each of the four older ones volunteered for service in WWII in different branches of the service, thus becoming members of the greatest generation. These fine men illustrate that the liberals lie when they say that such boys will become abusive and controlling as adult men.
There is more and more research indicating that my fathers and uncles development, under the watchful eye and Godly guidance of my grandfather, was just the way its supposed to be confirmed from the neurological patterns to the hormonal testing, from the psychological analyses to the behavioral studies. And a wide variety of authors are addressing the issue. James Dobson wrote Bringing Up Boys. Christina Hoff Sommers wrote The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism is Harming Our Young Men. Stephen Rhoads wrote Taking Sex Differences Seriously. The common theme of these books is that sex differences are hard-wired into human beings and that culture and nurturing have only minor influence on the development of those traits typically associated with masculinity and femininity.
Despite the overwhelming evidence that boys ought to be allowed to be boys, efforts to make little boys more feminine have become part of the national culture and accepted policy. Formal efforts can be traced from the passage in 1994 of the Gender Equity in Education Act. This legislation poured many hundreds of millions of dollars into efforts to end so-called bias against girls. Sadly, the evidence of bias was based on a study from the early 1980s. It was soundly discredited only after it had been widely accepted as fact and after having made headlines in the major media, creating a massive policy response that continues today. In spite of its blatant falsehoods, the findings of that long-ago flawed study are still part of conventional wisdom.
Today, while many of the gender stereotypes that caused problems for girls are now reversed, the emphasis has swung so far in the opposite direction that we are seeing equal problems today for boys. As a consequence, boys are falling further and further behind girls in academic achievement, and more and more of them are growing up uncertain about how to express their masculinity.
Worse still is that the submerged, but testosterone-fueled, maleness of young boys deprived of positive role models of disciplined, restrained manhood can explode in the horrific ways they continually hear described in misogynist rap music and see vividly depicted in violent movies and on television. Little wonder, then, that little boys who grow up without fathers turn into predatory males who give women good reason to fear and loathe.
Far from providing solutions to the problem of male aggressiveness through the proper socialization that has occurred for centuries in the bosom of marriage and family, the feminist vision, which goes completely against nature, is a recipe for disaster. Foolish feminism includes encouraging females to act like aggressive, promiscuous and uncommitted males à la the still-popular (especially among teens and young adults) reruns of television shows like Sex in the City and Friends. At the same time, those same foolish feminists argue that women are not inherently vulnerable; they pretend that they dont have to protect themselves from the violence engendered among boys and men who have been raised without male socialization or role models.
All this would be laughable and absurd were it not for the disastrous effects produced in the United States and throughout the Western world as a consequence of this vision. There is nothing wrong with masculine gentleness, compassion and tenderness; likewise, there is nothing wrong with teaching boys to be kind, considerate and thoughtful. And there is definitely nothing wrong with masculinity (boys being boys and men being men) or with femininity (girls being girls and women being women). At the same time, there is nothing wrong with competitiveness or aggressiveness within bounds. For girls as well as boys, those qualities are essential for leadership and for achieving ones goals.
I have four boys and a step-son. My wife has been shocked at how physical they are. We just got married. I tell her she better just get used to it.
Thank God my older relatives put up with some of the mischief I got into when I was a boy. They let me know when I was wrong, but they never tried to regiment me or make me play with dolls.
Knowing my own stubbornness, that never would have worked anyway, but it would have made for a miserable childhood.
He is 35 now and the rules that he imposes on his kids are are tougher than I imposed on him, male children need limits, not everything goes.
Woe be onto the child who is diagnosed with Y chromosome syndrome.
"male children need limits, not everything goes."
all children need limits.
A short article about raising boys.
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Here's my favorite essay about Boys will be boys
What is a Boy?
You can absolutely rely on a boy if you know what to expect.
A boy is natures answer to the false belief that there is no such thing
as perpetual motion.
The world is so full of boys that it is impossible to touch off a
firecracker, strike up a band or pitch a ball without collecting a
thousand of them.
Boys are not ornamental, they're useful.
If it were not for boys, the newspapers would go undelivered and unread
and a hundred thousand picture shows would go bankrupt.
The boy is a natural spectator; he watches parades, fires, fights,
football games, automobiles and planes with equal fervor.
However, he will not watch a clock.
A boy is a piece of skin stretched over an appetite.
However, he eats only when hes awake.
Boys imitate their Dads in spite of all the efforts to teach them good
Boys are very durable.
A boy, if not washed too often and if not kept in kept in a cool quiet
place after each accident , will survive broken bones, hornets nests,
swimming holes and five helpings of pie.
Boys love to trade things. They'll trade fishhooks, marbles, broken
knives and snakes for anything that is priceless or worthless.
When he grows up, he'll trade puppy love, energy, warts, bashfulness and
a cast-iron stomach for a bay window, pride, ambition, pretense and a
bald head and will immediately say that; boys aren't what they used to
be in the good old days.
Great essay! I have three sons. That description fits.
It fits my two boys and 35 Cub Scouts perfectly.
We took the family to Washington DC. My wife and I and the older girls were dragging. We tried, but could not wear the boys down.
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