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James Dobson: Two Mommies Is One Too Many
Time Magazine ^ | December 11, 2006 | JAMES C. DOBSON

Posted on 12/11/2006 3:55:47 PM PST by RWR8189

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To: All
He admits single parents rise to the challenge but attacks Cheney and Poe as evidently being incapable of doing likewise.

"What is ideal" is exceedingly rare even among his two-parent heterosexual couples. As soon as folks decided to open the door to fertility medicine including in-vitro, all bets were off. Gov't has no authority to determine who can reproduce and who cannot. It's a double-edge sword. There are "welfare queens" who shouldn't, crack whores who produce damaged children without any concern, murderous "postpartum depression" witches who escape justice, convicted child molesters... and yet Dobson wants a devoted couple with ample means to be unable to bring up a child. How would he accomplish this?

You can advocate against it or any consequential activity but how it is there's never any alternative offered beyond submitting to a kind of brainwashing to "fix" one's sexuality? Want to give a displaced child a home? Not if you're homosexual. Want to teach? Not if you're homosexual. Want to reproduce? Not if you're homosexual. Want to devote your life to another? Not if you're homosexual.

Without affirming alternatives in keeping with the American spirit of valuing life and liberty how do you hope to inspire or persuade to your viewpoint?

The process ex-reverand Haggard is undertaking with his counselors, shrinks and lie detector tests would be unacceptable to every American in his own life and yet so many would say to their homosexual child or neighbor, "That's what you should do!" The same folk who are greatly skeptical of modern psychology and rightly dismissive of its claimed ability to deal with child predators somehow are ready to swallow whole the idea of a malleable homosexual-to-heterosexual identity, a rewriting of self at a fundamental level.

261 posted on 12/13/2006 12:38:16 AM PST by newzjunkey (Prepare Now! - Coming 1-20-09, President Rodham. Gee Thanks W!)
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To: oceanview
Dobson, and a team of freepers, are going to lead a special forces squad to capture the Mary Cheney baby.

Sounds like a future South Park episode!

262 posted on 12/13/2006 12:39:45 AM PST by newzjunkey (Prepare Now! - Coming 1-20-09, President Rodham. Gee Thanks W!)
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To: All; HaveHadEnough
Mr. Dobson makes very good points. The remedy is to take the children born under circumstances such as Cheney's and let mother-father couples adopt them.

Would you have advocated Mary being taken from Lynn and Dick Cheney when it became evident she had lesbian inclinations? She could've been sent off to a reparatory therapy reeducation camp then turned over to a mother-father couple who was not as defective as the Cheneys must've been by causing a lesbian daughter.

263 posted on 12/13/2006 12:58:58 AM PST by newzjunkey (Prepare Now! - Coming 1-20-09, President Rodham. Gee Thanks W!)
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To: Right_in_Virginia
My question is: should we encourage or embrace homosexual parenting? Is this how we want to define our society?

If we really believe in individual liberty, what choice is there to do otherwise? The alternative in post #76 to forcibly remove children from homosexual couples, including Poe + Cheney is an affront to fundamental American values.

264 posted on 12/13/2006 1:09:16 AM PST by newzjunkey (Prepare Now! - Coming 1-20-09, President Rodham. Gee Thanks W!)
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To: Marysecretary

A friend of mine was killed in an accident and left behind his one year old son and wife. What would you tell her? You can't have your son, give it to a two-parent heterosexual couple? Hurry up and find a new daddy for the boy?


265 posted on 12/13/2006 1:19:38 AM PST by newzjunkey (Prepare Now! - Coming 1-20-09, President Rodham. Gee Thanks W!)
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To: Burkean
Why even bring Cheney's name into an argument about the disintegrating families that come from divorce.

Of course, you have this backwards. He brought divorce into an argument that already included Cheney's name. He's doing exactly what you CLAIM to be doing - trying to spur discussion about how society at large has failed our children. You just don't like the way he's doing it. That's your prerogative. As I've said before, however, it seems you have fewer problems with the words he SAYS than with the words you would put in his mouth.
266 posted on 12/13/2006 4:55:37 AM PST by beezdotcom
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To: newzjunkey
A friend of mine was killed in an accident and left behind his one year old son and wife. What would you tell her? You can't have your son, give it to a two-parent heterosexual couple? Hurry up and find a new daddy for the boy?

Get real. How about reading Dobson's words, instead of the ones you keep putting in his mouth?

He's saying that it's not in the best interests of children (or society) to deliberately keep creating these single parent situations. Unless your friend's wife deliberately killed him, I don't think Dobson is talking about her.
267 posted on 12/13/2006 5:00:02 AM PST by beezdotcom
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To: beezdotcom

I'm just trying to bring the real world into his argument, if he is looking for a solution/compromise. Statistics I read suggest that most households consist of people who are not married. Some common ground has to be found in my opinion. As an example, a friend of mine had her first child at 41 after getting married (for the first time) at 40. I was discussing children with a young female college student who had had two children in high school. She asked me why my friend waited so long to have a baby. I said "Well, she didn't get married until she was 40." The girl's response was a confused "So?" And she really didn't get it, the idea of waiting until marriage to have a baby just didn't make a connection in her young mind, not even as a quaint custom of times gone by. It is that type of mindset that I think we need to reach, and I don't see Dobson's argument doing that. Of course his intent may be "preaching to the choir".


268 posted on 12/13/2006 6:39:49 AM PST by Burkean
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To: Burkean
I'm just trying to bring the real world into his argument, if he is looking for a solution/compromise....Some common ground has to be found in my opinion.

It is your type of mindset that I think we need to reach. Moral compromising has gotten us exactly where we are. THAT is the "real world". Being reluctant to 'articulate standards of behavior for fear of alienating others', or 'worrying about slippery slopes not even built' is part of the problem, not the solution.

Of course his intent may be "preaching to the choir".

*sigh*...you need go no further than the first sentence of the article to determine his "intent":
A number of social conservatives, myself included, have recently been asked to respond to the news that Mary Cheney, the Vice President's daughter, is pregnant with a child she intends to raise with her lesbian partner.
In short, I don't think his intent is to proffer unsolicited pablum that satisfies only those too "egalitarian" to articulate any view of right and wrong. I think his intent is to state his belief about the situation IN QUESTION, and his opinion about what has led society's children to this dilemma. To obfuscate his thesis with pleasantries designed to reach "certain mindsets" would probably muddy it sufficiently that they would miss the point anyway.

And she really didn't get it, the idea of waiting until marriage to have a baby just didn't make a connection in her young mind, not even as a quaint custom of times gone by.

At which point, I'm sure you dropped the conversation, wanting to maintain that "common ground" - ground which, at this rate, may never witness a single incursion.
269 posted on 12/13/2006 7:13:34 AM PST by beezdotcom
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To: beezdotcom

Actually I told the girl that in my day, and among the people with whom I am friends, and according to the teachings of my church, one waited until AFTER marriage to have a child. The girl looked at me like I was describing life on another planet.

I guess insofar as Dobson's goal is to merely state his beliefs and not actually call for any kind of action he did accomplish that. Maybe that is all that can be done now, to be a voice in the wilderness. He is not a poltician, is not trying to enter the conversation of public policy, but is reinforcing the strength of his flock.


270 posted on 12/13/2006 9:37:49 AM PST by Burkean
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To: newzjunkey

This is NOT what he is advocating and neither would I. I was a single mother for a time and God expected me to raise my children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, which I tried to do. Single parenting is rough and a mother who has no husband needs to find a good male role model for her children, just as a father who has no wife needs to find a good female role model for his children. Men need to mentor boys and women need to mentor girls to give them a balance. I'm not talking about running out and finding a husband or a wife. I'm talking about having a man or woman in your life, perhaps an uncle, brother, sister, father, mother, etc. (or a decent neighbor or church friend) who can help mentor a child, include him or her in their activities, take them places with their own children. It CAN be done. People need to help one another like we used to years ago.


271 posted on 12/13/2006 9:58:08 AM PST by Marysecretary (GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.)
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To: newzjunkey

This is NOT what he is advocating and neither would I. I was a single mother for a time and God expected me to raise my children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, which I tried to do. Single parenting is rough and a mother who has no husband needs to find a good male role model for her children, just as a father who has no wife needs to find a good female role model for his children. Men need to mentor boys and women need to mentor girls to give them a balance. I'm not talking about running out and finding a husband or a wife. I'm talking about having a man or woman in your life, perhaps an uncle, brother, sister, father, mother, etc. (or a decent neighbor or church friend) who can help mentor a child, include him or her in their activities, take them places with their own children. It CAN be done. People need to help one another like we used to years ago.


272 posted on 12/13/2006 9:58:19 AM PST by Marysecretary (GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.)
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To: Torie

He's against homosexuality because God calls it an abomination. It's not God's finest plan for our lives. He created Adam and Eve to be parents, not Adam and Steve or Mary and Annie. He's not against HER, but against her lifestyle choice. If she came to him and asked for help, I KNOW he would help her. It's not that she's a single parent. It's that she's in a homosexual relationship and having a child being brought up by two mommies.


273 posted on 12/13/2006 10:15:47 AM PST by Marysecretary (GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.)
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To: Responsibility2nd
I'd like to answer the questions posed in the second post.

And I suppose you think fatherless homes are a good idea?

I think it's a good idea for loving couples, including same-sex ones, to bring children into the world and raise them in a nurturing household. It's just as good an idea for same-sex couples as it is for opposite-sex ones. I do not believe that children brought up in these families will be crippled or disadvantaged in any way; if they are brought up with care, patience, and love, they will have every opportunity to be happy and successful.

Here are a couple of links that provide information to rebut some of Mr. Dobson's points. They are from the website of Equality Maryland, for which I volunteer. I am sure many here will not think highly of an organization like Equality Maryland, but they would probably not like any entity that was on the other side of this issue. I only ask that you read the material with patience and an honest attempt to understand the points -- just as I did with Mr. Dobson's article, even though I could not disagree with him more. Here are the links:

Arguments Against Gay Parenting, And Why They're Wrong

Statements on Same-Sex Parenting from Child Welfare Experts

And no problems with lesbian lovers having children?

I have no problem with it, obviously. As I said, I believe they can raise a happy and successful child, and I think that's a good outcome, compared to them having no child at all.

I probably will not be returning to this board frequently to rebut anyone who rebuts me, so there's a good chance you'll get the last word if you choose to respond. Just try to be fair. :)
274 posted on 12/14/2006 8:06:00 AM PST by kdogg36
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