Skip to comments.Casual sex is a con: women just aren't like men
Posted on 01/15/2007 8:04:12 AM PST by shrinkermd
The Sixties generation thought everything should be free. But only a few decades later the hippies were selling water at rock festivals for $5 a bottle. But for me the price of free love was even higher.
I sacrificed what should have been the best years of my life for the black lie of free love. All the sex I ever had and I had more than my fair share far from bringing me the lasting relationship I sought, only made marriage a more distant prospect...
And I am not alone. Count me among the dissatisfied daughters of the sexual revolution, a new counterculture of women who are realising that casual sex is a con and are choosing to remain chaste instead.
I am 37, and like millions of other girls, was born into a world which encouraged young women to explore their sexuality. It was almost presented to us as a feminist act. In the 1960s the future Cosmopolitan editor Helen Gurley Brown famously asked: Can a woman have sex like a man? Yes, she answered because like a man, [a woman] is a sexual creature. Her insight launched a million 100 new sex tricks features in womens magazines. And then that sex-loving feminist icon Germaine Greer enthused that groupies are important because they demystify sex; they accept it as physical, and they arent possessive about their conquests.
(Excerpt) Read more at timesonline.co.uk ...
The "women are the same as men" feminist lie did great damage to a generation of women. Put it down as one more reason not to trust radical feminist...
"Yeah, too bad about that." --MSM
In 1968, Planned Parenthood and the MSM lied about how "the pill" would liberate women.
In 1968, someone else told the truth.
Consequences of Artificial Methods
17. Responsible men can become more deeply convinced of the truth of the doctrine laid down by the Church on this issue if they reflect on the consequences of methods and plans for artificial birth control. Let them first consider how easily this course of action could open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards. Not much experience is needed to be fully aware of human weakness and to understand that human beingsand especially the young, who are so exposed to temptationneed incentives to keep the moral law, and it is an evil thing to make it easy for them to break that law. Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.
Dawn you ignorant slut.
Good article. As someone right in her age demographic, I totally see how casual sex has seriously, negatively, impacted relationships.
This wrong can be righted, but it will take a concerted effort on the part of both women and men to accept a new "normal."
Normal should not be casual sex as THE major part of loving relationships.
"Born-again former groupie and author of The Thrill of the Chaste Dawn Eden is, stunningly, finding it a bit tough to locate the special someone who deserves her regrown ladytreasure. The problem? Even though "[celibacy] is a state of grace, where nothing penetrates you," sometimes things can get a little out of hand: "Kissing happens." It happens but rarely, though: Dawn does date, but "not very often. And not in a while." So has she been, you know, taking care of her own needs? GOD, no! "From the beginning, when I first started masturbating I always felt depressed afterward. As I drew closer to Catholicism I realized that masturbation was against my faith."
Kissing happens?? I should hope so! Seems that this born again virgin is under the influence of an extremely restrictive religion, and really won't feel happy until we all do like she does.
My name for this kind of person? Neoprude.
Can someone really be named "Dawn Eden"?
Those Brits are all Bangers and Mash.
And the NEA fights hard to exclude suggesting that 13-year olds wait for sex from sex education.
Sex is precious, not something to be shared with hundreds of other people.
Our ancestors, who appear to us to be so prudish, knew far more than some of us do. There are sound reasons for our traditional proscriptions on casual sex, ranging from moral reasons to the acknowledgement of female psychology to the best interests of children to the preservation of society.
All that said, I'm glad Dawn found Christ. She may never find a husband, but she has the best Husband of all.
I totally agree that the 60's were very poisonous to male-female relationships, and posted that here recently, on a thread about the 60's. Women who grew up in that era were sold a bill of goods.
It's not what you do, it's how you make sense of it that matters. She thinks that burrowing into the most sexually repressive Western religion known is the way to wash this off of her conscience. Maybe a few hundred bucks worth of sessions with a good therapist would have helped.
A lot of folks have gotten up at the crack of Dawn.
WOW, what a fascinating piece. I admire her! She finally got it right!
Are we talking cave people here? They didn't even link sex with procreation. Or did it all start at Adam and Eve for you?
She seems to gravitate to extremes. In the article she says she remained a virgin until 23. Then, of course, went bonkers having sex with rock musicians. Now she's turned a 180 again.
100 new sex tricks
As we throw out the bathwater of casual sex, let's try hard to retain these 100 sex tricks, please.
Let me esplain the real facts of life; Many men are happy to find a slut, but never want to marry one. Double standard? Yup, but still a fact of life.
This one is even older: Women need a reason; men need a place.
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