Hypothetical. Someone has a gun to your temple and you are restrained. This person offers to discuss the situation. Are you going to talk to this person just for conversations or are you not hoping to negotiate a way out of him pulling the trigger. Your symantics with the wording is a very weak argument.
No. Your hypothetical is very weak logically. We are not restrained and I see no evidence of negotiation.
When confronted at a meeting by Iranians we could do one of the following.
1.) negotiate, 2.) ignore them or 3.) tell them to quit killing our servicemen and that they will pay for what they have done.
The first option would be inappropriate, and it is my belief that the third option would be more desirable to the second option.