Posted on 05/12/2007 11:43:22 AM PDT by Minn
We thought about the possibility of having a child together in our mid 40’s, until we realized how insane that would be. Chasing a toddler? With our health problems? ROTFLOL! Boy is this idiot in for a surprise....
(Oh yeah, we’d have to get hitched)
No problem,government healthcare!
Why, that’s crazy!
She might be 40, 50 or even 60.
Or 80, or 100, or older than Methuselah!
“I still don’t think having a very old parent is so good for a baby. I wouldn’t want to have a baby any later than my late 40s.”
Never mind . . .
Not everyone enjoys being around little kids. Your friends probably find the thought of having a child for whom they are responsible around all the time very daunting indeed.
Children deserve to be raised by parents, not grandparents.
Why don’t any of these people seem to give a crap about the KIDS? They aren’t pets for God’s sake.
A significant number of FReepers consider a woman who wants to do anything other than get married, have kids, and stay home full time to be selfish. That scenario works for a lot of women and their families, but it’s not for everyone.
She might be 40, 50 or even 60. No matter. Tessa will simply pop along to the "baby bank" where her eggs have been stored in a deep freeze and make a "withdrawal".
An egg will be fertilised and planted into her womb. Nine months later, she hopes, she will give birth to her "ice baby".
Good Grief! This is too much! I'm like impressed! Like Wow!
An "ice queen" with an "ice baby". How appropriate.
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When the kid will be 20 years old she'll be 80 years old.
She's a selfish B!tch. Thinking only of herself with no regard for the offspring.
And furthermoreComments Censoredand that's all I have to say about it!
If she was talking about adoption after she feels her life is settled enough for children, I don’t think you’d be seeing the same reaction here that you’re seeing. Figuring out a way around her biological clock, because she wants what she wants is not about nurturing a child in this world. It is about her & her getting a perfectly matching accessory.
Right. Get an Orgazmatron!
“Michael Douglas was 59 when his daughter was born. Imus is an “old” dad. Larry King is an “old” dad. Why do men get a second chance to be Daddy after they screwed up the first time?”
They can afford the incubators. Your average middle-class 60 year old won’t be snagging Catherine Zeta-Jones anytime soon.
'Cause they were able to find a beautiful woman to have the kid with, that's why. Men's bodies don't have obvious biological clocks. Double-standard again.
Good mercy....what has society wrought?!
I’m saying that the woman obviously isn’t ready for kids. She says she isn’t. She wants to be married before considering getting pregnant. It is acceptable to me that a woman or man who isn’t ready to have children not have them. It doesn’t mean that they are terrible people. It simply means that they don’t feel they are ready to be parents.
I think it is crazy to want to have children at that age. Not only would it be tough to always have the energy to care for them, that is also a time when most people start having health problems of their own.
My version of selfless would include that a parent be willing to sacrifice for someone else, to give something up. It doesn’t seem like this woman is willing to give up her career for an infant. In that case, it is probably wise that she not have a baby.
While I believe it is nuts to have a child at an advanced age, I don’t fault the woman for not having children when she is obviously not ready to care for them.
No, no, I AGREE with you. She is either nuts, or hasn’t thought it through. But her decision to not have children thus far doesn’t make her a bad person. It seems like a lot of Freepers don’t understand that a woman may have other priorities. Once you become a parent, the child is forever your priority. If this woman isn’t ready to be selfless in the sense that she must always consider someone else before herself, then I say she definately shouldn’t be having children.
Solution: Outsource the gestation. Bring over a pre-screened 20-something host mother applicant on an H1B for 11 months. She receives the IVF and lives with the hosts or in a 'managed birth facility' under a regulated diet, daily routine and medical screenings. After the (healthy) baby is delivered she receives a settlement check pro-rated for the condition of the baby, and a plane ticket home. In her homeland all they know is she left for a year to work and returns $20K or so richer which she can use to start her own family if she chooses. For the parents they'll have a new baby, which is their own, without interrupting the parents' career. The mother can take off work to care for the baby or, hire a nurse to continue the baby's development.
Long article to tell me what I needed in the first sentance.
Don’t get the impression that I think woman are just breeding machine. Her decision to put if off is fine, but at sixty she needs to playing golf, not mom.
Sorry. Sometimes people on this site get upset at the thought of a woman deciding not to have kids, and instead work and go to college. In those cases, I’m glad the ladies are mature enough to realize that they aren’t ready for kids. I think this particular lady is nuts, but people who just don’t want kids aren’t necessarily bad people.
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