‘You are not being reasonable or fair, you are just spouting.’
Nope, I’m an employer. And I know better than to have a sexual relationship with an employee of mine.
You want to blame me for pointing out the obvious, no problem. But the fact remains the same.
He says, my girlfriend is one of your current sales managers under your VP of Sales.. You still want to hire him because he is the best for the job and you do, then you decide, it just won't do to have them both working there.
Why you decide this is your own problem but you decide this and begin the process of terminating her. Now, terminating her under these circumstances is spectacularly unfair. It would have been also unfair if you had decided to terminate her before you made him an offer just the same. So you give her a raise and then help her find a comparable situation at a friends company. Situation handled.
How would you do this differently? Not hire the guy? Perhaps, that was the Decision for the World Bank Board, not his. The important difference between him and you having a relationship with an employee is that you are coming from a perspective of his having a choice other than to not accept the job. Is this your point? If immediately on accepting the position he had fired her outright and terminated the relationship, nothing about this situation would change, except she would have several causes of action against the World Bank.
Does this mean that if any two unmarried employees of yours start dating you fire one or both of them? It may be a good plan but I wonder how that would hold up in court. I don't even know if the policy is legal.
Any supervisor who starts a relationship with any subordinate is cause for grave concern and you are on firm ground taking action in this case, but what about to unrelated managers having a relationship. Now you have a promotion decision and this would cause you to place one of these managers in a supervising position over the other. Is it your position you should deny the promotion based this existing relationship? Or is it your position that you have to fire the manager who you are promoting the other over? What if you really need this person in that position because they are the best you can find? You don't want to have the situation where one is supervising the other, so you approach the lower manager with a severance package. Where is the scandal?